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RE: The Revolving door - 3/7/2008 12:27:30 PM   
ownedgirlie


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Makes me wonder how many people (Doms and subs alike) actually know the meaning of collaring.


Except there is not a universal meaning.  It was 6 months before I received my collar.  To some, that was a really short time, and given way too soon.  To others, it was really long.  To some, a collar is a lifetime commitment.  To others, it is a long term commitment.  Still to others, it is a fashion symbol.  Some do not use collars at all, yet still have very strong and meaningful dynamics.  Whether or not we all agree is a different matter, but "the meaning of collaring" is not universal.

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RE: The Revolving door - 3/7/2008 12:57:49 PM   
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I see been together several months I wonder what that actualy means- Having met and known for several months, or just online/phone never having met face to face...  1st real meeting accepting some one as your sub or Dom then few weeks later its over.
I guess IMO months 3/6/10 in and then out of a relationship I still concider velcro collars.

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RE: The Revolving door - 3/7/2008 1:08:31 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

Makes me wonder how many people (Doms and subs alike) actually know the meaning of collaring.


Except there is not a universal meaning.  It was 6 months before I received my collar.  To some, that was a really short time, and given way too soon.  To others, it was really long.  To some, a collar is a lifetime commitment.  To others, it is a long term commitment.  Still to others, it is a fashion symbol.  Some do not use collars at all, yet still have very strong and meaningful dynamics.  Whether or not we all agree is a different matter, but "the meaning of collaring" is not universal.


LOL... good point to make.  However, I'm old enough that I have more of the old school thought process on it.   That collaring is a symbol of a deep commitment very much the same as marriage.   OH hell, people get married and divorced at the speed of light these days anyways, look at Britney Spears first marriage. 

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RE: The Revolving door - 3/7/2008 2:20:47 PM   
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I see been together several months I wonder what that actualy means-


Good thing then that we know you don't really care. Because if you cared, you would ask the person and not just go by what they present on the internet, which is never the full picture. But who cares, right?

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RE: The Revolving door - 3/7/2008 5:04:14 PM   
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ORIGINAL: Owner4SexSlave

LOL... good point to make. However, I'm old enough that I have more of the old school thought process on it. That collaring is a symbol of a deep commitment very much the same as marriage. OH hell, people get married and divorced at the speed of light these days anyways, look at Britney Spears first marriage.



A very good point... I'm on marriage #2, and it will be the last one, if I'd known what kinda of psycho she was gonna become after we were married I could have saved myself some headaches. Even then living together for 2 years before getting married didn't give me any indication. I will say that there wasn't the level of communication that my current marriage has and I think that is a big and very key difference.

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RE: The Revolving door - 3/7/2008 6:06:57 PM   
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LOL... good point to make.  However, I'm old enough that I have more of the old school thought process on it.   That collaring is a symbol of a deep commitment very much the same as marriage.   OH hell, people get married and divorced at the speed of light these days anyways, look at Britney Spears first marriage. 


I understand what you're saying.  And I tend to think similarly as you.  In the same way many people marry casually, others collar casually. 

Remember when casual sex was unheard of? 

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RE: The Revolving door - 3/7/2008 6:17:33 PM   
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That's an interesting thought to ponder as I've seen the similar behavior in local communities as well so I don't think it's online only and I don't think it's everyone.


It's definitely more pronounced in an online forum, just as it's definitely more pronounced in a single's bar.

All we have in life is time.  For some, that means rushing it.  For others, that means investing in it.  I've noted older folks tend toward the "investing" category.  Maybe that's because we've learned rushing it means wasting it.

There's my Zen moment for the day. 

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RE: The Revolving door - 3/7/2008 11:44:02 PM   
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Status: offline 		I can't find any where in my post that says " I don't care"

I refer too  what I read here on the boards / profiles / journals

I don't email or pm with any one here and I won't email and ask  - hey what's your side?
that is none of my business, anything written publically however is.


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RE: The Revolving door - 3/8/2008 6:30:44 AM   
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Status: offline 		I find that this life choice lends itself to much  more of the "relationship hopping" more so than typical vanilla life.  Call it collar hopping, sub frenzy, whatever you like.  But relationships seem to be much more disposable.  At the first little sign of something going wrong, it seems too easy to throw up your hands and say "I give up, I'm done."   A buddy put it a good way once:  he said that if the relationship was going 95% well, would you give it all up for that little 5% that isn't?   If something is worth having, it's worth working for.  And that means all the little speed bumps, minor issues, temporary moods and upsets get handled and put behind you instead of just jumping off the deep end or running away.   If the relationship is worth it, close the door and deal with it.

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RE: The Revolving door - 3/8/2008 6:57:47 AM   
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I find that this life choice lends itself to much  more of the "relationship hopping" more so than typical vanilla life. 



I don't know that I agree with that. Tell it to my non-bdsm single friends who are in a frenzy of their own.
Male friends who set up five or six dates in one weekend and end up freaking out their dates because they are too intense and want an instant love affair to end all love affairs.
Don't even get me started on my female friends. I have one who finds the new "love of her life" every week. And it goes down in flames every time, ending in carnage. Well, until next week. Rinse, repeat.

I agree with those who have already stated it's our society in general. We have been raised to want it all and want it NOW. People rarely take their time anymore to work on and to work for ANYTHING (I realize I am speaking in generalizations here). Look toward our spending habits, our current mortgage crisis, our current divorce rate.


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