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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 9:55:59 AM   
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Great lead. 

I/we (when there's a 'we') have used many devices to decide which will be top/bottom. By using various events, often those niether of us have any control over the outcome. Many simple games can be used quickly to make the decision: Rock, Paper, Sissors; Toss of a coin and the like are basic. Anything in which the outcome is in doubt will work to make the initial assignment.

Being ones who love role play, fantasy and bondage, et al - not to mention suspense, we have built an entire scenario on a structured set of random drawings... I know, it sounds, reads, like a complete controdiction of terms (maybe it is).

The structured part is that we initially agree on what specific question will be decided by each consecutive draw then build a variable set for each draw.  For exmple: first draw might decides location; second draw determines activity; third draw sets duration; etc. Your combined imaginations are the primary limitation (ignoring all other considerations...)

In my/our interactions we include assignment of top and bottom every time because we both like both rolls; and, neither want to always have the same roll. The idea is variety; mix and match if you will; to include elements such as suspense, apprehension and thrill into our interactions; and, including randomization of the participant personalities and order of engagement into the mix when engaging in multiple partner contact.

Overt public multiple partner role play brings some very interesting social reactions to the percieved interactions; and various degrees of risk become possible too. Very thrilling.

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 9:57:42 AM   
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Eeeek - I can't ever seeing Darcy submit!
He decides - he allows, he may even serve my desires after considering any request I make - but submit?  Maybe you and I just have a different view or interpretation of submission.  Not that Darcy doesn't bottom occasionally - but submission just isn't in his vocab.
 
I do understand the struggle some people go through when it comes to accepting gifts or being 'spolit'.  Believe me - I am queen of denial in that sense - I will deny myself anything I want or would like because I loathe waste, I dislike extravagence. But when I submit to Darcy, I also had to submit to his ideals and his wants instead of mine.  My selfish need to submit is balanced by submitting to his desires.  So if he spoils me, which he does with great frequency, I submit.
 
Darcy will always know the intent behind my request. And that is more important than the request itself.
 
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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 10:27:46 AM   
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I get to have that on most days I don't have to work already so I guess I'm pretty blessed.  But there is something nice in being given permission to be completely selfish and self serving- I often get overloaded in trying to make sure everything is balanced, and was always trained to make sure you keep up the social graces and balances. 

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 10:35:50 AM   
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Make you lose the glasses the hat...And getta shave...You damn hippie!

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 10:50:32 AM   
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well, if i had a dominant and i was in this situation, i'd  remember my place with him at all times, i'd never want to be disrespectful.   i'd tie him up and tease him and give him the most exquisite pleasure he could imagine...there wouldn't be an inch of him that didn't get touched or licked or, well...his body would be my playground. 

wow, i need a cold shower now.  wow.

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 10:51:52 AM   
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Make you lose the glasses the hat...And getta shave...You damn hippie!



Hey hey now nothing wrong with hippies, free love and that seems alright to me


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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 10:58:03 AM   
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Can you spend money?  If so, I suggest she have you do things together that she really enjoys that would otherwise be outside your comfort zone.  For example: go to the spa together, both get manicure, pedicure and facials.  Go shoe shopping, and maybe she only buys one pair, if that, but she gets to try on as many as she wants, from as many stores as she wants, and you are the one who puts the shoes on her feet and takes them off, and you compliment how pretty she looks without ever letting on that you are really bored out of your gourd.

What's something she's always wanted to do, but thinks it would be too girly-girl to ask you to come along?  Sorry to do this to you, bro, but that seems like a very special gift to me.

That's it...You must have a HUGE one!!!  Any guy comfortable enough to post THAT must be like King Kong in his drawers...there's no other reasonable excuse.  Must be the Pinga.....

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 4:06:31 PM   
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My Love and I had a friendly wager of a best three out of 5 cribbage tournament, and guess who lost?  To the victor goes the right to plan and execute an entire day to their satisfaction.

To humor My Love, I have agreed to request from all of you how you would use this privelage if you were the victor.

So, if you were the victor of this prize, and you had the opportunity to have an entire day exactly as you liked it, what would you do with it?

Edited to include: My Love was the victor.

if i won then i would have an entire day doing exactly what my Master commanded to His hearts desire

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 5:35:10 PM   
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Since I'm guessing you never expected to loose and that's why you agreed to that foolhearty wager, and that you also made your confidence  clear at the outset and maybe during the early parts of the game, if I were her, I'd have you end the day by posting here, publically, everything she made you do and how it made you feel to do them.

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 5:46:14 PM   
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Well, me being the impling that I am... I would conclude that it was his desire to have me do as I liked that day (since he wouldn't have made the bet) and would do exactly that!

