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LeatherMasterKY -> RE: A neglectful Dom (3/5/2008 6:55:00 PM)
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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross
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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx
The problem with being a sub, is that, you are already, by definition, a vulnerable open, person.
Uhh which definition is that exactly? I'd suggest not making such a false universal generalization.
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When looking (online especially, but really any time) you must (imo) hide the vulnerability, and be not only NOT vulnerable, but, in charge.
You have to be in charge of who you speak with, how they speak to you and treat you, and the pace of the relationship.
You cannot be submissive to everyone or even most who contact you.
It must be nice not to be held accountable for your actions- most subs and slaves I know are, either by their doms, or by life in general. Sub doesn't mean you get to pass on being accountable and responsible for yourself.
LA; I'm sorry if I offended you or anyone else. She asked for advice and I took the time to give it. Most of the subs I know, have met and talked to talk about the perils of being open and vulnerable, (and trying not to be taken advantage of for it).
As far as the second part, I have no idea where you're going with that. I am telling her to hold herself and others accountable for how they treat her, and they will follow accordingly. I am actually telling her exactly what you said.
It's an open forum. Again, I do apologize if you were offended by anything I said.
*edited to add...as you can tell...this is Christina...I will sign out of HoneyMaster's account now. *
When He uses my laptop, He forgets to sign out sometimes.
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