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intolerance - 9/22/2005 5:36:42 AM

Evilsgirl

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i have recently moved in with my Dadd.we have a roomate that feels it his place to tell me how to act/behave and serve my Daddy. i am wondering how to go about telling him to back off. any suggestions?

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RE: intolerance - 9/22/2005 6:15:34 AM

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ORIGINAL: Evilsgirl

i have recently moved in with my Dadd.we have a roomate that feels it his place to tell me how to act/behave and serve my Daddy. i am wondering how to go about telling him to back off. when i tell Daddy about it he says he doesnt see it..so cant comment on it. any suggestions?
Evilsgirl

If you are offering specific examples rather than just a general "he's telling me how to act", I'd say that "doesn't see it" translates as "likes the situation."

You can just ignore the roommate, but the problem may be deeper than that.

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RE: intolerance - 9/22/2005 7:03:22 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Evilsgirl

i have recently moved in with my Dadd.we have a roomate that feels it his place to tell me how to act/behave and serve my Daddy. i am wondering how to go about telling him to back off. when i tell Daddy about it he says he doesnt see it..so cant comment on it. any suggestions?

Evilsgirl

I'll work on the supposition from what you have said that this clown tries to instruct you in front of your Daddy? If this so, it may be that your Daddy is watching to see how you will deal with the interfearance. He may not see it and anything to worry about either. I guess part of the dynamic is the financial or "business" arrangement your both have with the roomate. If financially, for example, this person is needed for his financial contribution or if he and your Daddy are friends, you may have an ongoing problem.

I have only two suggestions.
First is to have a good heart to heart with this person and see if you cant winn him over so he will stop interfering.

Failing that:

Have a serious talk with your Daddy. Ask to speak freely (but with respect) and tell him this guy is pissing you off. If your lucky, your daddy will either talk to the bloke himself and tell him to back off. However he (your Daddy) may OK you to take limited action send a wakeup call.

Is it possible that this person is jelous of whjat you wo have? maybe he wants you himself, or is simply facinated by the relationship and is trying to be over helpfull.

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RE: intolerance - 9/22/2005 8:10:27 AM

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I want more details- specific examples.

But generally, just smile when he tries it and say "sorry, thats only something (your dom) can say to me" and then move on like nothing happened.

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RE: intolerance - 9/22/2005 8:22:14 AM

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Hello There,
I'd suggest to the roommate that you listen to your daddy and if he wants to give orders to someone to get his own sub or slave as you are under no obligation to obey him/her.
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RE: intolerance - 9/22/2005 9:08:38 AM

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thank you for your insite.i have talked to the roomy a few times and he says.."your taking it all wrong" then follows up with.you should be seen and not heard. Daddy allows me to talk freely most often. i guess the heart to heart is needed..thank you

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RE: intolerance - 9/22/2005 9:25:05 AM

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Everyone else has been so polite and nice about this, so I'm going to be the asshole about it. Your "daddy" needs to get off his ass an deal with the situation, its a little thing called responsibility. When you became his, you became his responsibility, if there is a problem between you and his roommate its his responsibility to deal with it. That means he needs to find out what the facts are, what exactly is going on and why and address it himself. He needs to take charge. Dumping it off on you and telling you to deal with it is a fairly "undomly" thing to do, smacks of being spineless, or at the very least comes across as him just not giving a damn.

I don't know you, the roommate or your Daddy, I don't know the particulars of the situation. There are a lot of possibilities. The roommate could be a jealous asshole trying to get some of the action. Could be your Daddy has run his mouth and put ideas in his head. Could be Daddy is tinkering with the idea of sharing. Could be you just want the roommate out and are lying to create a situation. Could be a lot of things and I don't know what the truth is. But that's not my problem, that's your Daddy's problem an he ought to be taking things in hand and getting to the bottom of it.

Actions don't lie, even when everything else about a person does. The fact that you have complained to him about it and he's done nothing tells me one of the following is the case:
A) He doesn't believe you
B) He believes you, but he likes the situation
C) He may or may not believe you and is avoiding dealing with it.

If its A, then you have some trust issues in your relationship to deal with. In that case the problem is a lot bigger than a pushy roommate butting in where he doesn't belong.
If its B, then you need to have a heart to heart with your Daddy and find out just what is going on in his head. He may be considering changing the terms of your relationship in ways you hadn't bargained for. Are you okay with that or is it beyond what you are willing to accept?
If its C, dump the whimp and go find a Dom who has a spine.

Or as I said, it could be D... you're making things up to get rid of a roommate you just don't want in the house. If I was the dom in question I'd be busy getting to the bottom of what was going on, whatever it was, and putting an end to it. These kinds of things tend to cause headaches... last thing I want when I come home is another headache to deal with.

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RE: intolerance - 9/22/2005 10:29:48 AM

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Is your Daddy into Dom'ing men? Maybe he used to Dom your roomate and since you moved in they had to change their relationship. Wow I pulled that one from out of no where. More details lead to better evaluations.

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RE: intolerance - 9/22/2005 12:52:39 PM

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Who's your Daddy?

Ask your room mate that and when he replies, say thank you and tell him who your is and be firm when you say and it's not you!

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RE: intolerance - 9/22/2005 1:04:46 PM

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If i were you i would ask your Daddy to sit down and have a talk about how this room mate is trying to control you, and tell him how it bothers you. After all he is your Daddy and he should understand. Then your Daddy might have a talk with your room mate and tell him to back off. i hope this helps matters.

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RE: intolerance - 9/22/2005 1:06:41 PM

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thank you you have all been VERY helpful.sometimes it is easier to listen to suggestions ..then to look at it from the inside..

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RE: intolerance - 9/22/2005 9:08:53 PM

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I don't know what role the roommate has in the relationship other than being a roommate. However, when things are getting crowed, it's time for the Alpha to show why he/she's the Alpha and the other person is the Beta.

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RE: intolerance - 9/22/2005 9:40:11 PM

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If they're just a roommate - not part of the relationship, then lift up your right hand (left if you're left handed) and extend that middle finger. If the roommate is like another sub in the relationship - it's good to be give suggestions especially if they were with your master longer. Unless of course they're trying to sabotage you :( Or just talk to your master about it.

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