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Dnomyar -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 8:50:14 AM)
Ok. When you women come to meet me be naked. That way I know that your not lieing about certian things. Bring a large measureing tape and I will prove to you I don't lie either.

YourhandMyAss -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 8:51:12 AM)
I don't care if someone wants to eat McD's all on their own time, butI'd be pissed they were such a cheap skate as to try to pawn off MCd's as a decent date. At least take me to my fav burger joint, if a burger joint is going to be our lunch and date, not some shitty old over priced icky food mc d's/ quote: ORIGINAL: OmegaG I'd be pissed that you thought McDonalds was fit for human consumption.

LotusSong -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 8:51:43 AM)
I'd have a friend go along with me the first time. If the person you are meeting is not to your liking, just have a pleasant meeting and say thanks but no thanks at the end. NEVER allow them to buy the meal. Refuse any gifts as "inappropriate at this time". This way you are not obligated in any way shape for form and can part with a clear conscience If they ask for another meeting, just tell them that you feel this is not a good match for you. End of comment and go on your way with your friend. (Why bring a friend? They can watch your back in case the person tries to follow you home or approach you without your knowledge)

SinergyNstrumpet -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 8:52:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum quote: ORIGINAL: SinergyNstrumpet Most men that I have met lied about their height. I have never understood this to be honest. I can say that a woman who is 5 foot 1 or 2 may not notice a man lying about their height by an inch or two, but if a guy tells me they are 6 foot, and I meet them and they are shorter than me, I am going to notice right away[:D] What did I do about this? Continue on with the date for about an hour, and then leave never to email or return their calls again. I do not like liars. ~Sinergy's strumpet~ I have to laff All the women I have met at various get together have lied about their wieght. The owner of the bbs bulletin board service used to joke that he should automatically add 20% to the girls weight profiles. He claimed that would be much more accurate LOL. BadOne I never lied about my weight. I didn't list it. I did have a recent photo of me on my profile when looking. In fact before Daddy met me he saw me on cam... my suggestion after talking to him for about 2 months over the phone.

colouredin -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 8:53:01 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: somethndif quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin Depends on the differance, if its an out and out lie (i once met someone who was deaf but hadnt told me, now I have no problem with the fact that he was deaf I had a huge problem with not being told) I will leave. Whoa! There is a big difference between lying, and not disclosing something. If you didn't ask, his/her failure to disclose being deaf is not a lie. And even if you asked whether the person has any disabilities, a "no" answer is not a lie, in my view, since many, if not all people who are deaf do not consider it a disability at all. I think you did have a problem with him/her being deaf. And that attitude is probably why it wasn't disclosed right away. The deaf person probably just wanted a chance to meet you and to be judged as a person, and not just for being deaf. Instead of being told that you would not meet him/her because of a knee-jerk reaction of, "Ewww, I don't want to be with a deaf person!" Dan Hmmm ok, I rang him he obviously didnt answer he said it was because the traffic was too loud (in a text), therefore it was a lie, he deliberatly kept it from me, im sorry thats not on in my book. I dont give a shit who you are, his not telling me just felt wrong, like he was ashamed of it, or that i wouldnt have gone if i had known, he didnt give me credit. and i HATE the well you didnt ask arguement You have been lying, you have been shagging someone else I wasnt lying hun you didnt ask oh yeah you are right, sorry my bad

CalifChick -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 8:53:27 AM)
(Warning... Big fat generalization to follow). People that I know that are deaf tell me it is such an integral part of who they are that to NOT mention it would be like denying who they are. Do YOU really ask people before you meet them, "are you deaf or do you have any disabilities?". I would be equally shocked if SubbieonWheels failed to mention to someone that she was in a wheelchair (if they had not already seen her picture). It is such a huge part of her life, that to fail to mention it unless asked would be considered a lie thru omission. Cali

SubbieOnWheels -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 8:54:11 AM)
IMO, something major like deafness is not something to spring on someone at a first meeting. I forgot to tell someone I was legally blind (just didn't think about it, and he didn't ask). fortunately he was not put off by it, although he joked that he'd wasted his time losing some weight and getting a tan so I wouldn't be disappointed in his appearance. I have since been upfront with it, as it is a big part of how I live my life.

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 8:54:58 AM)
leave...and yes liars galore. its the reason im still single.

akisha -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 8:58:48 AM)
~FR~ I have never lied about my looks, my height or my wieght. I fully admit that I am short, heavy and of average appearance. and yes I wear glasses as well as contacts. My pictures are me in contacts cause I hate the glare when I have pictures with my glasses on you can't see my eyes. I have met people that were not what I expected and I'm sure people have met me and I was not as they expected. (for some reason men seem to think I'm lieing when I say I'm heavy but that's not my problem) Have I ever turned and walked out on someone I was meeting?/ Hell no. Talk about being rude and having bad manners and bad upbringing. My mother would suddenly appear out of nowhere and smack me I'm sure if i did something so calous and rude. Will i bring up the difference from what they said and what they are?? depends on how big the difference actually is. One thing people need to realize is " Almost NO ONE preceives themselves the same as other people do" Some skinny people think they are fat, some fat people think they are perfect. Rarely does someone looking in a mirror see what others see when they look at them. I think I'm short, why? because most my life has been spent hagining around with people on average 6 - 10 inches taller then me so I was always the short one, in actuality i'm of average height. I've been told I'm pretty but I feel i'm of average appearance. I'm bless with large pretty eyes but other then that I'm just me. I mean if the guy tells me he's 35 and is really 55, well then I'll say somehting cause that is an obvious falsehood, but other then that, who's to say they intentionally lied? People need to have an open mind and give others the benefit of the doubt. I walk in with no expectations except to be treated with politness and to meet someone new. If you go into a situation with it already played out in your mind how it will go, then i can almost guarrentee you will be dissapointed in some way. Fantasy NEVER lives up to reality. Which is why I don't believe in fantasies.

