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Action -> Have you ever... (3/3/2008 3:41:36 PM)
This topic is a very big 180 for me in my life, but as part of my social experiment of letting go to my more violent side. I want to know have you ever found a yang, an equal, someone so far taken from your gender if ever you where a man he would be the example of what you wish you where it made you want to buckle to crave his approval like a student a teacher or a daughter to a father you'd almost think submission was welling up from a place it either never existed or dried up from ever finding someone you could see letting go for. Please don't take this as an attack of your dominance but as one young Mistress' confession. Lil Miss Action

Action -> RE: Have you ever... (3/3/2008 4:15:55 PM)
Is it bad I feel your all terribly boring becuase if I admited I have visions of letting him push me down the stairs for the thrill and heap of pain I'd be by the end of my journy, you'd probably scream for censorship and commen sense. Why have I been holding back all this viciousness for so long, I feel like a moster stretching her legs after being cages for years.

petdave -> RE: Have you ever... (3/3/2008 6:39:24 PM)
AH HA! So you ARE all just closet subs waiting for the right guy to come along! Signed, The Guys (p.s.- you really don't want to play "Kinkier Than Thou"... really...)

Action -> RE: Have you ever... (3/3/2008 6:59:09 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: petdave AH HA! So you ARE all just closet subs waiting for the right guy to come along! Signed, The Guys (p.s.- you really don't want to play "Kinkier Than Thou"... really...) Maybe we all are, but then the sadder fact would be how come there are so few "mr right" examples of men out there in the world.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Have you ever... (3/3/2008 7:05:04 PM)
I think that you might be taking edge play a bit far with that fantasy....only because with a very minor loss of control on your fall you could be very very DEAD and where would the fun be in that?

MsIncontrol -> RE: Have you ever... (3/3/2008 8:50:11 PM)
No, I never get that feeling with anyone. I was a bottom/submissive/slave for several years before becoming a dominant and I have no desire to return to that side of the scene. There are men who are dominant and whom I respect and can nod my head and say "no wonder all the sub women love this guy" or "I'd like to take a tousle in bed with that man" but I never have the desire to submit to one.

MisPandora -> RE: Have you ever... (3/4/2008 10:07:37 AM)
Nope. I started in the lifestyle a submissive, or at least I gave that a try before I found what felt right for me. No big secret there. My first top is my mentor, but moreso my close friend and PEER. While I respect him, I don't feel that fear or whatever because it's just not the way he and I roll. He has not had SM in his life for a while due to family reasons, and he's lived vicariously through me in my teaching and traveling endeavours. I might meet a male top that makes me snicker because he's just as much of a sick fuck as I am, but the only thing that turns me on there is the coursing adrenaline in our veins as we both race to hurt someone at the same time, say the same horribly filthy thing in someone's ear or pull the most wicked toy out of the bag. That's more like a kindred spirit, and they don't come around all that often.

Dnomyar -> RE: Have you ever... (3/4/2008 10:14:29 AM)
I have never been tousled in bed. How does that work?

ShaktiSama -> RE: Have you ever... (3/4/2008 3:13:36 PM)
I agree with Pandora. I have never felt a desire to be harmed by anyone. I do enjoy other dominants, male and female, when we have something in common, and I try to be friends with other dominants as much as possible--it's good to have perspective, to have people who keep you honest, and to exchange Good Ideas for Doing Very Bad Things. [:)] That said, I think I have felt "hero worship" for various people whose wonderful qualities and accomplishments I admired and wanted to emulate. Winning approval or recognition from a personal hero is a bit of a submissive trip, perhaps? But I'll freely admit, the approval and recognition I was looking for did NOT involve being thrown down the stairs. More of a desire to learn, imitate, be intimate in some way...obviously the specifics would vary. Anyhoo, I admire the courage it takes to post such confessions, in much the same way that I admire dominants who enjoy bottoming once in a while or who deliberately explore a submissive side. It is good to be a less limited person. Also, I wonder if some people who post submissive fantasies or thoughts--or who even talk about them--feel a little constrained to censor themselves for fear of shocking others? Does anyone else imagine being badly hurt, for example, by a dominant? Hearing about it wouldn't make me any more likely to do it, but I would be curious...I am always curious how submissive or masochistic thoughts manifest...

