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Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/8/2008 8:03:25 PM   
formulagreek


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Status: offline 		I certainly am no expert on this subject and hence I ask for input from more experienced or well-versed people.  On very rare occasions I have been fortunate enough to see the active female partner experience orgasm while penetrating me and have even more rarely achieved orgasm myself while being penetrated.  While the experience in no way diminished without orgasm, I have not been astute enough to draw together what works for either herself or me.  I would appreciate any thoughts on the subject from others.  Thank you.
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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/8/2008 8:46:08 PM   
Drifa


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Status: offline 		I am used to using strap-ons female-to-female, so I can answer for the side of the person wearing the strap-on.

Just in general, to orgasm while being in the "driver's seat" is a matter of how much clitoral stimulation one is getting. I like the Feeldoe or Nexxus double-ended dildos myself - the Nexxus allows for a harness for more secure control.

I'd think a man on the reciving end would need to evaluate what sensations he needs to go to orgasm. If the anal and prostate stimulation by themselves are not enough, perhaps your partner can reach around and provide some manual stimulation direct, or she might have you stroke yourself.  I can come just from the anal sex myself, but my Lady does sometimes order me to stroke myself as well if she wants.

Mental setup is also a big component for me. A lot of what makes me come from anal penetration is the sheer submissive mindset.

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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/8/2008 9:10:41 PM   
LadyPact


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Status: offline 		One thought to consider might be taking a look at the frequency that you are permitted to have orgasms, with this kind of play aside.  If I know I'm going to do this kind of play, and I specifically want an orgasm achieved, I may put My sub on masturbation restriction for a period of time beforehand, or go through some tease and denial exercises in the two or three days prior to the event.  Working him up mentally, also helps to produce wonderful results.  The verbal exchange is also a benefit. 

As to having My own orgasm, I've never had a problem.  For one, the power trip in this kind of play excites the hell out of Me.  If that weren't enough, My personal toy has a vibe in the harness, which lends to the sensation.  (Usually don't need it to get off, but it's there.)  Since I usually couple this activity either with oral service, or with scent marking, I'm practically guaranteed.


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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/8/2008 9:16:47 PM   
Reigna


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Status: offline 		The Share is another good product. We actually prefer it to the Feeldoe and the Nexus. It's more flexible, so you can use it in a wider range of positions. My sub reports that the feel is more luxurious, almost like real skin. Also, my end of it is better shaped for g-spot stimulation.

As Drifa says, the key for the woman is how much clitoral stimulation she's getting. G-spot stimulation counts, too, of course, assuming the toy is designed to provide it. I find the doubles--Feeldoe, Nexus, Share--particularly effective and delicious. (By the way, despite what the advertising says, you probably will need a harness with them. They slip out otherwise.) If you're a woman using these doubles and still not getting the desired effect, try lying on your back while your partner sits on the dildo and rides it. Gag and handcuff him or do whatever it takes to make you feel dominant while your boy sits on you and you writhe in ecstasy. But do try it.

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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/8/2008 9:27:22 PM   
formulagreek


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Status: offline 		I guess I need to more critically evaluate what goes into making the intercourse special.  I really would hope to have her be able to orgasm everytime if possible.   The intense mental and physical feelings of intercourse in and of themselves are enough to keep me quite satisfied, but she has occasionally voiced some disappointment in my not always ejaculating.   Personally, I feel that stroking myself is a bit selfish (I know that opens me to alot of criticism), but it is how i feel.   The couple of times it has happened just from her penetration was so notably satisfying for her and thusly for me.  I duely note your recommendation as to masturbation.   I will have to research the scent marking.  Thank you very much for your kind responses.

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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/8/2008 9:30:23 PM   
formulagreek


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Status: offline 		Thank you for the information.  It certainly looks like female anatomy was a big consideration in its design.  http://www.vibrator.com/sex-toys/fun-factory-share-dildo.html?sid=65ab349s
Thank you.

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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/8/2008 9:37:39 PM   
LadyPact


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ORIGINAL: formulagreek

I guess I need to more critically evaluate what goes into making the intercourse special.  I really would hope to have her be able to orgasm everytime if possible.   The intense mental and physical feelings of intercourse in and of themselves are enough to keep me quite satisfied, but she has occasionally voiced some disappointment in my not always ejaculating.   Personally, I feel that stroking myself is a bit selfish (I know that opens me to alot of criticism), but it is how i feel.   The couple of times it has happened just from her penetration was so notably satisfying for her and thusly for me.  I duely note your recommendation as to masturbation.   I will have to research the scent marking.  Thank you very much for your kind responses.

Not a problem.  Actually, the thread is doing a hell of a lot for Me as well, at this particular moment.

Perhaps the stroking could be done with an added twist.  If your Mistress is the type to enjoy the power of giving you certain commands, such as, "Cum for Me now!" it's an easy way to incorporate the manual stimulation.  There are many facets that can be included in this kind of play.  The strap-on world is your oyster.

To save you the trouble, scent marking is the act of rubbing vaginal secretions on the face.  A rather hot little activity, in and of, itself.


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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/8/2008 9:42:49 PM   
DianeB269


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quote:

ORIGINAL: formulagreek

I certainly am no expert on this subject and hence I ask for input from more experienced or well-versed people.  On very rare occasions I have been fortunate enough to see the active female partner experience orgasm while penetrating me and have even more rarely achieved orgasm myself while being penetrated.  While the experience in no way diminished without orgasm, I have not been astute enough to draw together what works for either herself or me.  I would appreciate any thoughts on the subject from others.  Thank you.


