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ORIGINAL: solvr70

oh yes. words are very powerful things. i still remember the first time i was called a "good bitch". it was in the middle of a scene, and well, it did not take long for it push me over the edge.

a few choice words were also used the first time my then gf was taking me from behind, i had cum, and she was not ready to stop, to get me right back "up" again.

then being made to repeat things back, well, that takes it to a whole new level as well.

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ORIGINAL: KindLadyGrey

I do get all melty at "good girl" just like every other sub on the planet ;)

I think I'm missing out. *pout*

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ORIGINAL: KindLadyGrey

This thread makes me think I'm missing out! I have difficulty calling a boy a name that doesn't seem to apply. I mean, if the only person he ever sleeps with is me, and he is a gentleman all the time, then "slut" just doesn't seem a good fit. There is one boy I call a slut all the time, but that's because he totally IS.

If I'm of the mind to make a boy repeat something to me, I like him to tell me that, yes, he is MINE. Not my little slut, not my good boy, just MINE. Strange how I can be poly and so possessive at the same time :P

On the other hand, it is fun to have the ability to insult people in a safe context. I call one of my best girlfriends a fat stupid whore all the time and it always makes us giggle. She's got her own insults she slings back at me.

Still, the rational disconnect of calling someone something that is patently false sometimes pops me out of the right headspace.

On the sub-side, I am completely ambivalent to names like slut or whore or cuntbag or whatever. A Dom/me can call me whatever they want and I won't be insulted or upset, but I don't have that orgasmic melty thing that many subs seem to get. I just figure they can call me whatever they want; it's their prerogative. My lack of response to this sort of verbal foreplay is very disappointing to most Domly types. I do get all melty at "good girl" just like every other sub on the planet ;)

I think I'm missing out. *pout*

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ORIGINAL: MistressFaye1

Hey there!  you know where My mind is right about now!

OP...  it does wonders!  I love it when I am literally topping a vanilla guy that has all of these preconceived notions about the lifestyle and in the midst of it all, when he is "close", I look him in the eyes and say something like, "are you ready to cum for me my little slut?" causes the pouring out of a lot of yes! oh yes!  Then to add the icing on the cake have him repeating that he's my slut and that I can use him the way I see fit.

With submissives, I find it gives them a sense of pride and "belonging".  "MY" denotes "possession".  I love it!

Faye

very well put m'Lady! i never have been able to put it into words. but the sense of pride in being a good slut (sounds a little different,but 'tis true), the sense of "belonging" are all part of it.  i'm not really perfect at knowing all the "why's" for things that cause a reaction. but words and phrases like "My bitch, My slut, My lil cum Whore" all put my mind in a new place, and help me "let go" and get more into my role as such.

oh and hummmm....what might m'Lady be thinking now?

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ORIGINAL: moki1984

verbal humuliation is not like mistress mandy...