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Daddyslilpookie -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/9/2008 4:38:42 PM)

 If my Daddy got hit on I would get my panties in a bunch! My Daddy would say he is married and say no thank you in a polite way and then walk off.



Leatherist -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/9/2008 5:47:25 PM)

Generally just let them know that they need to ask-not just try to take.



Leatherist -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/9/2008 6:06:42 PM)

But this does remind of one time at a local dungeon. I have this girl I was dating bent over a horse,cuffed down. (My standard, rope takes too long.) I was paddling and caning her for a bit, she was having a good time. I decided she had enough, and was letting her up......This little skinny geek with glasses wanders up and asks if he can spank her too..(It was towards the end of the evening, not many people around.

Anyhow,my usual sense of humor takes over and I just say "Sure, you can spank her right after a spank you. Drop em, and assume the position."

He went white as a sheet, and wandered away again without a word. And you know, I would have. And I would have enjoyed the FUCK out of making him screech.[;)]



daddysprop247 -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/9/2008 6:11:51 PM)

other women flirt with and hit on my Master all the time when we are out, whether at a lifestyle gathering, private party or mcdonald's. He's attractive and carries himself in a confident, assertive but breezy kind of way which a lot of chicks seem to like i guess. plus, he'll flirt right back. doesn't bother me a bit, if anything i find it flattering and cute. the only time i could forsee having an issue would be if some woman were to do or say something wayyyy out of line...like claiming to be in love with him or something. short of something that off the wall, it's cool.

as far as other men hitting on me, my Master finds this to be flattering as well, as long as it's not done in a way that's disrespectful to him and his ownership of me. He's fine with strangers coming up and grabbing/smacking my bum, saying lovely dirty things about what they'd like to do me, etc. He likes the fact that other men find me desireable, it only makes him feel more pride over what belongs to him.



cjan -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/9/2008 6:32:54 PM)

I agree with those of you who have said that it depends on the nature of the relationship. Specifically, the maturity and honesty of the couple , each of them who are in the relationship. The flirting and hitting on attractive people ( in whatever way someone finds them intersting /attractive) is normal and can give one a sense of pride and satisfaction in knowing that that one belongs to you and vice versa ( or whatever your understandig  happens to be).

On the other hand, I am reminded of a past vanilla relationship in which my partner took a particular satisfaction in playing a common game of trying to make me jealous/head fucking. Remember the Doobie Brothers' song, sung and written by  Michael McDonald and covered by Carly Simon ? "You Belong to Me". The lyric is... "why you tell me this, while you look for my reaction?...tell him, tell him he's a stranger, etc., etc. Homey don't play that. Buhbye.



FullofShadows -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/9/2008 6:43:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: verysweet

I fully expect other women to flirt with him, maybe even 'come on' to him -- I know I would!  He's handsome, articulate and personable.  I trust us implicity. 






Yup....Ditto

Shadows



ShaktiSama -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/9/2008 7:38:03 PM)

I don't like other people touching my stuff.

Sorry, but it's really that primal.  There are some things I do not share.  Admire what's mine all you like.  Remark on my good taste and my good fortune if you must.  But keep your hands and your lewd intentions to yourself, if someone is wearing my collar or my ring.

I am no more charmed by attempts to steal my partners than I am by attempts to steal my wallet, my car, my children, or anything else that matters to me.  You don't have to succeed, or even have a chance of succeeding, for me to react.  I don't break a pickpocket's wrist when he's counting my money and pocketing my credit cards three blocks away, either.



LATEXBABY64 -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/9/2008 9:47:13 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MissSCD

LatexBaby:
 
You have to have that one determined before you go to the play party or dungeon because the energy factor can take over and anything can happpen even for the most conservative of us.  Winks.
 
Regards, MissSCD



lol ah but to have power over your emotions and feelings is true power indeed to comand your thoughts and set a presidence over what life brings you



LuckyAlbatross -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/9/2008 9:55:04 PM)

Anything from a short "thanks but no thanks" to literally shoving him down in front of them and offering him up.



lovelylucy -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/10/2008 12:17:44 AM)

I have to start a fight [;)]

Or, come to think of it, take him/her home with us.



Lordandmaster -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/10/2008 12:32:56 AM)

Yeah, exactly.  My general reaction would be: "Hands off, pal--go get your own."  But it would depend on the circumstances.

