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SteelofUtah -> ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 4:49:05 PM)
I have been thinking alot about the fact that my girl does a LOT for me and rarely asks for anything in return. I think of the things that I can do special for her and when I do them she always says that it wasn't necessary and I can appreciate that however I am curious as to if the subs and owned ones could enlighten me on things you don't ask for because you don't feel it is important that you wish you got more often. Play is a give in, I am talking those things you would like to ask for but think you might be imposing or asking too much. Those things that perhaps your Mastsr does not always think about and you don't want to suggest them. Basically I am looking for those things that you Live for, those things that make things better no matter how rare or small they are these are the things that make being HIS (or HERS) Completely worth it. As Always Steel

RedMagic1 -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 4:50:46 PM)
Saying please and thank you. Serious answer.

chamberqueen -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 5:01:38 PM)
Something that I always cherish is a really good, deep, long kiss - one that makes me weak in the knees. Another gift my Daddy gives me is the right to ask, at any time, for lap time. I straddle his legs and look him in the eyes, and I can ask him anything as He hugs me. Just knowing that He is willing to do that, whether we are in the middle of a session or not, makes me feel important to Him. Those things mean much more to me than any material gift. It makes me want to please Him even more.

slvebtchdeCarlos -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 5:09:16 PM)
i'd have to agree with chamberqueen. Personal time with Master means more to me than anything material. i'm not talking about play time, although that's important [8D], but since we don't live together, the snuggling, cuddling, playing with my hair, kissing, hugging times are very special to me. ~slavebitch

Bound2One -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 5:17:13 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah Basically I am looking for those things that you Live for, those things that make things better no matter how rare or small they are these are the things that make being HIS (or HERS) Completely worth it. The pre- and aftercare that he provides me. The loving caresses, kisses, stroking of hair... falling asleep tucked around one another. I've found the sort of security and safety he provides me with to be rare, and I value it highly.

junecleaver -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 5:22:06 PM)
If I want something, I let that want be known, maybe not in the forming of 'asking' but somehow. Of course, I excercise good judgment, common sense, and what I already know about my Dominant. If I wanted something strongly, he'd probably be a little miffed that I didn't let him know about it. Parting of knowing me and knowing what makes me tick is knowing what I want. Now learning how to ask with expectations...that's a hard lesson. lol But in the spirit of the thread....I really like it when he helps me stretch.

DesFIP -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 5:27:09 PM)
More play. He's so busy and we rarely have enough alone time in this house. Beyond that, bring me flowers. He actually doesn't like cut flowers, so he got me a flowering cyclamen for my birthday. I'd love a mini rose in a pot. Take me out for ice cream. Today we were in a store and he asked me to pick a candy bar. If he's getting himself a cookie from the jar, I always like it better if he holds one up for me to bite instead of just giving me one of my own. And an all time personal favorite, scratch my back hard.

xxblushesxx -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 5:31:34 PM)
petting. (my hair. on my head) and the soft way He talks to me when He does it. I love live theatre, especially comedy, but, I don't ask to be taken. Those moments that we're talking to someone about something (an acquaintance, friend, salesman, whatever), and someone says something that He totally disagrees with. He goes along with what the person is saying, but I can just 'see' what He is thinking. Photo sessions.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 5:38:25 PM)
Well, My Sir has done so much for me the last couple of weeks, I'm feeling very emotional. he is always generous, 2 laptops, a laser printer, external hard drive, all free. But those are from his work and being discarded due to upgrades. But he is restoring my messed up computer and saved my files and hard-drive. he has put in so much time on this challenging project, I'm welling up just writing about it. This will save me so much work and documents. the fact that he would spend so much time for me is touching.Love is in actions. Anyone can say I love you. few go out of their way for you. For every women its different. Supplying her her favorite food, getting her her favorite music. Finding out about the things she likes...anyone can give flowers, but knowing who she is and giving according to that goes so much further.

