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Looking for discretion advice - 3/4/2008 11:08:59 AM

freekalette

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First and foremost, my apologies for just jumping into the forum without a proper introduction. I am a bit pressed for time, and will say my hello's later. Also, just becaus this is my first post, please do not fall under the (mistaken) impression that I am a n00b. I'm rather experienced in WIITWD, and know all the Safe, Sane, and Consensual stuff that goes along with the territory. So please, no posts telling me to be careful, learn more about it, etc. Okay? Thanx! *wicked grin*

Now, on to my question: as a 24/7 slave who has a pressing need for quiet, our sex life has to be rather, erm, subdued most of the time. Luckily, we get a weekend or two a month when this occurs, and then it's "all bets are off lock the doors and turn off the phone and get crazy" time. By the time this rolls around, Sir and I are dying to get down to business, and we pretty much spend the entire time playing and being ourselves. (I should make the point here, I guess, that Sir works third shift, which means that he has to sleep during the day, further limiting our time together.) Anyways, as a present for our upcoming anniversary, Sir would like for me to flog him. This is one toy I'm NOT all that familiar with. I've flogged him before, but it was a VERY long time ago, and I'd like to make this one extra great. Which means that I obviously need to practice my swing/technique. The only time I really have to do this, though, is at night when Sir is at work, and that means our need for quiet is amplified. So, to make a long story a little LESS long, how can I quietly master a flogger? I need to be able to practice without any swooshing or slapping sounds. And our walls are VERY thin. I've lurked on these boards for awhile, and y'all seem like mostly intelligent folks, some I'm hoping that one of you will have some ideas for me. Oh, and one more thing- before I get flamed for wanting to beat someone with a tool I'm not all that familiar with, I am fully aware of the risks that come with a flogging done wrong. AND Sir is a masochist the likes of which I've never seen. AND when I've used other stingy/thuddy toys on him (paddle, twisty rod from venetian blinds, riding crop, etc.) he begs for more even if I'm hitting as hard as I can. We clear? Yeah? I hope so.

Apologies again for diving right in, but I've only got two months to practice! Thanks in advance, and expect to see lots more of me now that I've finally joined up. Cheers!!

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RE: Looking for discretion advice - 3/4/2008 11:24:25 AM

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the hardest thing for me to get control of was not getting all the strips tangled after a stroke or when changing directions.

Loosening my grip a little combined with bigger arc'ing swings helped in the beginning. at first it helped me to remember that the butt end of the flogger should always be pointing away from the strips...once you get the hang of that you will figure out when to break that rule.

this may or may not be useful depending on how quickly you pick up(and how far you are already)
but its the best I can explain using strictly words(and sitting at work)

you can also work on just general control and placement...getting to the point of instinctivly knowing where the tips of the flogger are going to touch and how spread apart they may be when you make contact will help alot(wrap around sucks)

you can practice that but setting up a pillow and flogging it so that it only brushes the fabric ever so lightly as to move the fabric without moving the pillow... again this most useful in learning your flogger and being most comfortable with it and having control over placement. it shouldn't make any/much noise because your goal is to just barely grace the pillow not hit it.

Hope this helps.
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RE: Looking for discretion advice - 3/4/2008 11:50:38 AM

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Pillows and bedding make excellent soft targets.

Also, take a page from martial arts instruction, and practice the strokes slowly--VERY slowly. Not only will this limit the sound, but will build your muscle memories on the proper motions for each stroke.

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RE: Looking for discretion advice - 3/4/2008 11:54:23 AM

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celticLord noted the muscle memory...another way to help build that muscle memory is to "eye" the strokes into the pillow. Become aware of where your target is and what it takes to not only physically bring the strokes there but what it takes mentally to bring them where you want.

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RE: Looking for discretion advice - 3/4/2008 12:08:16 PM

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Turn on some sort of sound in the room where someone is sleeping. A CD of sounds of nature, waves crashing, something like that and their ears will orient on the immediate sound leaving you to practice against a pillow without too much fear of them waking up. If someone does wake up, tell them you were exercising.