I've had a few orgams while doing guys with strapons. It's all in the angle.

Diane

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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/8/2008 9:48:13 PM   
JerryFrankster


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Status: offline 		Say now, this is the first I've heard of the Share. It looks like a cross between a Nexus and a Feeldoe.

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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/8/2008 10:06:29 PM   
Tantriqu


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Status: offline 		I orgasm every time using a strapon with a vibrator in the base.  The sub comes if he has been given permission with long foreplay and skin sensitisation beforehand; an intense and intimate experience. 
I didn't like the feedoe; doesn't fit me:  a tight fit going in Me, and it shot out as I started to come in his ass:  buzzkill! 

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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/8/2008 10:34:40 PM   
hopelesslyInvo


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Status: offline 		i don't see how those strapless ones can work~

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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/9/2008 4:37:48 AM   
Lashra


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Status: offline 		I couldn't get the Feeldoe to work at all for us. I read a few reviews from larger Ladies who also complained of the same thing. Right now I'm looking for a good harness/dildo set up to try.

To the OP we are just starting out in the strapon department, but from the times I have used them he got so hot he came like a rocket. I got excited just from using it on him. I didnt have an orgasm but it was darned close. With more practice I am sure that it will happen.

~Lashra


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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/9/2008 6:50:55 AM   
DianeB269


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ORIGINAL: Lashra

I couldn't get the Feeldoe to work at all for us. I read a few reviews from larger Ladies who also complained of the same thing. Right now I'm looking for a good harness/dildo set up to try.

To the OP we are just starting out in the strapon department, but from the times I have used them he got so hot he came like a rocket. I got excited just from using it on him. I didnt have an orgasm but it was darned close. With more practice I am sure that it will happen.

~Lashra



I could never keep the Feeldoe in me while penetrating a male or female.
The Nexus used with the Texas Two Strap harness works the best for me..


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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/9/2008 8:03:02 AM   
Reigna


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ORIGINAL: hopelesslyInvo

i don't see how those strapless ones can work~


Not sure what you mean. If you mean are they sufficiently stimulating, the answer is yes, definitely. If you mean do they stay in without a harness--mostly no, despite what the ads say, unless the receptive partner is on top.

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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/9/2008 8:42:42 AM   
KinkyCoupleMD


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Status: offline 		I tend to orgasm while doing him doggie style.  If I make him mount me it must nost create the same friction or allow me to focus on the rythmic motions the same way as if I am grabbing his hips and thrusting into him from behind.  About 50% of the time he will cum from the friction on his prostate.
Mistress J

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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/9/2008 9:42:47 AM   
Tantriqu


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Status: offline 		I tend to have tall slim subs; the easiest ways for me to come from Taking them is when they're lying prone with their legs together and I straddle their ass, or I'm sitting behind them or lying down and they're sitting with their legs straight ahead, and then I impale them.  I need to be able to hang on to 'em and bite the back of their neck and feel my breasts on their back. 
I had a long, lean aikido master who thought he was flexible until we tried to do him missionary style, and he had trouble keeping his legs apart ;-).  he I would do when he was prone in the swastika position [on his left side/left stomach, right leg and right arm flexed] or bent over a sofa, or `au negre as The Joy of SEx calls it [not me!] with him prone on the bed or carpet, and my arms under his shoulders and my hands clasped on the back of his neck [I'm sure there is a wrestling term like half-nelson to describe it].  Lots of skin to skin, I could hear his every intake of breath, and a small motion causes a lot of motion. 

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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/9/2008 12:04:14 PM   
Ostentatious


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Status: offline 		I've only cum through strap on sex via stimulation at the same time.

The best orgasms cum from prostate stimulation though...if I only I could choose what to do!

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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/10/2008 12:12:13 PM   
moki1984


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Status: offline 		mm strap ons. certain things bring out that inner Domme in me..and strap ons are one of them...it makes me feel grrrrr, empowered and I just get this inner beast coming out that makes me get rough , slap the shit out of the party involved, my voice changes, heavily degrading terms slipping out..its just hot

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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/11/2008 2:22:52 PM   
formulagreek


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quote:

ORIGINAL: KinkyCoupleMD

I tend to orgasm while doing him doggie style.  If I make him mount me it must nost create the same friction or allow me to focus on the rythmic motions the same way as if I am grabbing his hips and thrusting into him from behind.  About 50% of the time he will cum from the friction on his prostate.
Mistress J



Does he orgasm hands free so to speak?

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RE: Strap On and Female/male orgasms - 3/11/2008 7:06:47 PM   
pinksissyPA


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ORIGINAL: Lashra

I couldn't get the Feeldoe to work at all for us. I read a few reviews from larger Ladies who also complained of the same thing. Right now I'm looking for a good harness/dildo set up to try.

To the OP we are just starting out in the strapon department, but from the times I have used them he got so hot he came like a rocket. I got excited just from using it on him. I didnt have an orgasm but it was darned close. With more practice I am sure that it will happen.

~Lashra

Ms Lashra, my last Domme was about Your staure, indeed it was part of what attracted me,  But, i digress.  She also found feeldoe lacking in stimulaying Her.  i loved looking at Her wearing it but again that is a digression.  She got a strap on to use with it and that brought Her to pleasure often.  i might have also came but She would often deny me and if i lost control, i was punished.

Respectfully,

pink


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