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Sinergy -> RE: Cats and Where They Poop (7/17/2004 11:37:52 PM)
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This thread about tearing a person down and rebuilding them to be what one wants is eerily reminiscent to me of the part of Lord Of The Rings where Gandalf confronts Sauroman. I will try to state it as best as I remember it.
Sauroman: I wear a cloak of many colors, whereas yours is just white. A white page can be marked on, written on, painted on...
Gandalf: In which case it is no longer white.
The point I am trying to make is that while it is possible to use a bigger sledgehammer to get the round peg to fit in the square hole, to me it seems that taking that approach really doesnt respect the inner nature of the round peg or the square hole. It is simply a ham-handed approach to forcing the universe to comply with that person's ideas of reality.
Tearing apart a person's inner nature to me seems contrary to what I hope to achieve. If I tear her down she is no longer herself, and I dont think I have the wisdom to know what she actually is or what she should be. Perhaps it is my Taoist perspective, but I have to assume I do not know something, and then I have to look and listen in order to (possibly) learn the essence of what one is observing. I think of water flowing. It always seeks it's own level, and while men can try to dam it, etc., water will always seek it's own level. That is it's inner nature. Taoists do not seek to force reality to suit their whim; they seek to understand the principle which binds things. I dont want a Stepford Submissive or a mindless automaton, I want to merge myself with who she is and become something as a couple which is far greater than either of us can attain alone.
I dont know if this is possible, or if this is simply some ridiculous pipe-dream spawned from spending too much time learning about some moldy 6000+ year old philosophy from China, but it is just me and I could be wrong.
Sinergy
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