ElanSubdued -> RE: Have you ever... (3/4/2008 4:44:02 PM)
Well gee Miss Action, You're a human being. We humans do and yearn for all kinds of things. I don't really see your OP as a "confession". Rather, it's just emotions and feelings your have, and a desire to explore these. I see nothing wrong with this and don't think it makes you less Dominant, more submissive, uber switchy, or whatever the "kids" want to label it these days. It just makes you you. Enjoy being yourself. I think it's wonderful. Elan.

MissMagnolia -> RE: Have you ever... (3/4/2008 4:54:05 PM)
Never. I personally hate pain, giving or receiving. You're feelings are not all that unusual. I have switchy friends who only bottom for people they feel very deep emotions for. I have a very strong Domme friend who is absolutely submissive only to her husband. Does it make her less "Dommely"? Of course not.

trueshadow -> RE: Have you ever... (3/4/2008 4:55:47 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ElanSubdued Well gee Miss Action, You're a human being. We humans do and yearn for all kinds of things. I don't really see your OP as a "confession". Rather, it's just emotions and feelings your have, and a desire to explore these. I see nothing wrong with this and don't think it makes you less Dominant, more submissive, uber switchy, or whatever the "kids" want to label it these days. It just makes you you. Enjoy being yourself. I think it's wonderful. Elan. I agree. You can fantasize all you want. Just be safe and leave the dangerous stuff to your imagination.

petdave -> RE: Have you ever... (3/4/2008 6:18:25 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: ShaktiSama Also, I wonder if some people who post submissive fantasies or thoughts--or who even talk about them--feel a little constrained to censor themselves for fear of shocking others? Does anyone else imagine being badly hurt, for example, by a dominant? Hearing about it wouldn't make me any more likely to do it, but I would be curious...I am always curious how submissive or masochistic thoughts manifest... Certainly. There are things where... there's just nothing to gain from talking about them. You know you'll get judged and someone will try to make you feel bad about it, and you already know it's a "bad" idea, and it's not like you'll ever get to do it anyway... so you just leave it. Just like (for many people) you don't talk to your family about your D/s interests, because no good will come of it, there are some topics you don't bring up in the "normal" D/s community.

ShaktiSama -> RE: Have you ever... (3/4/2008 6:55:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: petdave Certainly. There are things where... there's just nothing to gain from talking about them. You know you'll get judged and someone will try to make you feel bad about it, and you already know it's a "bad" idea, and it's not like you'll ever get to do it anyway... so you just leave it. Just like (for many people) you don't talk to your family about your D/s interests, because no good will come of it, there are some topics you don't bring up in the "normal" D/s community. Well...that's too bad. I'm sure you are right, it just seems a shame. [>:]

Kirren -> RE: Have you ever... (3/4/2008 7:26:57 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: petdave AH HA! So you ARE all just closet subs waiting for the right guy to come along! Signed, The Guys (p.s.- you really don't want to play "Kinkier Than Thou"... really...) Some one should have known that a man would be all over this...they sit and wait for threads like this to post...lol.

Kirren -> RE: Have you ever... (3/4/2008 7:32:21 PM)
I think that it is important to say...and yet again...that each relationship with in this lifestyle is only defined by the ideas, imaginations, and limitations set by those with in the confines of that relationship....I think its also important to say (for the guys) that just because a Dominant woman feels the urge to let go, and release to a man, or a woman, does not mean we are "just looking for the right man" ( I know that was a joke, but...it had to be said.) It means that we are human and in some way need the same tension release as any one else. That all being said...I hate pain...cant stand it...but there is something so intense when My husband and I are intimate and He vocally commands My attention with different phrases and commands....it takes Me to a place where I am almost out side of My body...and able to fully give in to that moment. Would I consider that a submissive moment? Sure I would....but I also consider what I have with Him to be a TRUE Power Exchange....He has the more open and out ward Dominant personality, so in most things, I dont...bow down to him, but I do seek his opinion and ideas....but when it comes down to it, I do what I want when I want, how I want....but at the same time...I do behave as a normal wife in that I cook, clean and do all the things a wife should do for Him...and I do seek His aproval and adoration...not as a submissive, but as a wife and a friend.... If that makes any kind of sense to any one except Me.

MaamJay -> RE: Have you ever... (3/5/2008 12:52:05 AM)
Well to the OP ... nothing strange in that as I am both Domme and sub and embrace both My giving and receiving sides equally. Just more of a pain when i only have the One who makes me feel that way ... and am lacking the one who I make feel that way! Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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