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Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 12:14:57 PM

lovingdomwanted

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After a very interesting conversation with a really nice US Dom (who shall remain nameless).....this sub wonders regarding typical punishments/discipline methods as they tend to vary from the UK to the US.

The typical UK dom bulks at Domestic Discipline, whereby the US counterpart seems to embrace the concept......

So here we go.......

Lets see how UK/US....Subs/Doms.....Expect to from the following.....

Imagine you are in the concept of a semi-24/7 relationship and you did the following:

Lied:....Little white lie

Lied:.....Huge Lie but only to protect your loved one

Lied: ......And you meant it....

Back-chat:.....

Brattish Behaviour...To gain punishment.....

Brattish Behaviour.....One off......

Question open to Subs and Doms.......hence why I couldn't decide which tread to place it under?????

Think we may have a good discussion from this......

PS.....anyone offended.....why?....We are an active BDSM Site?

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 12:19:03 PM

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Lied:....Little white lie (disgusted look, the first few times)

Lied:.....Huge Lie but only to protect your loved one (long talk....)

Lied: ......And you meant it.... (thread you thru the windows)

Back-chat:.....

Brattish Behaviour...To gain punishment..... (punishment is something you don't like, and I don't care what sort of pain slut you are, you wont like it, but you will get it)

Brattish Behaviour.....One off...... (not sure, you mean tossing one off cause you come up with a brilliant zinger......I would laugh and then beat the dogfuck outta you.....or let it go, depending)

US, here.

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 12:23:25 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

Lied:....Little white lie (disgusted look, the first few times)

Lied:.....Huge Lie but only to protect your loved one (long talk....)

Lied: ......And you meant it.... (thread you thru the windows)

Back-chat:.....

Brattish Behaviour...To gain punishment..... (punishment is something you don't like, and I don't care what sort of pain slut you are, you wont like it, but you will get it)

Brattish Behaviour.....One off...... (not sure, you mean tossing one off cause you come up with a brilliant zinger......I would laugh and then beat the dogfuck outta you.....or let it go, depending)

US, here.

Excellent answer Kind Sir!!!!

xxxxx

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 12:29:25 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail
Brattish Behaviour.....One off...... (not sure, you mean tossing one off cause you come up with a brilliant zinger......I would laugh and then beat the dogfuck outta you.....or let it go, depending)

I think I love you.

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 12:34:46 PM

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Eat your heart out....Cilla Black...LOL

For those in the US who haven't got a clue who this woman is.....She used to host a dating programme in the UK

lol

xxxx

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 12:53:15 PM

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I don't lie to daddy there's no need to. WE also have a very relaxed not strinct non protocal heavy relationship, so I am free to back talk all I wish, as long as I am not rude about it and when he says enough is enough I stop talking.

We don't do punishments. If I have done something majorly wrong we talk it out, get to the root of the issue, and then let it go.

quote:

ORIGINAL: lovingdomwanted

After a very interesting conversation with a really nice US Dom (who shall remain nameless).....this sub wonders regarding typical punishments/discipline methods as they tend to vary from the UK to the US.

The typical UK dom bulks at Domestic Discipline, whereby the US counterpart seems to embrace the concept......

So here we go.......

Lets see how UK/US....Subs/Doms.....Expect to from the following.....

Imagine you are in the concept of a semi-24/7 relationship and you did the following:

Lied:....Little white lie

Lied:.....Huge Lie but only to protect your loved one

Lied: ......And you meant it....

Back-chat:.....

Brattish Behaviour...To gain punishment.....

Brattish Behaviour.....One off......

xxxxxx

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 12:57:05 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: YourhandMyAss

I don't lie to daddy there's no need to. WE also have a very relaxed not strinct non protocal heavy relationship, so I am free to back talk all I wish, as long as I am not rude about it and when he says enough is enough I stop talking.

We don't do punishments. If I have done something majorly wrong we talk it out, get to the root of the issue, and then let it go.
quote:

ORIGINAL: lovingdomwanted

After a very interesting conversation with a really nice US Dom (who shall remain nameless).....this sub wonders regarding typical punishments/discipline methods as they tend to vary from the UK to the US.

The typical UK dom bulks at Domestic Discipline, whereby the US counterpart seems to embrace the concept......

So here we go.......

Lets see how UK/US....Subs/Doms.....Expect to from the following.....

Imagine you are in the concept of a semi-24/7 relationship and you did the following:

Lied:....Little white lie

Lied:.....Huge Lie but only to protect your loved one

Lied: ......And you meant it....

Back-chat:.....

Brattish Behaviour...To gain punishment.....

Brattish Behaviour.....One off......

xxxxxx

Very refreshing.......

So you haven't felt his rath against your flesh????

xx

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 1:30:03 PM

RCdc

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I don't lie.
I don't back chat.
I don't brat.

So these aren't relevant from this UK couple when it comes to punishments.

the.dark.

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 1:34:07 PM

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WE've done hard play time, Spankings and floggings and other yummy things that make me float, and I would certaintly love him spanking me hard enough tobruise or slightly welt the skin, he's not willing to go that far though, but it's never been for punishment, all for both of our pleasures combined. I enjoy him spanking me and flogging me an making my skin burn.

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lovingdomwanted

Very refreshing.......

