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RE: I need some advice, please. My bf wants to be a sla... - 3/6/2008 2:41:19 PM   
BlackPhx


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Status: offline 		Hi Peach,

You've gotten some good advice already, and from some pretty smart people. As they said be sure this is something that you want and are comfortable with as well. If you would like some information that can  help you get started there are several books that you might want to get. They can help him define and talk about what he is seeking as well. They are:
The New Topping Book
The Loving Dominant
The New Bottoming Book
Screw the roses Send me the Thorns

poenkitten

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RE: I need some advice, please. My bf wants to be a sla... - 3/6/2008 9:04:17 PM   
HandSolo


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Status: offline 		I scanned the posts, did you ask him what he thinks "being a slave" entails? That'd be a handy bit of information. Compare his desires and limits with yours, see where you both can compromise.

Then handcuff and gag him, and give him what-for with the strap on. Tell him to like it, he's a slave.[/teasing]


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RE: I need some advice, please. My bf wants to be a sla... - 3/8/2008 6:53:46 PM   
johnnyak


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Status: offline 		Dammit....If only i could meet an open minded woman like You! Ah well back to the drawing board for young johnny here

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RE: I need some advice, please. My bf wants to be a sla... - 3/9/2008 4:15:51 AM   
SailingBum


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Status: offline 		The advice posted is great.  I tend to do things a little different.  My current girl of 7 years knew nothing of bdsm. <along with every other girl I have been with>  I explained what I was about. However unlike you I knew what my fav kinks were.  I used her very hard for the first couple of months to see if she could take what I wanted. Yanno don't tell me a long ass story get to the punchline.

BadOne

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RE: I need some advice, please. My bf wants to be a sla... - 3/9/2008 4:26:06 AM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		OP, you're not really "new" are you? You've been here since August 2007 and your profile says that you're a switch. I assume you've read some of the profiles on here, so probably have some idea of what slaves want.

You also say in your profile:  I am new to this and would like to meet someone who is willing to take it slowly.
It looks like you've found that in this guy, so try the little things other posted have mentioned. Increase slowly and gauge his reactions. If he likes it, you'll know!!



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RE: I need some advice, please. My bf wants to be a sla... - 3/11/2008 2:43:29 PM   
ThunderRoad


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Status: offline 		Kick him in the balls and ask him if he wants more. *smirk*

ok ok.   maybe not the best advice.

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RE: I need some advice, please. My bf wants to be a sla... - 3/11/2008 5:47:28 PM   
Urdok


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quote:

ORIGINAL: solvr70

quote:

ORIGINAL: SweetPeach82

No, we don't. But we talked about anal play and he is ok with fingering, but not with full blown anal sex.


so he says. trust me, this is not an easy interest to admit, although he has admitted a lot by coming to You with his interests in the first place.

just go slow. start with a smaller one, but have a few increasing size dildo's that fit into the harness handy. You'll be surprised as how quickly he becomes hooked on being Your b*tch that way. the vac-u-lock system is great as You can move up in size (I.E.-change toys) while leaving one inside him, and not needing to take the harness off while attaching the new one. makes for a quick and easy move to something just a little bit bigger...



Agreed. Honestly, I'd actually recommend starting an anal beginner on a finger sized dildo rather than a finger itself. Fingers are great for play around the outside of the anus, but they have much rougher edges and much less give than something designed for penetration. You might also want to use it outside of it's harness the first few times too. That seems to help alot of men get over the stigma of being penetrated.

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RE: I need some advice, please. My bf wants to be a sla... - 3/11/2008 7:37:20 PM   
MasterBenedict


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Status: offline 		try going to "Literrotica" for the best approaches

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