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LAPhotogDaddy -> RE: Food and weight control, sadorexia (3/14/2008 1:39:31 PM)
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I have been exposed to this in a multifaceted way over the years due to my profession and the people I work / socialize with and even those I date. I will approach this from a heterosexual, male-dom/female-sub perspective as it is my base of experience, but it could clearly be applied to other types of relationships.
I work in and around the entertainment / modeling / fashion industries. Those industries are full of what many would consider "disordered" eating, certainly by the standards of the average American. Over the past decade, I have worked with hundreds of models and actresses and almost to a person they are obsessively aware of their food intake.
Many girls I've worked with, a few that I have dated, as well as my current girlfriend (of two years) are by ANY standard gorgeous and thin. No one in the world (outside this industry anyway) would tell them they need to lose weight. But the pressures of being an actress in Hollywood, or if you're a model knowing your booker is going to weigh and measure you on a moment's notice, and the natural competition that exists between the women in those industries have many of them in the mental mode of always either wanting to shed a pound or two or aggressively maintain/monitor their weight.
In some cases, most especially where the girl is naturally submissive, these girls delight in a dominant boyfriend who will take this role.
What I would stress is that both sides must be fully on-board with it, and it must fit their respective personalities, and the girls' health must be ensured/protected. If these bases are covered, I think it is perfectly fine and fun activity.
I know of many couples in the industry who have relationships like this - including some very famous names which I'll obviously not mention here - it is not uncommon within this little world. Of course, it ranges greatly along a spectrum from the occasional "honey, don't let me eat that, please!" kind of thing on one side - all the way to full control, monitoring, and reward/punishment routines on the other.
To speak to my current experience, my girlfriend is a gorgeous commercial model who is very thin. She has a weakness for sweets, not the best self-control about food in general, and it's really hard for her to maintain her desired weight without "support". She is also very submissive. You can imagine this fits nicely together for her and for me. We both love it as a game of control, power, of aesthetic refinement, and frankly it helps her career, too.
As Sophia alludes to - the situations I'm talking about are never situations where a girl really needs to lose weight - it's frequently not the point for the sub. And, as Kana points out in his earlier post, it's often not the point for a dom, either. (Or at least, the actual weight loss or weight maintenance plays a bit part in the power exchange.)
There are plenty of fun ways to sexualize this, if appropriate for the relationship, which I won't go into here but some have been alluded to in the thread.
I hope this was helpful, interesting, and non-judgmental.
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