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Auralise -> Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/23/2005 8:14:13 AM)

How do other slaves who work full time find the energy to take care of their Master's every desire when they want it? I am about to start work full time and am concerned about being tired and wanting rest when I get home - after cooking and cleaning dishes of course.

Does this make me NOT a slave??? Thanks.

Concerned, auralise



Elegant -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/23/2005 8:20:58 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Auralise

How do other slaves who work full time find the energy to take care of their Master's every desire when they want it? I am about to start work full time and am concerned about being tired and wanting rest when I get home - after cooking and cleaning dishes of course.

Does this make me NOT a slave??? Thanks.

Concerned, auralise



You and he decide on your slavery..not the tasks you perform.

Regardless of your position as Master or slave or whatever you are still in this relationship TOGETHER! Together you both need talk to decide who is responsible for which 'chores' now that you are also working at another job (I am assuming that he also works).

Perhaps part of your service IS working at another job...bringing in money. A slave cannot do everything and sometimes Master needs to remember that a tired and stressed slave is a slave who will burn out. Who has the responsibility of taking care of the slave? Sometimes 'taking care' means helping with chores and tasks so that there is time for slave to serve Master in other, more pleasurable ways..and time for slave to rest.



EmeraldSlave2 -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/23/2005 8:23:41 AM)

Of course it doesn't make you not a slave, it makes you a slave who is human.

The majority of doms and subs, when this occurs, talk it over and decide on a set "down time" when the sub comes home in order to let go of the stress of the day and ground themself in the happiness of home. It can be ritualized, it can be changing clothes, it can be just ten minutes zoning out. Whatever works for you, most people find that just taking those few minutes to re-adjust is all the difference in the world.

Anyway, no master ever gets what they want ALL the time EXACTLY when they want it. This is reality. If he's expecting otherwise, he needs a reality check.

So talk talk talk with your dom, figure out what exactly his expectations are, figure out how that can work into your life and communicate how things feel. Make adjustments as necessary.

I'm concerned however that you're seriously questioning your orientation JUST over this issue. What do YOU consider makes you a slave?



plantlady64 -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/23/2005 9:02:28 AM)

Hello There,
I work full time and have since before I met my Master. I think pretty much the way you'd respond in a vanilla relationship to being out of the home for your job works for my Master and I.
There are days I push my energy right to the very limit I can stand to do so, and then push just that little more to try and do something I know would please my Master. There are also days where my wonderful Master on his own sees me struggle to do all I need to get done and will pitch in on his own. Where I end He begins, and where He ends I begin. There are days he's even pressed the kids clothes for school and let me sleep in knowing I was up late the night before.
We all have preconceived notions of what we feel a perfect slave should do in a home. Using them as guidlines we know we may not meet every second, but try to obtain seems to be more the norm than being able to achieve perfection.
I'd also like to say my money is his money. Not that I don't get to spend it in ways I feel we should most of the time. Ultimately how my money is distributed is completely up to my Master. I belong to him completely & all my assets and money is also under his governing power.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne



Evanesce -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/23/2005 9:15:44 AM)


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ORIGINAL: Auralise

How do other slaves who work full time find the energy to take care of their Master's every desire when they want it? I am about to start work full time and am concerned about being tired and wanting rest when I get home - after cooking and cleaning dishes of course.

Does this make me NOT a slave??? Thanks.



Do you and he view you as his property? Do you feel you are owned? Does he make the rules and you follow them? These are the things that make you his slave, not what you can or cannot get done around the house in a 24-hour period. I only work part-time, but our house is enormous. If I only cleaned two rooms per day, I'd still be eight rooms behind when the week was out. Add to that taking care of ten pets, dishes, cooking, shopping, and the time He requires me to take for myself (and to do my nails for Him), and it's impossible to do it all. He knows this. And He knows that some things are just not going to always be perfect and spotless. Not without help.

If your Master wants your attention when he's in the mood for play, he's going to have to accept that some things around the house are not going to get done, or he'll have to pitch in and do them himself. There's no such thing as Wonderslave.



OsideGirl -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/23/2005 9:18:03 AM)

I have a career which I've worked very hard to attain. Master wishes for that to continue. (But, then again I wouldn't have chosen to be with someone that wanted me to leave it.)

The bottom line is that real life happens. This means that there will be times when Master will need to make dinner or do a load of laundry. This means that as his wife, I sometimes have to make decisions that effect both of us.

I can't do everything, and he accepts that. Our view is that the Dominant/Master is responsible for caring for his toys. 'Cause if you break your toys you can't play with them anymore.



perverseangelic -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/23/2005 11:44:04 AM)

Heh, my housework question was getting at something like this.

I get 1/2 hour to an hour after I get home to just sit and play on my computer or do something similarly mind-numbing. He doesn't ask me for anything durning that time so I can get out of work headspace and make my feet stop hurting.

It helps a lot, but I'm still often tired.



RainGod -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/23/2005 12:13:58 PM)

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How do other slaves who work full time find the energy to take care of their Master's every desire when they want it? I am about to start work full time and am concerned about being tired and wanting rest when I get home - after cooking and cleaning dishes of course.


