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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/5/2008 4:17:07 AM   
sirsholly


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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/5/2008 4:53:18 AM   
joy2u


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Status: offline 		Only because i feel that, with my Master, i have all that i need and want already and i have much more than i ever had before or could have without Him, i don't ask for anything.  i feel that my Master gives me far more than i could ever ask or wish for.  He does much more than anyone else has ever done for me.  It's not that i feel i don't deserve it.  It's just that i am content without anything else.  Being His is all that i need, honestly. 
 
Spontaneity is very special to me.  Things that are done out of the blue, that i wasn't expecting or had any clue about give, me a wonderful feeling.  When my Master surprises me by taking the day off from work on my birthday so that He can spend it with me (which He does every year, but i am always surprised by it) and when He takes me on a surprise trip to a place He has heard me mention that i would like to visit and when He sits with me, outside in the evening and shares a glass of wine with me and talks with me, these are the things that mean a lot to me.  These are the special moments that feel my memories and make me feel very warm and cozy, inside, whenever i think about them.
 
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quote:

ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

I am curious as to if the subs and owned ones could enlighten me on things you don't ask for because you don't feel it is important that you wish you got more often.

Basically I am looking for those things that you Live for, those things that make things better no matter how rare or small they are these are the things that make being HIS (or HERS) Completely worth it.

As Always

Steel

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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/5/2008 5:07:42 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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with someone else special to me, the gentle brush of his hand against mine and the smile shining bright in his eyes - *swoon*


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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/5/2008 5:18:01 AM   
TracyTaken


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quote:

Play is a give in, I am talking those things you would like to ask for but think you might be imposing or asking too much. Those things that perhaps your Mastsr does not always think about and you don't want to suggest them.


I cannot think of a thing that I would not ask (provided it is something we could reasonably afford; he could reasonable do, etc.).  There is a thing that I've stopped asking for because he always says "no":

"Can't we sell this nightmare of a crap-hole house and move into some nice tidy condo where everything works?"

No, we have to fix this incubus. 

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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/5/2008 5:42:50 AM   
Dnomyar


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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/5/2008 6:07:31 AM   
BossyShoeBitch


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

How about training her that opening up is part of what makes you happy and you don't want to play guessing games.

LA,
While I agree with you completely and opening up is something that Michael requires 100% of the time, I feel it's not always about "opening up" and telling someone what you want.  Sometimes, it just feels really, really good to be nurtured without having said a word.. 
When I do something for Michael that I know he loves, he is quick to tell me how much more meaning it has for him that he didn't have to tell me to do it.

One of the sweetest things Michael does  for me (and makes my vanilla friends go "awwwwww")  is that he is always sending me pictures of flowers from his garden that have just bloomed..  It's one of the many things he does that lets me know I am on his mind...always...

Now the kissing..  The long, deep kisses that last for days.  Well, those are pretty good too.. *wink*

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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/5/2008 8:26:32 AM   
RCdc


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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/5/2008 9:55:56 AM   
sweetnurseBBW


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Status: offline 		Master is very affectionate and is very good at showing he is pleased. I bring up things when I feel the need to and we discuss them. He encourages me to talk about things.  We both have busy schedules and the best thing he can give me is an afternoon of cuddling. It just makes everything seem right.

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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/5/2008 10:02:09 AM   
Daddyslilpookie


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Status: offline 		 I would have to say more play time too. Daddy has a very stressful job and we need more privacy because we have a daughter and my parents here too.It gets so frustrating sometimes because we live in a very expensive area the cheapest rent here is $2,000 a month, we pay my parents $600. We can't move because Daddy's job is here. We are lucky to get play time twice a month! Oh what's a girl to do?

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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/5/2008 11:47:56 AM   
bliss1


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Status: offline 		Having him just make soft gentle love to me.  No scene, no play of the bdsm part. 
When he takes time to do that, I feel blended into him and seek to please him even more.