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RE: Looking for discretion advice - 3/4/2008 1:59:31 PM

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quote:

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. If someone does wake up, tell them you were exercising.

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RE: Looking for discretion advice - 3/4/2008 2:02:21 PM

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Now, on to my question: as a 24/7 slave who has a pressing need for quiet, ......................................................................Anyways, as a present for our upcoming anniversary, Sir would like for me to flog him.

Why am i laughing? Is he an emotional sadist rather than a Sir in need of a flogger?

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RE: Looking for discretion advice - 3/4/2008 4:35:14 PM

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ORIGINAL: Paulsgirl

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ORIGINAL: freekalette

Now, on to my question: as a 24/7 slave who has a pressing need for quiet, ......................................................................Anyways, as a present for our upcoming anniversary, Sir would like for me to flog him.

Why am i laughing? Is he an emotional sadist rather than a Sir in need of a flogger?

I have flogged my 'Sirs' before....most find it very relaxing and enjoyable...I flog to stimulate though, not to the pain level..just last weekend I had a 35 yr old man completely in 'space'....

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RE: Looking for discretion advice - 3/4/2008 4:36:19 PM

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White noise machine and a tv on. You want a mix of sounds to drown out the steady swoosh.

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RE: Looking for discretion advice - 3/4/2008 7:18:06 PM

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Paulsgirl: Sir is a sadist in every sense of the word, much to my dismay/delight!

But he's also a masochist (something I struggle with at times) hence the need to master the flogger.

To everyone, thank you thank you THANK YOU!! I think I'm gonna for sure go with a mixture of stereo and tv at low levels, and cram some towels under the door. If I get busted....well I'll think of something. After all, being creative is what it's all about!

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RE: Looking for discretion advice - 3/4/2008 8:14:00 PM

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I know nada about the flogger..but I thought..do you remember those toys that kids used to punch and knock down and then they whooshed back up?..take to garage..and not using any force, give it a go..it better represents a form of a human body..better to eyeball where the strikes hit as opposed to a pillow..since I am sure your Sir is taller than that wobble toy..put up on a table..or whatever to get a better height ratio..so can practise more realistically...Tempting

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RE: Looking for discretion advice - 3/4/2008 8:55:52 PM

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Some good ideas already as to sound-proofing ... also can you pick a time of day when most neighbours are still out at work? Or when there's a lot of traffic outside? that might help!

If you really want to get fancy on the flogging, a recent thread on Florentine flogging (using 2 floggers, 2 hands) produced a link to a youtube video by MasterFireMaam which explained it and showed it brilliantly! She starts slow and then speeds up ... really clear. I thought I'd bookmarked it but I can't find it, darn! So hopefully you can find it by searching for the thread, or Lucky Albatross will stop by with some links, or maybe MFM will post it again!

Good luck! And I'm just a teensy bit envious ... in the absence of a sub for My Domme side (Jay) ... I am really feeling the need to give someone a good flogging ... and Master seems to have lost His masochistic side

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RE: Looking for discretion advice - 3/4/2008 9:02:37 PM

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Perhaps you could work on technique with something not as loud as the flogger itself...maybe use a shirt or towel (like a hand-towel) gathered properly, and practice into the pillow or a spot about where you feel Sir's back will be at when you do the actual flogging. You can practice this way slowly/quietly, and the material you're using will have relative weight and give you a good reference still even though you're not using the actual flogger at the time. When He is away at work, switch over to the real thing and position yourself about where you feel He'll be and get the motor-memory down pact. Between the two, you should build-up and get the aim and such in order way before the 2-month period is up. In any case, good luck! span.jajahWrapper { font-size:1em; color:#B11196; text-decoration:underline; } a.jajahLink { color:#000000; text-decoration:none; } span.jajahInLink:hover { background-color:#B11196; }

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