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What about Before Care? - 3/8/2008 6:36:43 PM   
Daddyslilpookie


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Status: offline 		 My Master/husband tends to give me before care instead of aftercare. He tends to hug, hold and kiss me before a scene. Any other Masters/Doms/Dommes do this to their slave/sub feel free to rant want to see what other people think on this.

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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/8/2008 6:39:18 PM   
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Status: offline 		i like before and after care.... nice... also puts me in all the right moods

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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/8/2008 6:40:20 PM   
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I think this is a very good topic....I have encountered before care and I absolutely love it.  For me..it reinforced the bond that we shared..and that this was done out of love not out of malice or hatred.  It helped me take his pain..it helped me turn the pain he was giving to me into pleasure.  The whispers..the hugs..kisses...it all made a difference.

Allie

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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/8/2008 7:01:59 PM   
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Status: offline 		I thought beforecare = foreplay.

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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/8/2008 7:03:03 PM   
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Status: offline 		Master believes in before-care as well as after-care.  He shows me his love and gentleness before we scene.  His words, kisses and touches are important to me.  For example, one day I was waiting for him in leisha position, naked.  It was the first time I had been waiting for him this way, and I was nervous for some reason, even though we had been together before this time!  Anyway, when he entered the room and came in behind me, his hands ran through my hair, smoothed over my skin and rested my head back against his body, letting me relax into him, absorbing his energy and letting him feel my love and adoration.  It was lovely and put me into the proper mental state to serve him well. 

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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/8/2008 9:16:21 PM   
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Status: offline 		My take on before care is what you need not to drop. Water, so you don't get too dehydrated. Make sure you get a good night's sleep, have something light but very healthy to eat. Whatever you need to be in shape.

Hugging and kissing here goes on a lot. We're sappy like that.

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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/9/2008 9:29:50 AM   
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Status: offline 		I do a lot of touching and talking in the beginning of the scene as a way to connect with them and bring them to a baseline headspace- kinda like getting a basic recipe together before you start mixing in all the specialty ingredients and working and baking it.

But there's also aftercare in some sense or another.  To me a scene itself can extend days before or after the actual physical interaction.



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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/9/2008 9:33:24 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddyslilpookie

My Master/husband tends to give me before care instead of aftercare. He tends to hug, hold and kiss me before a scene. Any other Masters/Doms/Dommes do this to their slave/sub feel free to rant want to see what other people think on this.


I am blessed, he hugs and kisses me before, during and after. He hugs and kisses me even when we do not scene.

I do not require hugs and kisses before we scene. Sometimes I do not need them after. It is rare that he will not give me some sort of affection at some point though. He is very affectionate and so am I.

~Sinergy's strumpet~

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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/9/2008 9:33:28 AM   
colouredin


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Status: offline 		Hmm we dont really "scene" its not like anyone says, right now we are going to do this, everyone get ready, girlie and I get dressed after the kids have gone to bed but that means nothing, thats just a habbit we have gotten into, and I guess the fact that we are all quite cuddly and stuff means that we have 'before care' cos we are all quite tactile but i dont really see it in that way everything just seems to take its natural progression to be honest

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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/9/2008 9:44:02 AM   
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quote:

ORIGINAL: Daddyslilpookie

My Master/husband tends to give me before care instead of aftercare. He tends to hug, hold and kiss me before a scene. Any other Masters/Doms/Dommes do this to their slave/sub feel free to rant want to see what other people think on this.


I am very big on pre-play care!! and as result... I do very little aftercare.

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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/9/2008 10:10:12 AM   
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Status: offline 		If he wants me to go to a particular headspace where I can take emotional/verbal abuse like being yelled at and called names and be turned on and take something positive from it I have to be warmed up mentally.  If he doesn't warm me up mentally, then I don't take it all that well.  Going from hi to your a dirty bitch *slap slap* will put me in a negative mindframe. 

If that makes sense?  I don't really hear people talk about 'before care' or 'mental warm ups' all that much.  Put warming up my brain (and that does require some verbal/physical affection) is just as important as warming up my ass.

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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/9/2008 10:56:39 AM   
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ORIGINAL: junecleaver

If he wants me to go to a particular headspace where I can take emotional/verbal abuse like being yelled at and called names and be turned on and take something positive from it I have to be warmed up mentally.  If he doesn't warm me up mentally, then I don't take it all that well.  Going from hi to your a dirty bitch *slap slap* will put me in a negative mindframe. 

If that makes sense?  I don't really hear people talk about 'before care' or 'mental warm ups' all that much.  Put warming up my brain (and that does require some verbal/physical affection) is just as important as warming up my ass.


It makes perfect sense to me... as does L.A.'s response for how she connects with the submissive to put him/her into the proper baseline headspace before play.  The bolded line above made me giggle. 

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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/9/2008 11:04:36 AM   
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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/9/2008 11:40:45 AM   
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Status: offline 		Ideally there is before, during, and aftercare.  During is things like looking at the clock and realizing that the sub you've been enjoying yourself with hasn't had a sip of water in two hours and getting them one (if they are still bound)   To me beforecare is making sure that the sub is ready to begin and probably a little warmed up from nipple pinches and things like that. 

Where the mind goes the body follows

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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/9/2008 11:43:40 AM   
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Status: offline 		before-after-during... i want any of the 3...but i cant get any of them!!

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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/9/2008 12:54:41 PM   
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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/9/2008 4:19:59 PM   
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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/9/2008 4:28:30 PM   
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"What about the poor Dominants, all this focus on the damn sluts .. they're meat .. meat doesn't need care... what about MY needs .. what about MY Dom Drop .. where is MY warm blanket and being told I am wonderful"

*sighs ... and leaves to find a warm blanket*



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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/9/2008 5:09:17 PM   
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RE: What about Before Care? - 3/9/2008 6:15:47 PM   
freekalette


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Status: offline 		I tend to get lots of tender moments with Sir on a regular basis, so we have what I guess you could call an ANTI-before-care.  We'll be cuddling and talking or watching tv, and then his voice drops an octave, and he fixes me with the Look, and then he starts talking about what's about to happen.  (Of course he doesn't give too much away, because he thrives on the surprise attack, but just enough to get me anxious.)  I definitely feel that care of some form is important, wether it be physical or mental.

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