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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/6/2008 4:28:15 AM   
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Status: offline 		I thought hard about what I would want in your girls shoes.  For me, I would like more leisure time.  That would mean taking care of some of the household stuff, looking after the dogs, taking care of a bill or two that I don't have to pay.  Something along those lines.   The best thing My Lord does is give me "permission" to take leisure time.  "Why don't you take tomorrow and just do whatever you feel like doing.  Take a bath, or read a book.  Spend the whole day screwing around on the internet or on the phone."  Being told that it's "ok" for me to relax makes me feel like I'm not being completely selfish.  He doesn't tell me what to do with my free time, but I always feel like I should be doing something "productive."  Having him notice how worn or frazzled I am and let me know that it's ok to take some time for myself is a truly nice thing to do.

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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/6/2008 7:46:12 AM   
littleone35


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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/6/2008 6:22:32 PM   
FullofShadows


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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/6/2008 7:12:01 PM   
KatsClaws12


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Status: offline 		I have to say that most all of the post I agree with. More time with my Mistress, getting pet, helping me with one of my little projects... those little things are great. I would rather get or make my Mistress things before I could accept or want anything more then what She already gives me.
Some little things that I thought about would be to stick a random note here or there for her. In her purse or on the bathroom mirror , next to the coffee pot.....anywhere that she is likely to go during her normal daily routine.
To me this says that... I was thinking about you...or I appreciate you....little small things like that make me so happy!

Kitten

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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/6/2008 7:27:54 PM   
catize


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One of the dominants in my life says he misses what we do and what I want to hear is that he misses me.  But I don’t tell him that ‘cuz I’m not willing to face the potential truth.

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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/7/2008 12:48:43 AM   
wolfsprincess


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

Basically I am looking for those things that you Live for, those things that make things better no matter how rare or small they are these are the things that make being HIS (or HERS) Completely worth it.

As Always

Steel



Master has always been generous of His time with me, as well as showing affection.  But there WAS something He did once that completely blew me away.  Arriving home from a long day at the office, i was beckoned to the bathroom where H'e run me a bubble bath!  Not only did He He undress me and help me in - He bathed me.  i don't remember ever feeling so "special" as i did then.

princess

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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/7/2008 10:07:15 AM   
LuckyAlbatross


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ORIGINAL: BossyShoeBitch
LA,
While I agree with you completely and opening up is something that Michael requires 100% of the time, I feel it's not always about "opening up" and telling someone what you want.  Sometimes, it just feels really, really good to be nurtured without having said a word.. 
When I do something for Michael that I know he loves, he is quick to tell me how much more meaning it has for him that he didn't have to tell me to do it.

There's no doubt that instrinsic service or giving has a special quality to it.  Getting to know someone is part of that process.  There's an intimacy to someone KNOWING what your regular starbucks order is in the summer vs the winter and going for that which is irreplaceable.

But I think doms learn more quickly than subs that if you really want something done by another for you, and you want it done well, it's got to be directly communicated.  Otherwise it's mostly a matter of luck and observation.

There are some "lucky" people out there, and very good observers, but I'd say that's really only about 10% of the whole.


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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/7/2008 1:17:41 PM   
kallisto


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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/7/2008 5:53:44 PM   
TreasureKY


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quote:

ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

... things you don't ask for because you don't feel it is important that you wish you got more often.

Play is a give in, I am talking those things you would like to ask for but think you might be imposing or asking too much. Those things that perhaps your Mastsr does not always think about and you don't want to suggest them.

Basically I am looking for those things that you Live for, those things that make things better no matter how rare or small they are these are the things that make being HIS (or HERS) Completely worth it.


Hearing that I have pleased him or that he is proud of me is something that I live for and fits the description in your last paragraph... it's not something I would ask for but not because it would be asking too much.  The only thing that I can think of that that fits the description of imposition is that I couldn't see specifically requesting that he play with my hair.  Even though it's something that physically puts me into a type of subspace, it just seems like a bizarre request. 

Edited for clarity.


< Message edited by TreasureKY -- 3/7/2008 5:59:31 PM >

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RE: ~Things left unsaid~ - 3/7/2008 7:18:58 PM   
BoiJen


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Status: offline 		I get the closeness I desire. I get most of what I want because there is little or no conflict and She indulges me...I'm a spoiled boi and I know it. I'd like to be able to go out and play my video games in the arcade. They're violent and shaking...the cop games that have a recoil affect. It's the next best thing to a firing range. I guess it's something odd. But I get something from it that I don't get anywhere else. So...that's it

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