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Erotomania -> Is it possible to reverse the roles of cuckolding? (3/2/2008 10:28:15 AM)

I've recently expressed a desire to be considered for a collar by my regular play partner.. One of the first things I mentioned within a couple of days of telling Him this, was a curiousity about being forced to watch him play/have sex with another female, and then be forced to serve her, or Him, afterwards, possibly as a 'reward' if I've responded well. I also have since had a few thoughts about having to service him prior to his interaction with the other female.

Doing something like that would be an absolute sort of humiliation for me, but the idea of it also makes my skin crawl =\

Would this be considered cuckolding? Or is that just exclusive to Fem Dom/male sub?

Do any female submissives/slaves have experience with this, especially as a form of humiliation or punishment? Does there seem to be much of a difference, psychologically speaking, between how women and men respond to it? Do any Dominants have any experience with this, and possibly suggestions?

*Edited to add last paragraph



chellekitty -> RE: Is it possible to reverse the roles of cuckolding? (3/2/2008 10:39:21 AM)

i don't know if it would be cuckolding, but there is certainly nothing wrong with it, if that's what floats your boat...i have found an element of it exciting for a while...but eventually needed to be reasured of my place physically (namely just affection, but with sex as well), as with all humiliation play...but that is just me...i don't know if that is an across the board thing for women...for me it was just play...cuckolding, the way i understand it, is usually a relationship dynamic...i don't know for sure though....

chelle



Erotomania -> RE: Is it possible to reverse the roles of cuckolding? (3/2/2008 10:50:59 AM)

We were previously in a serious relationship, still live together, and I am currently being 'pre-considered' for his collar, so there -is- a bit of a relationship dynamic there. While not the typical kind of dynamic that most seem to think of in reference to cuckolding, it's effective enough for me. =\ How much I care about Him is one of the reasons why it would be so humiliating.. The fear of being less than enough, or being displaced. But another side of me is going "okay.. Sir... With another woman.. Watching them, restrained.. And getting used afterwards.. Yes, please!" =P



chellekitty -> RE: Is it possible to reverse the roles of cuckolding? (3/2/2008 10:55:20 AM)

well part of the typical cuckolding dynamic is that the woman is having sex with other men because the man is not able to fulfill her....and though i can do that for a while, i eventually have to be reassured of my place and that i have value within the relationship and a place that is not going anywhere...because if all i hear is, "look what she can do that you can't" i will walk away....

chelle



RedMagic1 -> RE: Is it possible to reverse the roles of cuckolding? (3/2/2008 10:55:56 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Erotomania
I've recently expressed a desire to be considered for a collar by my regular play partner.

Congratulations!

The extra-partner-just-for-humiliation thing is tricky.  It sure is a hot fantasy for me -- and a lot of other men, I'm sure.  I have never acted on it though, even though I "could" have, because it would have hurt someone in the not-good way.  Many of the stories I've heard and read are from people who tried it and realized they had run into a limit they didn't know they had.  Some things really are better as fantasies.

It's not the same as ethical poly.  With poly, you're expressing affection -- or more -- for someone you get to know well.  Shallower physical connections are more dicey.  Handle with care.



sirguym -> RE: Is it possible to reverse the roles of cuckolding? (3/2/2008 11:03:58 AM)

My understanding of the meaning of the word is that it is as appropriate to your situation as to the more commonly discussed one of the male being the odd one out.

I also love the other Old English term Wittolry, meaning a man who pimps his wife to another man for money or other advantage; though whether that applies the other way around is dubious.



daddyncherry -> RE: Is it possible to reverse the roles of cuckolding? (3/2/2008 11:22:12 AM)

i totally have this fantasy as well as the  Wittolry one too.....i couldn't however handle being told that she was better than i am or feeling in any way that i couldbe replaced.

For me, it is about know that i cannot fulfill his needs, because i personally don't believe that any one person can be everything or experience for another....i can't fullfill all of his needs any more than he can fullfill all of mine...So watching him bepleasured by another while i am watching  or having to fluff him to fuck her is a huge turn on for me...as long as i am getting my needs fullfilled in the relationship or as long as he doesn't do things with her that he won't do with me than i am excited about it. If, however he did things with another that he won't do with me that i am dying for then it would totally mess me up emotionally and mentally.



daddyncherry -> RE: Is it possible to reverse the roles of cuckolding? (3/2/2008 11:52:41 AM)

i just looked up the word wittorly and found out it is actually wittol and means the same thing as cuckold and also is  derived from being kinda dim witted.

also seems to be mostly a label for men. 



mnottertail -> RE: Is it possible to reverse the roles of cuckolding? (3/2/2008 12:14:34 PM)

To the OP, yes yes yes a thousand times yes, but it isn't cuckolding then, there is not a word for it as far as I know, except perhaps --------- fucking HAWT.

Cordially,
Ron



HouseDV8 -> RE: Is it possible to reverse the roles of cuckolding? (3/2/2008 12:40:22 PM)

cuckolding is exactly the right word and it is not gender specific. i actually present on this topic and we intentionally bend the gender roles because we are appealing to a pan-sexual society. Not only can it work the way you are describing, but it can also work M/m, F/m, or any other combination you can come up with once you throw in CD's, and TS's.

I just have one question...can i be the other female...and could i humilate you as well? <grin> Have fun.



Erotomania -> RE: Is it possible to reverse the roles of cuckolding? (3/2/2008 12:52:20 PM)

Thank you everyone, for your advice. I very much appreciate it.. ^_^;

lol, sure. Where exactly are you located...? =P Humiliation is welcome! Haha.

Now.. the question is.. Do I wake Him up an hour earlier than He wanted me to.. And pester him into finding said additional girl.. Or do I just send him e-mails with pictures depicting what I have in mind? *evil grin*

And onto the next dilemma.. My love for women.. And yet almost complete lack of experience with them.. Yay, another topic for me to post! How to please women when you've only done anything blatantly sexual with one.. Once.. -_-;



MaamJay -> RE: Is it possible to reverse the roles of cuckolding? (3/3/2008 1:48:41 AM)

Yes it's possible, whether it's wise is an unknown. It's not so far from old-fashioned vanilla threesomes really ... but you have to be very aware of deep feelings that might well come out unexpectedly. The only time I was involved in this sort of thing, I was fine during the "action" ... it was all very exciting ... but what cut Me up was waking the next morning to find he had slept with his arms around her ... something he wouldn't do with Me. His usual excuse with Me was that I was too heavy ... but she was 10 lb heavier! That hurt! And so we never went down that path again. So I identified very well with what daddyncherry said.

Also spare a thought for the third, who might not appreciate being used in this way for your experiment ... who might cop the fallout from you if you don't handle it as well as you expect to ... or who might take the opportunity to fuck your Master as a sign that He really wants her more than you! All dangerous scenarios! Are you also prepared for this to become a make-or-break issue in your developing relationship? Is this the best time to conduct this experiment when you are not feeling entirely secure within your relationship?

Maam Jay aka violet[A]



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