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ORIGINAL: xxblushesxx

Be more specific in 'made the moves'.
I can't answer a question that general.



Justme696 -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/10/2008 2:33:20 AM)

I don't mind some flirting..aslong my girl doesn't feel uncomfy.
Once I was on a birtday party..abnd the guy onthe otherside of the table kept looking at the girlfriend I had then, knowing I was her boyfriend.
It made her feel uncomfy...I asked him to stop looking .....but he kept looking and flirting..(trying to touch her while she was taking some of the food), saying she is so beautifull. So I thanked him for the compliment, requested again to not ruin her evening. Afther 1 hour of this crap..I pulled him over the table and beat the crap out of him (yes..sorry..bad temper). 1 month later he was divorced...so guess it was a bad habbit of him.

so sometimes..when you get hit...hit back



taintedgypsy -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/10/2008 4:12:42 AM)

If the other was someone I thought might prove interesting ... join in the fun lol.

I do not do "monogomous", However in a relationship where I am committed to annother it would be understood that flirting is harmless and not something to get your pants in a knot over because both parties would have an expectation that their thoughts would be asked and considered before any decission is made to go futher than flirting; even if the decission is nolonger mine, it is not a good idea to make the relationship unpalitable ... it will not last.

Jealousy is for me the byproduct of insecurity and if the relationship is insecure than both parties involved should be getting rid of the problems and strengthening the relationship before they start flirting with others, let alone considering introducing others, even just as a toy for the night, into the mix.

If it is not a "relationship" but just someone I am seeing ... yes I would consider an action that neglects Him/Her or me as inappropriate and disrespectful ... either we are there together or we are not ... if you want to hunt than go solo, I do not want to feel like I am with you at the end of the night as a consolation prize because you could not find something better ... that is a thankyou for the evening get in my car and go home job ... no bonuses given to jerks ... oh and if it is some type of mind fuck to promote jealousy ... hey been down that track and do not play that game ... it simply is not fun, breeding insecurity to make yourself feel better/ more important is futile and destructive.

For me and this is only from my point of view, if jealousy raises its ugly head the problem is usually in your relationship ... not the outsider who is merely the catalyst.

I will add though that "making moves" or "flirting" is only harmless when it is controlled ... someone who does not take no thankyou, or not interested for an answer is no longer doing either, they just crossed the line to bothering or annoying and should be treated that way and it depends on the relationship who does the action ... but when action is called for than it ceases to be harmless fun.



MissMorrigan -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/10/2008 4:26:17 AM)

I agree with you in that jealousy is a byproduct of insecurity, although there's a distinction between jealousy and a male who is protecting a woman from being 'pawed' by another male and much to her chagrin. I have had female friends at clubs who have been pawed at by men who see them as 'open game' and clearly haven't respected their space. To touch another person suggestively after it has been made clear they were not interested is tantamount to assault and I'd have no sympathy with that issue being dealt with forcefully if no other option was available. I despise violence, but sometimes opportunists tend to target those they know aren't going to be assertive, which falls outside the 'controlled' environment you mention.

You made a lot of good points.
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ORIGINAL: taintedgypsy
Jealousy is for me the byproduct of insecurity and if the relationship is insecure than both parties involved should be getting rid of the problems and strengthening the relationship before they start flirting with others, let alone considering introducing others, even just as a toy for the night, into the mix.



Kana -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/10/2008 6:12:02 AM)

Be flattered that my property was enticing enough that others wanted her of course.
Heck, I would hope everyone wanted her.
Grins.
I certainly would trust her though.
If I have an issue with her being hit on, I have much deeper issues in my relationship than just that.



TracyTaken -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/10/2008 6:47:02 AM)

I think I'd be amused.  [:)]



meticulousgirl -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/10/2008 11:11:29 AM)

be happy for Him and no seriously i wouldn't be jelous, i'm the slave not the girlfriend.

~meticulous~



madshysoul -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/10/2008 11:37:30 AM)

I'd grin, high-five him and go fetch the toybag.



moki1984 -> RE: What Would you Do if your other was hit on (3/10/2008 11:55:32 AM)

i take it as a compliment when my husband gets hit on....like "yea..he's hot and he's mine hehe" as long as she does not get pushy or try to get physical ...he does wear his wedding ring so they know what they are doing.

if she is cute and has the aura of submissive and bie, I might just take her in for a play night *smiles*

my husband is well behaved, he is completely monogamous to me so i have no worries.




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