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RE: Doms vs Dommes - 9/22/2005 7:53:31 PM

lonewolf05

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Wouldn't you agree that the submissive woman is also getting what she wants from her male partner?
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it depends in MY eyes...what is it they WANT? are ALL the girls after sex or ARE there ANY girl subs interested in JUST domestics service like ME?

"I" have no sex no romance and very very very little play...and i AM talking about EVEN punishment because She is either at work OR is asleep for the next day. and weekends are usually Her and the hubby together....with the dogs..
SO........yeah i would be SO curious to see if you are talking girls wanting sex and romance OR just plain service like ME.

thank You MP.

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RE: Doms vs Dommes - 9/22/2005 7:56:20 PM

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AAkasha

My dominance comes from a desire to see a man submit for my sexual and sensual pleasure. I have a lust of my own that needs to be satisfied and it does not cater to a submissive's fetishes or fantasies, although in many cases they overlap, and in other cases I may really enjoy using his fetishes as a tool to move him toward the actual submission that I seek.

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now let me understand this?.. You SAY Your subby boy is for sex for YOU..?? what does Your hubby say about all this? doesn't HE care about all this?

just trying to understand You.

wolf

I don't have a "subby boy" -- My husband is my best friend, lover, and submits to me when I desire it. And he does all the housework and cooking but never bitches about it or comes on here to point out that he does it not expecting anything in return. I don't have to dominate him to get him to do it.

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RE: Doms vs Dommes - 9/22/2005 8:02:13 PM

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Face it wolf, when they made you they broke the mold.
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ummmmmm oh boy. i think maybe this might-be a compliment so i will say thank you....and i can only offer up the feeling is that MY background consists of doing it yourself so you know it is done right...never send a boy to do a man's job.

so "I" was raised as being self sufficient and a jake-of-all-trades... i know a little about everything........THAT way i am able to handle about any small problem OR big issues.
i shocked wifey #3 when she dropped the toaster and i got up out of bed, opened it up, fixed it, plugged it back in and went back to bed.
i am trained with enough experience in my 50+ years there is very little anywhere in the house i can't do. not 100% everything but most everything.

and thank you again.

wolfie--wagging his tail and pads away..

p/s? thank YOU EVERYONE here........

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RE: Doms vs Dommes - 9/23/2005 9:01:36 PM

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that seems like an ok arrangment.

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RE: Doms vs Dommes - 9/24/2005 7:36:46 AM

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quote:

comes on here to point out that he does it not expecting anything in return.

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Ya got it all wrong..i aint bitchin..i am braggin.........

i am damned proud what i do for Her........ya like it or ya dont like it

i dont care

but i am just THAT damn good..........

whooooooo

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RE: Doms vs Dommes - 9/24/2005 9:14:26 AM

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the man I have submitted to (going on 7 yrs now) is all about taking care of me... my needs, wants, desires... and in return I do the same for him. He's not even about sex... we could go on without it for who knows how long (i cant handle a day without it) but he doesn't dom me for sex. There is so much more to D/s that the masses out there don't seem to understand. It's a power-exchange... and in relationships... it goes far beyond sex.

I have to agree with you. I am not looking for a submissive for the SEX. I am not looking for a submissive for what she can do to pleasure me.

I want her with me because she wants to be with me, and because she wants the comapnionship, the familiarity, and the relationship that we have together. I want to please her, be it by doing to her or giving her what she desires. What she "needs", or what she feels is lacking in previous relationships or situations.

I won't say I don't like or want sex. That would be a lie. I am a "normal" male. However, SEX is not the total relationship. Only a part of the whole. While I feel it is an important part, it isnt the most important, nor the only part.

My submissive should be that person who completes the package that makes us a "couple", that makes us complete together.

I give to her what she likes, and withold from her when she dosent "provide" that which she has agreed to. If she is to clean, then she should. If she is to cook, then she should. If she is to do laundry, then she should, but if our agreement is for me to do these things, then I do.

Every relationship has its differences, its common and not so common inconsistencies. To say that Dom's (men) and Dommes (women) want the same thing or to say they want different things is a generality that dosen't fit everyone. I know of several Dommes (FEMALES) that only want sexual pleasures from their submissives. And I know several that want absolutely no SEX from their submissives. And the same is true for some of the Males I know.

My only thought about the issue that probably means anything is that EVERYONE is going to want or desire something. And if they are getting it from their respective Dom/Domme or submissive, who are we to say it is good or bad?

Just my 2.5 cents worth.

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RE: Doms vs Dommes - 9/24/2005 10:04:37 PM

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want does not equal sex

I said that she is getting what she wants from the man whether it is serving or being served.

Service does not mean sex nor does it mean chores or beatings.

--Service would be one catering to another in the manner in which they wish to be catered to is all I was saying.--

MP

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As to what girls want... there is no one answer.

Each woman differs from the other & each woman's want can change from one favor to another without notice.

I am like that, diverse in interest. I may wake up in the morning wanting to be pampered then have a desire to beat the daylights out of someone by mid afternoon. I may want to see someone crawl around on all fours & mop the floor with a dish rag held in their teeth or maybe prance around in high heels with a feather duster & answer to the name of Claudette... one just never knows.

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RE: Doms vs Dommes - 9/25/2005 5:27:02 AM

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oh migawd

whew
to me that is almost scary..

happy my Ms isn't like that..

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RE: Doms vs Dommes - 9/25/2005 11:17:50 AM

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Doms are more toward what THEY expect from Their girls and Dommes are more toward what Their boys want....

now if this is against YOUR personal observations..please ring out for me here.

That doesn't match up with my observations. A Dom/me is about their needs and wants. The good ones take care of their submissive's needs as well. The super ones even take care of at least some of the submissive's wants, keeping in mind who/what is a priority as between the two: The Dom/me.

I don't see that to be different based on gender of the Dominant, although because of social conditioning it is possible that some, or even a lot, of Dommes give that impression, or even border on that attitude.

But - if a person is in it more about the other person than themselves, I have trouble using the word "Dom" or "Domme" to describe them.

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RE: Doms vs Dommes - 9/26/2005 4:29:53 PM

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After 35 years in the life, it is not what i've seen. It seems to be the other way around.

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RE: Doms vs Dommes - 9/26/2005 5:34:44 PM

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oh? hmm. interesting observation Sir. thank You.

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RE: Doms vs Dommes - 9/30/2005 7:23:33 PM

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I agree with Thetammyjo.......it is silly to make one's sex evident when it is what it is: EVIDENT. I cannot speak for other female dominants, but the activities and trainings that I do are being done for two main reasons: 1). because I enjoy the activity a lot and 2). because there is a lesson that needs to be learned. As a dominant, I am not just there to control my submissive, but to make him the best that he can be....teach him self control, etc. Is what he likes important? -Not really, however, I think mutual satisfaction is wonderful and healthy.

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RE: Doms vs Dommes - 10/1/2005 12:37:15 PM

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Back in the middle ages when I first entered the scene, it was impossible (now it's only nearly impossible) for a new male Dom to get any advice or perspective from another male Dom. It was my great good luck (Thank you Meade and Amber, where ever you are) to meet two Dom women who helped me fill in a lot of blanks about the lifestyle. My experience was that our viewpoints where much more shaped by being Dom, than by our different sexes. Styles differed, but motivations and basic desires not so much.

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