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LadyHugs -> RE: Men who talk more than women-turn on or off?? (3/1/2008 10:32:07 AM)
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Dear ObediantMan1, Ladies and Gentlemen;
In my personal opinion, men in general are gifted with the 'gab' and 'double speak.' I also feel men use words to attempt to control the floor/air/situation and or others. As others have posted, sometimes a person cannot get a word in edgewise as they are pontificating/preaching.
I proffer this example: Edward Everrett who gave a two hour oration at the commemoration of Gettysburg Battlefield and Cemetery. He was the featured speaker. President Lincoln was invited only out of courtesy and only spoke 272 words, now immortalized as The Gettysburg Address. Everrett's own admission that President Lincoln spoke in fewer words more to the heart of the commemoration then he did in two hours.
I personally dislike men who claim they are submissive; and give me their life's history of conquest and a series of manipulations as to gain his sexual desires and fantasies. I believe it is an assumption that a Dominant like me would see much more into their words. Lack of being discrete is a huge read flag, trying to move the past into the present as to continue the behavior and or attitude. I look at the lack of judgment, as well as a lack of tact. I want to know the man I am conversing with and not his entire history with the other women. Perhaps, this may be wanting to transpose another woman onto me. This will not work. I often dismiss men who have snide remarks, as they most definately will carry on snide remarks to my face, behind my back and or to others that I associate with. Snide remarks have their place. And, I do believe in text form, with the lack of expression--often gives more of an insulting tone, as it is without expression and or one of those smiley icons. Nobody is a mind reader.
I do not wish for a man who talks for the sake of talking. I admit my prejudices, as my mother is in dire need of a gag most of her life. I have never known her to give sound answers but for 2% of her conversations--the rest is just useless noise and annoying. Perhaps this is why I prefer a more military based Dominant-submissive relationship. Make the conversation to the point and not take a long vacation in doing so. The informal relationship between a military officer and their subordinates is very fluid and not entirely rigid however--the authority figure is never forgotten and respect for the rank is constant.
That said, if the conversation is lengthy but full of meat and courteous--I can listen for days, with an ocassional break for food, beverage and body relief. Lengthy posts to which carries a lot of meat into the subject is invited by me. It isn't so much about one person but; of all about the 'all' of us. I like to know how people come to their opinions and their beliefs.
Just some thoughts.
Respectfully submitted for consideration,
Lady Hugs
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