So you haven't felt his rath against your flesh????

xx

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 2:10:06 PM

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Sama very rarely uses physical punishments, and when he does I know that I've really crossed the line. Usually when we have a problem, we talk it out.

I'm still struggling with the tendency to talk back, especially when I feel that my premise is better (I have a semi-rebellious streak...). That kind of action usually lands me in the corner or kneeling on linoleum to "think about my attitude." When I'm ready to speak respectfully and listen to what he has to say, we go back to talking it out. He also likes to bop me on the head to get my attention if he sees that I'm leaning towards bratty behavior. ^_^ Most of the time it makes me giggle and reminds me to be careful of my words or actions.

I don't lie to Sama, ever, because I want us to be able to have an open, honest relationship.

Shawna
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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 2:20:11 PM

OmegaG

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I don't lie and I'm not a brat. He laughs at my zingers and sometimes his hand finds my ass. And is back-chat the same as being lippy? I would never...... ummm I don't usually.......... OK, I can be sarcastic often, but only when he's in the right mood.

ETA: I'm one of those Americans that hasn't spoken English in years.

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 4:12:22 PM

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We talk to understand the source of the inappropriate behavior, make sure we come to an understanding on why it was inappropriate, make sure we understand what the appropriate options are in the future should the circumstance recur and then merrily go about our lives.

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 4:33:42 PM

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quote:

US, here.

Your answer helped me understand the question. I'm still fuzzy on what "semi-24/7" means.

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 4:41:45 PM

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I would only lie to him about a birthday present and such. There are things I don't share with him immediately but they don't have to do with him, but with my ums, and since we view umrearing from different perspectives I often find I need time to think about how to express it, and my thoughts.

I brat for his amusement and back talk, if by that you mean honest, open conversation without any speech restrictions is our everyday communication.

If I started to lie to him and to deliberately try to hurt him with words, it would mean there was a much bigger problem than a paddle could fix.

We don't use a punishment dynamic, we just talk while holding each other a lot. Boring, I know.

Spankings here are for fun.

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 4:54:13 PM

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We dont really have a punishment dynamic here...(US by the way)...

were I to lie....if it was to hide a birthday present..Id probably be more in trouble for actually buying a present than the lie part...I dont understand why I would need to lie to protect a loved one? So that doesnt really make sense to me...Daddy knows everything I do about my family....If I was to flat out lie and actually mean to lie, just for the sake of lying...Id be out the door.

Bratting....well, Daddy and I tend to exchange quips and verbal sparring back and forth quite often, its not really about bratting, although others from the outside have often asked him why I am so disrespectful sometimes...but I know when its ok and when its not....its more for humor..comic relief throughout the day...bratting just to get punished, wouldnt work here...if physical punishment is what youre reffering to. He just doesnt do that. Probably it would get me either ignored, or a stern warning. If I flat out disobeyed something...Id be out the door. And he's made that well known since the start of our relationship. According to him Im here because I want to be. That means I obey. When I stop obeying, the relationhship is over.

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 5:03:56 PM

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Hmm... interesting question.

I don't lie, so that's not an issue with us. Bratty behavior - I'm usually the 'one off' type. The first time, he'll give me 'the look', and I'll find my place quickly. If I continued .. I don't know - probably a really harsh spanking, nothing the least bit enjoyable. Then a discussion as to why a correction was necessary and a kiss.

During our last play session, I had to be corrected for an infraction and received a brief yet painful spanking with a talk and a kiss.

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/4/2008 11:00:33 PM

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Lies ... not a part of my dynamic with Master ... even if i was silly enough to try it, He'd know! And then He'd make me squirm until i fessed up. Not worth it LOL! That's not to say I've never told lies outside of Him and i, sometimes have to eg it would kill my aged mother to know i call Him Master LOL ... so it's more a sin of omission than a lie.

Bratting ... also a no no ... though i can be sassy, and there's plenty of repartee goes on. However, there is a line in the sand and i am quickly reminded of that if i edge over it. W/we do a lot of good humoured teasing and bantering of each other, but just lately mine was getting a bit disrespectful in terms of His size etc and i was put in my place. i'd not really realised i was doing it and have pulled my head in. i never want to be bratty, to me D/s is about obedience and respect, not disobedience and disrespect.

Punishment ... nope, don't do that here ... IF i ever got to the point where it was merited, then i know it would be something that would drive me nuts like standing in a corner with nothing to see or hear or do. My Mum worked that out 50 years ago LOL ... I used to get chair time as a kid! However, the mere thought of that keeps me in line ... Master also issues warnings so i know well in advance that i am pushing it and i back off. Spanking etc are all play activities here, never done in anger or for correction.

As a Domme, I operate under basically the same protocols.

Maam Jay aka violet[A]

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/5/2008 12:10:56 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: TracyTaken

quote:

US, here.

Your answer helped me understand the question. I'm still fuzzy on what "semi-24/7" means.

It's the same but different

BadOne

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/5/2008 2:10:20 AM

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what is a typical Dom? You chat about this with one person...
So a whole country with lots of Dom..is compared with one..and made typical.

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RE: Typical Punishments/Discipline - 3/5/2008 4:39:23 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum

It's the same but different

How is that different than different?

I must need more coffee.

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