I was once in a very deep real-life relationship in which My submissive and I lived together. she was an RN and as some of you know, RN's work those gruelling 12 hour shifts, and it is mentally as well as physically exausting. I was also working full time in law enforcement which also can have some long hours. However, there were times I would be home long before she, and sometimes she would have to work on days I was off duty.

Now, what I am about to say is probably going to cause some folks to say I am not a "real Dom", or think I am a wannabe, but I think it fits here. When I was there early and she was working 12 hours, I would cook dinner and have it ready when she got home. (yes, I can cook, quite well.. lol). It isn't that hard to tossing in a couple loads of laundry and fold them when they're done, so I didn't mind at all. Sometimes... now this is real love here... I would run her a very hot bubble bath in the garden tub and place candles all around it with Barry White in the CD player for her to relax, and then run interference with the kids so she could have some 'down-time'. If I took her car to the store and noticed it was low on fuel, I would gas it up for her so she didn't have to the next morning.

These are things I did not because I was being a switch or anything... but because she was tired and I was relieving some of the stress from her. she always took great care of Me when she was off, so why not return some favors? In short, this is how any relationship should be in My opinion. she was important to Me, so I took care of her. A submissive or a slave is a very highly cherished girl, or should be.

quote:

Does this make me NOT a slave???


I dunno... does any of the things I mentioned make Me any less of a Dom?



plantlady64 -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/23/2005 12:25:36 PM)


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I dunno... does any of the things I mentioned make Me any less of a Dom?

Hello There,
In my opinion it means just the opposite. It means as she was a part of you her mental and physical state was something you cherished and nurtured.
I think if anything it made you a better Dom than those who only take and don't consider the emotional well being of their sub/slaves.

Way to go Rain God!!!
Sincerely,
sub suzanne



denimknight -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/23/2005 12:28:03 PM)

Not only does your working outside the home detract from what you are, in many ways I think it magnifies it. Your service is not restrained to the home, a place that is safe and generally familiar. Your dedication to the One you have given yourself to is strong enough that it drives you to take your service out into the world.
The will to do what must be done seems to be one of the most critical and yet too often overlooked elements of a slave. Your willingness to wander outside of your comfort zone is admirable and you should be commended for it.


respectfully submitted
dk



girl4you2 -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/23/2005 12:59:46 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: RainGod

These are things I did not because I was being a switch or anything... but because she was tired and I was relieving some of the stress from her. she always took great care of Me when she was off, so why not return some favors? In short, this is how any relationship should be in My opinion. she was important to Me, so I took care of her. A submissive or a slave is a very highly cherished girl, or should be.

quote:

Does this make me NOT a slave???


I dunno... does any of the things I mentioned make Me any less of a Dom?


seems to me it makes you a caring and loving human being in a deeply committed relationship.



FLButtSlut -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/23/2005 11:58:41 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: plantlady64

Hello There,
I work full time and have since before I met my Master. I think pretty much the way you'd respond in a vanilla relationship to being out of the home for your job works for my Master and I.
There are days I push my energy right to the very limit I can stand to do so, and then push just that little more to try and do something I know would please my Master. There are also days where my wonderful Master on his own sees me struggle to do all I need to get done and will pitch in on his own. Where I end He begins, and where He ends I begin. There are days he's even pressed the kids clothes for school and let me sleep in knowing I was up late the night before.
We all have preconceived notions of what we feel a perfect slave should do in a home. Using them as guidlines we know we may not meet every second, but try to obtain seems to be more the norm than being able to achieve perfection.
I'd also like to say my money is his money. Not that I don't get to spend it in ways I feel we should most of the time. Ultimately how my money is distributed is completely up to my Master. I belong to him completely & all my assets and money is also under his governing power.
Sincerely,
sub suzanne




First of all, it is wonderful to see the posts here about the Doms who understand that real life happens.

Suzanne,

I guess I can't help having what I do in the world from coming through, so please take this as just the question it is meant to be.

I know that often slaves give control of their assets to their masters, and on one level I don't have an issue with that. You mentioned children though, and so immediately my thoughts went to...are they yours, his or both? I only ask because of all the times I have seen things where when things went bad, the "agreement" was that the slave did not retain those assets. Certainly, this is not always the case, but I just couldn't help wondering, and mean no offense by asking, if they are your children, have their financial interests been protected in your handing over control of your finances and assets to him?

Working in Family Law for so long, which typically involves divorce, I can't help but worry about those things.



sweetpettjenny -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/24/2005 5:43:47 AM)

Be still my heart!!! why can't you live in CT!!! You are a wonderful example of a loving Dominant. Don't ever lose your values in what others believe Sir.



RainGod -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/24/2005 10:28:57 AM)

sweetpetjenny said:

quote:

Be still my heart!!! why can't you live in CT!!! You are a wonderful example of a loving Dominant. Don't ever lose your values in what others believe Sir.


