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RE: End of a Relationship/Closure/Collar custody? - 5/28/2008 11:55:04 PM

YourhandMyAss

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Put it in the trash an be done with it? Personally if having it bck mattered to him he'da told you how to give it back by now, I wouldn't waste tons of time on it, just ask once or twice then say, ok I asked ya twice and I'll dispose of it how I wish to now.

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Hi ya'll :)

How many attempts do i make? what do I do with it if he doesnt give me the address?
All feedback is greatly apreciated.

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RE: End of a Relationship/Closure/Collar custody? - 5/29/2008 4:25:32 AM

daddysliloneds

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if closure means making the other person feel like shit so you can feel better, then i think it's a cop-out to ask for it; too much of a blame-game factor for something that's already over...

as for the collar, if they don't ask for it back, do whatever you want with it that makes you feel better; be that by putting it on your dog or throwing it in the trash, unless it's a jewelry type of collar, then you could always pawn or sell it and maybe the cash will make you feel better, but to try to track someone down like an animal to give it back is just wrong.

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RE: End of a Relationship/Closure/Collar custody? - 5/29/2008 5:34:28 AM

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Some times closure isn't what you really want, and though at this moment it feels like its the one thing to make the feeling go away. They will still be there after everything is said. The only diffrence is now you have made feelings worse. Closure while feels are still very hot is never safe. Talk a friends ear off until you can't talk about it anymore, write it down, or let it out anyway you need so it isn't botteled up. Then get out and meet new people. These don't have to be new men, since new friends a new out look on life help let things go.

I like the idea of keeping the collar, because one day you will look at it and laugh. You will wonder what you ever saw.

I am not saying you might never get some kind of closure. It just shouldn't be now when you can't see the whole picture, because it is way to close to home.

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RE: End of a Relationship/Closure/Collar custody? - 5/29/2008 9:24:26 AM

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*fast reply* (will catch up to others!)

leatherist..I think you hit it on the head.
That was the problem. Number 1. And the defination between divorced and married but having seperate housing situations.

My bad on that one tho. I should have smelled fishiness with visits were always at motels when I went to visit and never to His house.

and option 3 sounds seller the more I stew. <grins> thank you!

In this situation, it sounds like what you really need is not closure, but for the lies to go away.

That's not possible, hon. He cannot explain the inexplicable.

The only thing I can tell you is that time is your friend... just give this one time. As for the collar? I'd ditch it.

Best wishes.

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RE: End of a Relationship/Closure/Collar custody? - 6/2/2008 7:51:08 PM

natasha66

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Once i had decided once and for all that my previous relationship was completely, irrevocably OVER, and had come to terms with that, i rather unceremoniously tossed mine in the garbage. I have to say, it felt REALLY good

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