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mmmilwaukee -> From Straight Domme to Lesbian sub (9/21/2005 11:02:40 AM)
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When I first experimented with BDSM (a few years ago; I'm 28 now), I decided I was a sub because I didn't know what I was doing and needed to be shown "the ropes," as it were. I met up with a few male Dommes from the internet (CL). They were too rough; I had to say "Red Light" like every 10 seconds. And the verbal degradation was NOT for me.
Then there were the male Doms who were gentle enough (I was/am into spanking, mainly), but they wanted to have sex.
Around that time, I gave up on being straight - I like chicks. But my feelings for girls were always very vanilla and tender - I couldn't imagine hurting or being hurt by another girl.
But my kinky side boiled under the surface, and I started discovering my Domme side. I enjoyed verbally degrading men and forcing them to do "no strings housecleaning." I would spank them occasionally, but nothing too hard. And there was never any sexual contact (aside from one guy cleaning in the nude).
Now I've met a bisexual Domme who I really connect with... we made a date, and I spaced out and didn't show!
Dommes: how unforgivable is that? I've made some offers to make it up to her and I guess she is considering.
One final request for advice: How should I conduct myself when/if we meet? I've already messed up by being a no-show. But she knows I've been a Domme before (not pro, just for fun). How "subbie" should I act?
Thanks for all your suggestions and advice!1
M
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