thegirlincharge -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 9:16:24 AM)
Whoa! There is a big difference between lying, and not disclosing something. LOL...yup! That's why I ALWAYS ask if they have teeth now....and how many!

colouredin -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 9:19:02 AM)
Thank goodness, i so dont like being called a bigot I am glad that other people see that its not what it was :D I was bracing myself for post after post telling me how terrible I was for being pissed off

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 9:21:08 AM)
would rather call ya big tit [:D]

colouredin -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 9:23:36 AM)
YEah the left is a bit bigger, but i wouldnt refer to either as big, oh you mean IM a big tit well thats just mean :P

lauren0221 -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 9:35:21 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: subtee I'm wanting to meet youse guys too, same reasons! We will. The fact that you're both sexy, smart, very cool women is already common knowledge. Let's face it, Iowa women rock, no? Meet, meet meet! I third that:)

GreedyTop -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 9:48:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum Yep that was my point. I suppose you could ask rightly so. Who is NOT lieing! Waits for ppl to get all defensive n stuff. smirk BadOne I'm not :) Add a few grey hairs to my pic (and dammit, a few developing laughlines around my eyes), and that's me. I've never seen the need to hide who I am.. I figure if I'm going to meet people they'll see it when we meet. I'm the same person online as I am offline. Have I met people who have been deceitful? I guess you could say so, but not in any kind of deal-breaker way. usually it's shaving numbers off actual weight (which, unless they say they're athletic but are actually morbidly obese, isnt an issue to me). Wait.. no, I take that back.. there was a guy I met who claimed that he would respect my limits for play.. after we'd met a few times, and got to actually playing, he proceeded to disregard almost everything I'd said were not acceptable for a first time scene. *ETA* none of the things I'd listed were dangerous, just things I preferred NOT to do in a first 'scene'. Needless to say, I ceased contact with him, after I explained WHY.

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 9:53:31 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin YEah the left is a bit bigger, but i wouldnt refer to either as big, oh you mean IM a big tit well thats just mean :P play wif the biggie tittie....woohooo.... atleast we know their real...fake ones are the same size...mine are B and A....so size dif is common.

SailingBum -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 10:07:25 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: GreedyTop quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum Yep that was my point. I suppose you could ask rightly so. Who is NOT lieing! Waits for ppl to get all defensive n stuff. smirk BadOne I'm not :) Add a few grey hairs to my pic (and dammit, a few developing laughlines around my eyes), and that's me. I've never seen the need to hide who I am.. I figure if I'm going to meet people they'll see it when we meet. I'm the same person online as I am offline. . That is pretty much who I am tho I've not met anyone online for about 10 - 12 years or so. I just found it real interesting that some of the posters came across with the holier than tho crapola that lieing was a deal breaker. Once the posts turned to age height weight "they got quiet". I found it amuseing in the extemeis. BadOne

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 10:23:28 AM)
I once met somebody from another site. The picture she had up was a older picture of her when she weighed a hell of a lot less, not just a little but a lot. I hung out with her and finished off our date for the night, I really could not get into her on a sexual level and that was that. The End... Amazing how a picture of somebody showing them around 160lbs and seeing them when they weigh around 250lbs. It's easy to forgive 20lbs or so. But when it's a matter of major difference in ones appearence.. that's another story. Pictures of what one used to look like 10 years ago don't cut it. At least have and share one that had been taken in the last year or so at most.

ThundersCry -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 10:28:43 AM)
Having that* fantasy is a hard thing to overcome...well, it was for me. <smiles a little> Live and learn.* When those kind of meets happened to me I did my best to be as polite as I could be and grab the next plane out! Who said it was going to be easy... Pfffft!

xxblushesxx -> RE: Meet or Leave? (3/6/2008 10:35:57 AM)
I met someone once with whom I'd been chatting online and on the phone for hours at a time. He was funny, witty, ultra-sharp and extremely dom-like. When I met him at the airport, I was surprised to see that he was quite a bit older than he portrayed himself. He also wasn't my physical ideal, but...yanno, who is? He was still the person I had been talking to, and who I was attracted to because of who he was, not what he was. That was one of the best weeks I have ever had in my life, and I wouldn't trade it for anything, not even some young adonnis meeting me instead of the one who did. We are still very good friends. Had I been upset over the 'age' thing, or hung up one some pre-conceived notion of what my perfect dom would look like I would have missed out on a wonderful friendship with an incredible person.

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