I'd ask for a back rub, a foot rub, snuggling on the couch, have him watch lots of girlie movies with me (and some action flicks), ask him to get me some nice chocolate, maybe a few new bras (if money could be spent) and take me out to my favorite watering hole for a few drinks and a tasty meal!

I love serving him, but sometimes it's nice to remember I'm a person who enjoys a good foot rub as well. Maybe I'll ask for this for my birthday. Well... except for the spending money parts!

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 6:22:25 PM   
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ORIGINAL: WalterRego

Since I'm guessing you never expected to loose and that's why you agreed to that foolhearty wager, and that you also made your confidence  clear at the outset and maybe during the early parts of the game, if I were her, I'd have you end the day by posting here, publically, everything she made you do and how it made you feel to do them.




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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 9:06:30 PM   
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LOL...I see many excellent replies here, some evil, some sweet, some very heart felt...tips hat to all!!..I will stay to the light side of it...a bit of time at a spa for pedicure, manicure and a facial...(I have never had any of these things , so hence something new to experience!)..watching a chick flick..experiencing something previously untried in the bedroom that we both may have been discussing..going to Barnes and Nobles (I sooo love book stores!!)...going grocery shopping for a meal we can fix together..cream puffs!!!and chocolate!!!..a nice roaring fire and maybe a good bottle of wine or whatever..:0)....Tempting

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 9:13:41 PM   
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L...a bit of time at a spa for pedicure, manicure and a facial...(I have never had any of these things , so hence something new to experience!)..


OMG girl go treat yourself!!!  You won't regret it! 

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 9:14:07 PM   
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ORIGINAL: HerLord

My Love and I had a friendly wager of a best three out of 5 cribbage tournament, and guess who lost?  To the victor goes the right to plan and execute an entire day to their satisfaction.

To humor My Love, I have agreed to request from all of you how you would use this privelage if you were the victor.

So, if you were the victor of this prize, and you had the opportunity to have an entire day exactly as you liked it, what would you do with it?

Edited to include: My Love was the victor.


Unplug the phone and spend the entire day making him laugh, sweat and smile.

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 9:50:33 PM   
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It's funny that you should say this, as I've been in the very same situation.  I was never familar with cribbage until My former pet taught Me, and I lost a similar bet.  In the wager, I promised that he could have something that he really wanted, and I would give it if he won, which he did.

His request was something of a vanilla 'date'.  I will never forget this, as he planned it for the Superbowl of last year.  During the time of the game, he was permitted to sit on the furniture (he did for the length of the game), he wasn't required to serve (though he had already made dinner, but I put together his plate), and he had free speech.  I think he called Me by My real name twice during the game, and he took the liberty of kissing Me on the cheek once, without asking.  Even though he had 'won' this time slot, I still remember his hesitation at reaching out to hold My hand, before he had permission.  I think he was in high heaven.  It was a big deal to him then.  Actually, it was a big deal to Me, so I won't say any more about it.


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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 10:12:12 PM   
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ORIGINAL: RedMagic1

Can you spend money?  If so, I suggest she have you do things together that she really enjoys that would otherwise be outside your comfort zone.  For example: go to the spa together, both get manicure, pedicure and facials.  Go shoe shopping, and maybe she only buys one pair, if that, but she gets to try on as many as she wants, from as many stores as she wants, and you are the one who puts the shoes on her feet and takes them off

What's something she's always wanted to do, but thinks it would be too girly-girl to ask you to come along?  Sorry to do this to you, bro, but that seems like a very special gift to me.



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Drop me at the salon for a massage, hair stuff, and facial while you do the grocery shopping and go home to put them away.




I'm thinking some of this sounds like a great idea.  :) 
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My most perfect day has been:
Morning, woken up with gentle caresses, and tender kisses  ( he had already been up and made coffee for me, brought it to the bed room)  Once awake he handed me the coffee and while I sipped it, he told me what things he had planned for me that day, constantly asking if that was ok? or was there something I would rather do.  Picked me up out of bed, carried me to the bathroom where (he already had everything laid out ) he bathed me, washed my hair, (gave me an orgasm or two in the mix) toweled me dry, applied cream all over my body, then dressed me (in something demure but sexy.) All the while letting me know how exciting it was for him to do these thing for me! Little touches and caresses all day long , opening the doors, waiting til I was seated to sit.  All the most gentlemanly things. Constant touching, holding hands and soft kisses through out the day, with many murmered endearments,  Then after the day of shopping and getting my nails done, and general pampering, he made dinner ( didn't  matter  it came out of a microwave) Nice chilled bottle of wine, with him pouring and serving me.  A fine desert something I find decadent and normally wouldn't even think of having cause it's just sooo baad for me   he spooned it into my mouth , and kissing me to have little tastes.  Then slowly undressed me...carried me into the bedroom ( amazed he could still lift me after that decadent dessert!)  A total body massage, and then touching and orgasms and more orgasms and more touching  and ,ore orgasms and finally falling asleep wrapped in his arms.
That was my perfect day. ( speaking from experience  It's FANTASIC better than a week at a spa! oh and doable)


