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MsBearlee -> RE: What would submissive males do to be owned? (3/4/2008 2:33:43 PM)
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ORIGINAL: liks2plzlf
Since joining C M, many of the things I considered hard limits, I now might submit to. Assuming I was in love with her, I would submit to anything to please her. I know assume, makes an ass out of you and me, but assuming again, her hard limits were the same as mine. I am sure for the right situation, woman, anything is possible.
Well said, liks2! I think a lot of people discount two, maybe three things; personal growth, growth together and of course loving your partner.
What pleases me, what I hope to enjoy with my sub/slave is going to be so much different than what pleases the next Domina or what she hopes to enjoy. That is why I liked the response “How long is a piece of string?”
In my mind there is nothing one can ‘do’ to become my boy…it would be a gradual process which begins with a meeting. From there, a garden grows or it doesn’t and we both move on. There is no right or wrong in this…it is just the way of us; all of us. It is why communication is so important.
Perhaps the thing that most impresses me with BDSM is the constant push to communicate. We use checklists, we use negotiation, we use all sorts of ways to tell each other really intimate stuff, including what it is that turns us on, what we want, hope for, want to provide; do and have done. I’ve never seen any other group so interested in communicating! Too bad we don’t teach this sort of stuff in high school, when kids are learning to love. It might save a bunch of relationships.
It doesn’t surprise me that a new person here slowly begins to see much of WIITWD is not as ‘sinister’ as at first it sounds, and in fact is pretty darn sexy and lots of fun. Still, much of it is quite intimate and for most people, I imagine…it works best in relationship rather than two ships passing in the night. (not that that’s a bad thing, of course!!!)
MsB
edited cuz I cant spell
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