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IronBear -> RE: How can a Master do it? (9/21/2005 3:16:55 PM)
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ORIGINAL: EmeraldSlave2
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ORIGINAL: IronBear
The point is that being a sub and in a D/s relationship, probably has left her more open to hurt than if it had been a vanilla relationship. However without knowing all the facts and other case related material i simply used a generalization which is quite acceptable. I can see where you are comming from ES lass and I dont disagree with you it really is a matter of perspectives.
The problem being you can't really quantify it. Would I feel more loss if my boyfriend died versus my Boston partner versus the Owner versus my mother versus my nephews?
Each have incredibly different connections, but I don't see how I, or anyone external to me, could say that I'd mourn or hurt MORE from any one loss or another just because I happen to be vanilla in some and not vanilla in others.
And I think it's false to say that "submissives" feel things differently than anyone else, it's arrogant and false, even in the modified "versus a vanilla relationship."
I can understand how a specific submissive feels a specific connection with a specific person, and thus feels greater depth of loss in that sense. But again, it's nothing to do with being submissive, simply due to having that specific connection.
ES lass, I do understand your view and I find it most valid, perhaps this is just one of those points which you and I could enjoy debating till the cows come home and later if there were a bottle of old malt scotch in the offering. However we may also just agree to disagree. If I believed I was wrong I'd be the first to tell you so, however I am basing my comment on long experience. It may just be that we do see things differently. I've never been a sub/slave and I dont know how they feel. My knowledge is based on field and clinical experience.
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