My Lord has actually done this just because he loves me.  Come to think of it, could've been my best day ever, too.
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Well, me being the impling that I am... I would conclude that it was his desire to have me do as I liked that day (since he wouldn't have made the bet) and would do exactly that!

I'd ask for a back rub, a foot rub, snuggling on the couch, have him watch lots of girlie movies with me (and some action flicks), ask him to get me some nice chocolate, maybe a few new bras (if money could be spent) and take me out to my favorite watering hole for a few drinks and a tasty meal!

I love serving him, but sometimes it's nice to remember I'm a person who enjoys a good foot rub as well. Maybe I'll ask for this for my birthday. Well... except for the spending money parts!


I'm thinking there's definitely something in what you said, especially that foot massage.  My feet get a lot of abuse in my job...ahhh...a foot massage. 
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ORIGINAL: WalterRego

Since I'm guessing you never expected to loose and that's why you agreed to that foolhearty wager, and that you also made your confidence  clear at the outset and maybe during the early parts of the game, if I were her, I'd have you end the day by posting here, publically, everything she made you do and how it made you feel to do them.


My Lord thinks this sounds like a fantastic idea.  Look for further updates.
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...all of the above!

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well, if i had a dominant and i was in this situation, i'd  remember my place with him at all times, i'd never want to be disrespectful.   i'd tie him up and tease him and give him the most exquisite pleasure he could imagine...there wouldn't be an inch of him that didn't get touched or licked or, well...his body would be my playground. 


I'm thinking this could be on the agenda...

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It's funny that you should say this, as I've been in the very same situation.  I was never familar with cribbage until My former pet taught Me, and I lost a similar bet.  In the wager, I promised that he could have something that he really wanted, and I would give it if he won, which he did.

His request was something of a vanilla 'date'.  I will never forget this, as he planned it for the Superbowl of last year.  During the time of the game, he was permitted to sit on the furniture (he did for the length of the game), he wasn't required to serve (though he had already made dinner, but I put together his plate), and he had free speech.  I think he called Me by My real name twice during the game, and he took the liberty of kissing Me on the cheek once, without asking.  Even though he had 'won' this time slot, I still remember his hesitation at reaching out to hold My hand, before he had permission.  I think he was in high heaven.  It was a big deal to him then.  Actually, it was a big deal to Me, so I won't say any more about it.



This so sweet.  Thank you for sharing this.
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Unplug the phone and spend the entire day making him laugh, sweat and smile.

I'm thinking the phones are going to turned off, yes, whatever we do.  And there will be plenty of that other stuff going on, too.

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I get to have that on most days I don't have to work already so I guess I'm pretty blessed.  But there is something nice in being given permission to be completely selfish and self serving- I often get overloaded in trying to make sure everything is balanced, and was always trained to make sure you keep up the social graces and balances.


This sounds nice.  I work, and still have a hard time finding those balances.  I'm thinking selfish sounds great for a day.  Any more than that and the guilt would set in.  One day is perfect. 

Thanks, everyone, for your brilliant ideas.  I'm pleased as punch, cause I wasn't sure if I wanted to win or wanted to lose. 

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/1/2008 10:54:51 PM   
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L...a bit of time at a spa for pedicure, manicure and a facial...(I have never had any of these things , so hence something new to experience!)..


OMG girl go treat yourself!!!  You won't regret it! 
LOL..well you know, life's priorites and the like..maybe someday..:0)..Tempting

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/2/2008 6:32:37 AM   
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You're very welcome, stormslave.  The thread has been a rather enjoyable read.

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/2/2008 8:34:50 AM   
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So, if you were the victor of this prize, and you had the opportunity to have an entire day exactly as you liked it, what would you do with it?


It's surprising how difficult answering this question was... and I suspect my answer might sound completely boring to most...

A day together alone.  No distractions, no other obligations.  No planned activities of any kind.  A day of undivided attention to share our thoughts and dreams... to talk and explore our wants and desires. 

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RE: A lost wager... - 3/2/2008 8:50:27 AM   
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Not sure... but I think lots of pampering and fucking would be involved.


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