nyteMare -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 6:39:42 PM)
This may sound silly but the look in my Master's eyes while He tells me how proud He is of me, makes me feel SO honored to wear His collar!! Cuddle time too.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 6:53:29 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah I have been thinking alot about the fact that my girl does a LOT for me and rarely asks for anything in return. I think of the things that I can do special for her and when I do them she always says that it wasn't necessary and I can appreciate that however I am curious as to if the subs and owned ones could enlighten me on things you don't ask for because you don't feel it is important that you wish you got more often. Play is a give in, I am talking those things you would like to ask for but think you might be imposing or asking too much. Those things that perhaps your Mastsr does not always think about and you don't want to suggest them. Basically I am looking for those things that you Live for, those things that make things better no matter how rare or small they are these are the things that make being HIS (or HERS) Completely worth it. As Always Steel Tell her how much you value her. Show her, with cuddles and hugs, say how proud you are to call her your own.

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 7:20:20 PM)
How about training her that opening up is part of what makes you happy and you don't want to play guessing games.

TethersEnd -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 7:51:31 PM)
I have to agree what feeds me most is time. It's more priceless then any act or gift.

fairerthanshe -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 8:26:00 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross How about training her that opening up is part of what makes you happy and you don't want to play guessing games. Gotta agree with LA on this one ( shock dismay) - your girl needs to appreciate what you give her and not come back with this 'i'm not worthy' stuff - learning how to be properly thankful is one part of being a slave - the other part is learning how to communicate the things you treasure about your Master. It's not out of the realm of slavish thinking to express "I love it when you play with my hair" or "it makes me warm and giddy when you call me puddin' pop". For me, anytime SJ refers to me as his girl, property or slave, I am happy as can be. Verbal approval, like "good girl", is another thing that just sends me and SJ knows it because of how I react. well wishes ~ fairer than she

hejira92 -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 8:38:32 PM)
For some, quality time is the thing that touches them. For others, it's acts of service, or gifts. For me, it's physical affection- when Master touches me unexpectedly, or massages me, or grabs me suddenly for a hug or bite. It's those moments that melt me. It's those moments I live for. alluding to the book "The five love languages". (the fifth language is words of affirmation)

ownedgirlie -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 8:41:28 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: fairerthanshe Gotta agree with LA on this one ( shock dismay) - your girl needs to appreciate what you give her and not come back with this 'i'm not worthy' stuff - learning how to be properly thankful is one part of being a slave - the other part is learning how to communicate the things you treasure about your Master. It's not out of the realm of slavish thinking to express "I love it when you play with my hair" or "it makes me warm and giddy when you call me puddin' pop". Wonderful post. Puddin' pop is cute. :)

Sunnyfey -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 8:43:09 PM)
more erm emotion, he just resently had a divorce, so i understand it. it just upsets me sometimes, but he still lets me know how much he cares for me.

girlygurl -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/4/2008 10:19:52 PM)
When my Sir tells me I have pleased Him it fills my heart with joy. Recently, He has shared more than He ever has before with regard to His feelings for me. Hearing the words "I love you" from Him completes me. I can't put into words how much joy being His brings me, but I'm sure most here understand what I mean. girly

jenf -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/5/2008 12:27:30 AM)
i crave constant reassurance...and He gives it...thoughtful replies to my e mails, adoring text messages, etc. Material things...hasn't been an issue yet...i am perfectly able to provide for myself and don't need anything from Him...he does buy all our "gear" for play

colouredin -> RE: ~Things left unsaid~ (3/5/2008 4:12:04 AM)
I personally will say, oh gosh Sir i really need a hug now and he doesnt mind, in fact it normally makes him smile. His slave is far more cautious if she wants anything "yeah but will it look like i am telling him what to do". I have always thought that sometimes you HAVE to communicate what you need or else you go on needing it and it will become a bigger issue. I just find a "thanks strabs" fills me with a lovely glow no matter what it is that I have done. I dont need it from him but sometimes it is nice to feel appriciated.

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