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Dmon -> RE: Relationship Between Doms (2/29/2008 1:18:24 PM)
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Well I don't know if posting the same message on different boards is allowed, but it seems wise enough. He wants diferent peoples opinions, from different perspectives. That plus he'll got more advice to process, so he can come up with an educated choice. But that aside...
I"m not a Domme, but it sounds like you two are on the wrong path. You are naturally submissive to her, which helps her covince you to become a Dom. Not the worst thing in the world, but she's already expressed that she wants her man do Dom her. In a sense she's topping from the bottom. She wants you in control, but only her way. Not bad if it works for you, but you wouldn't be here if you didn't have fears.
My suggestion. Try to learn some submissive empathy. You already want to make her happy, but you have to realize she won't be happy till your pulling her strings. I suggest you start calling the pace you learn at. Showing disapproval when she does something you don't like. If she want's to be a sub so damn much, then she needs to think about you first. Tell her that, and if it doesn't work out well that way, maybe you two need to have a talk about whats going on.
Really a Dom or Domme understands that there submissive wants to be put second in alot of things. So put yourself first. Don't think about something you'd both like to do. Think about doing something you'd like to do, and tell her thats what your doing. If she wants to make you happy, then she'll do it. And if she's submissive she'll want to make you happy. Try those hats on.. both of you. One or the other might find they don't like it so much. Then you'll have your answer, and you can find the best path to take.
Hope that helps some. Thought it's really just my 2cents. I know I"m responding on the wrong board, but I really don't want to go look for this anywhere else.
Wondering what I'm doing, always. (my Motto)
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