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need2bused6 -> Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 7:31:58 PM)
As I have mentioned I am new to this board and my experience with a Domme has been some what limited. What is the proper way to address a Domme the normal respectful manor aside? I have seen many different ways in posts with spelling differences. I was trained to use Domme. Every Mistress I am sure has a preference and replying to an e-mail is hard trying to figure out the proper title and spelling. Are there basic rules that are ok to use then be corrected if not liked? I guess I want a cliff note version of How to address a Domme for dummies.

darchChylde -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 7:41:46 PM)
Perhaps this is more a reflection on my intent, meaning that i seek nothing more than friendship; but when i send a message to a dominant woman (or anyone else here) i address them precisely how they present themselves (more specifically, their screen name) without any honorific. In the real world, i ask their name and how they wish to be addressed; and if they desire to be addressed with an honorific, i seek a compromise between that desire and the limits imposed by my relationship with my Dominant. Generally, we can settle on "Lady" as "Ma'am" is reserved for my Dominant and i prefer not to use "Mistress" for several reasons. Just as often, simply calling a dominant woman by name satisfies all obligations.

ShaktiSama -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 7:49:40 PM)
Short answer: there is no "right" way that applies to everyone. I often think the safest thing to do if sending private messages is to address them "Dear (insert full handle correctly spelled)", and then proceed from there. A woman whose handle is "Mistress Molly" probably will not be offended if you call her "Mistress Molly". Other women may not like to be called "mistress" by a man they do not know. Other things I have heard: "Miss" and "Ma'am", "Goddess", "Mistress". Again, these things are not universal "correct" things and may not work for an individual woman. I do not get upset about them because I always assume that people mean well. But generally if you have never met a woman before, you should not call her "Goddess" unless she has "Goddess" in her handle.

LadyHibiscus -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 8:00:53 PM)
I will warn you now about the dreaded "ma'am". People have been addressing me as "ma'am since I grew breasts. I always thought of it as a courtesy. Now, I hear many young women being hugely offended by being ma'amed, saying it's an affront to their youth! I am not a female supremacist, and anyone who starts off calling me "goddess" or some such is going to get the hairy eyeball. "Miss" is pretty safe, and you can be brave and ASK for a good form of address.

SunNMoon -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 8:16:27 PM)
I’m going to second Lady Hibiscus on being very careful using ma’am. I personally always liked Dear/Hi/Hello Screen Name. Followed by something they liked in my profile, asking a question and telling me a little about them. I always found being called goddess, mistress or domme a little odd since I don’t know them at all. I like to start as a more equal relationship in the early conversations.

amayos -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 8:16:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: need2bused6 As I have mentioned I am new to this board and my experience with a Domme has been some what limited. What is the proper way to address a Domme the normal respectful manor aside? I have seen many different ways in posts with spelling differences. I was trained to use Domme. Every Mistress I am sure has a preference and replying to an e-mail is hard trying to figure out the proper title and spelling. Are there basic rules that are ok to use then be corrected if not liked? I guess I want a cliff note version of How to address a Domme for dummies. When in doubt, politely ask. That is most proper—be it Master or Mistress.

hopelesslyInvo -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 8:46:41 PM)
pronouns pronouns pronouns! don't say hello ma'am, mistress, goddess, princess... say "hello, pleased to meet you" and if you care to play internet games, capitalize the Y~

DianeB269 -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 8:58:48 PM)
Just don't call me ma'am, I hate that.. Diane

chiaThePet -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 9:53:03 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DianeB269 Just don't call me ma'am, I hate that.. Diane Yes Ma'am. Oops. Aw fuck it. Oops. Nevermind. chia* (the pet)

MistressDolly -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 9:55:16 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: chiaThePet Yes Ma'am. Oops. Aw fuck it. Oops. Nevermind. chia* (the pet) lol

darchChylde -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 10:01:15 PM)
"Hey you fucking bitch!!!" Generally doesn't work.

hopelesslyInvo -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 10:12:13 PM)
lol not the post i expected from you

Venatrix -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 10:22:10 PM)
I like "grand poobah" a lot. Seriously, I don't really care what people call me as long as it isn't rude or inappropriately familiar.

SixFootMaster -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 10:31:43 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: darchChylde "Hey you fucking bitch!!!" Generally doesn't work. Ooooooh.... Six,

twistedwillow -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 10:34:06 PM)
I prefer to be addressed as 'Oh Great and wise one, Mistress of all Mistress', Goddess of all Goddess', Maam, Madam, Lady of the lake, Ms, Miss, Divine and heavenly creature, holder of the key to all chastity belts and despoiler of virgin subs' But failing that ... Dear\hi\hello twisted or twistedwillow will do. As most of the others have said there is no right or wrong way to address someone, and imo, as far as it goes, I'm just a bunch of words on a screen you owe me no alliegance or respect etc, however common curtesy is always appreciated. regards, Oh Great and wise one, Mistress of all Mistress', Goddess of all Goddess', maam, Madam, Lady of the lake, Ms, Miss, divine and heavenly creature, holder of the key to all chastity belts and despoiler of virgin subs aka twisted

MissHarlet -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 10:48:45 PM)
I prefer MissHarlet .. or MissH .. for that is my " name" here .. I strongly object to being addressed as Mistress as I dont own them ... or even know them most of the time .. and being addressed by strangers as Goddess just makes me laugh or irritates me beyond belief depending on my mood .. but neither impresses me enough to wish to get to know the author of the email Now Supreme Goddes of the Universe that oversees all other Universes might at least get my attention lol

hopelesslyInvo -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/4/2008 10:51:35 PM)
how about one domme to rule them all, one domme to find them, one domme to bring them all, and in the darkness bind them? +shift key action

MaamJay -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/5/2008 12:22:05 AM)
I totally agree, do not assume as that tends to make "an ass out of u and me"! It is far safer to go with their screen name, after all, that's what THEY chose to be known as here ... so, for eg, you would address Me as Maam Jay. I'm one who likes Ma'am and hates Miss so don't go there! Once the first hellos are done, if you are someone I want to correspond further with, I will explain how you are to address Me and the rationale for that, and when it might be allowed to change (to something more intimate in relationship terms such as Mistress or my Lady). I will also explain how I wish you to refer to Master and why. Easy! Maam Jay aka violet[A] Oh ... and if you are a sub approaching Me as a Domme ... DON'T use my sub name of violet ... only He who collared me uses that in a bdsm sense!

chezzy52 -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/5/2008 12:29:55 AM)
I normally refer to any Domina by their screen name.Then i ask if they prefer a certain form of address.

Goddess2002 -> RE: Proper way to Address a Mistress (3/5/2008 3:56:19 AM)
Actually, being from the South, I enjoy the use of the term Ma'am. I was brought up saying it as a form of respect, so I find it acceptable. Conversely, I do not tolerate being called "Mistress" by anyone other than my slave. I agree with Amayos...it's most appropriate to politely ask if you're not sure.[;)]

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