<looks around> Who Me? lol I am so charmed. Thank you, jenny. you're very sweet. Flattery will get you everywhere with Me, baybeeee! lol

I have never been anywhere near that far north. I am a native Texan who almost freezes here in the Carolina mountains in winter... imagine how bad off I would be in CT? Let's reverse this situation: Why can't you be in NC? lol

Again, thank you for the compliments.. that means a lot to Me.



ChereeAmoor -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/24/2005 11:25:50 AM)

I used to work and go to college and then have to deal with the house and chores and all of that mess - got about 5 hours of sleep a night and nearly ruined my sense of fun. Does worry about exhaustion make you not a slave? No, it makes you human, as EmeraldSlave2 said so rightly. We are not machines, and if we were, we would not be perpetual motion machines.

All of the nice things RainGod mentions doing doesn't make him any less a Dom, either. As far as your Master is concerned, Auralise, he might just have to go get his own glass of iced tea, and the world will NOT stop. Really it won't.



mystictryst -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/24/2005 3:13:41 PM)

When I first got together with my Master, I tried to do it all.. Work full time, cooking, cleaning, shopping... It burned me out quick.. Not that I couldn't do it, I could, but I became very resentful of him - sitting on his dommly ass doing nothing... *lol* For nearly two years I tried to be super woman... *Please note that for the most part, this was an expectation I placed on myself. I thought that being a submissive and/or slave meant just that. I thought I wasn't being "sub" enough if I didn't do it all*

Then I went back to school for three years and flipped the dynamic of our relationship.

And now two years later, we've gotten things worked out.

He does the laundry (I can't make it smell like he does), he vaccuums (I can't any more), and will often help with washing the floors. I do all the cooking and most of the cleaning (bathrooms, dusting, dishes, etc)... I also do all the shopping - including his clothes. The yard work is 50/50 (mostly). And the rules aren't in stone, we share those things too.

You just have to sort your groove out - and he needs to get real. I told my Master early on (and I told my ex husband this too), if you want all the benefits of a stay at home wife (cooking, cleaning, etc) then get a higher paying job cause I can't do it all and work too... :)

*edited for clarity*



FLButtSlut -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/24/2005 3:28:25 PM)

What truly amazes me are the the "masterstudlies" who think that sitting around on their collective asses watching as their slaves are working until they are ready to collapse, because of the "I am the man/master and it is my slave's duty to do all these things", while some of these dumbasses don't even HAVE jobs!

No one can do it all, it just isn't realistic. Has anyone else ever noticed that it is usually the younger subs/slaves who think that this is how things have to be? Certainly not all (Emerald), but definately more often than us "older" ones. I think once you reach a certain age, you are more apt to realize that reality intrudes on the fantasy, and you can't be running around the house naked except for your collar and 6 inch high heels while little Timmy and Janie are doing their homework.

On the other side of that coin, though. How many would leave their jobs to be home full time taking care of all those duties because their master made enough and they didn't NEED to work?



RainGod -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/24/2005 5:10:42 PM)

FLButtSlut posted:

quote:

How many would leave their jobs to be home full time taking care of all those duties because their master made enough and they didn't NEED to work?


Now that is a totally different story. I, Myself am looking for just that.... a girl who might want to stay home and be domestic. I have a very real need for some help in that area. But I must say if she doesn't have a job, the house should be her responsibility.

Yeah... I would still spoil her with treats though... lol.

quote:

while some of these dumbasses don't even HAVE jobs!


Oh here is where I can probably get flamed like hell. I am trying to figure out in My mind... why do they not work? Is not part of being in control having the responsibility to provide for what is Yours? Am I confused? I can understand if a Man is disabled... or otherwise incapacitated, but are talking about Men who sit on the couch in their whitey tighties swilling cheap beer all day and belching orders when the sub returns from work? Surely not. Comments on Doms who will not work when they are able bodied?



OsideGirl -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/24/2005 5:19:19 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: FLButtSlut

On the other side of that coin, though. How many would leave their jobs to be home full time taking care of all those duties because their master made enough and they didn't NEED to work?


That would be my version of hell. I hate cleaning. If Master made enough money for me not to have to work, I'd probably start my own business and work from home. Besides, if he made enough money so that I didn't have to work, he could afford to pay for maid service.



Evanesce -> RE: Full Time Work & Taking Care of Master (9/24/2005 5:55:13 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: FLButtSlut

On the other side of that coin, though. How many would leave their jobs to be home full time taking care of all those duties because their master made enough and they didn't NEED to work?


I did exactly that. I left a GREAT job, with excellent pay and benefits, moved 150 miles and took a huge leap of faith to live the life of a full-time slave. It was the most terrifying thing I'd ever done in my life, and I thank the stars to this day that I was able to see past my fear and take that leap.

As one who has been financially self-sufficient from the age of 13, and on her own from the age of 17, I learned very quickly that the only person I could count on to take care of me was me. How was I going to be able to rely on a man to "take care of me" when every man I'd ever known had failed me in some very cruel ways? Believe me... Master and I butted heads every way to Tuesday over the issue of my not working. Ultimately, however, my desire to live the life He offered proved stronger than my fears.

Denise
the Kaptin's wench



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