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Need training to become better Master - 3/9/2008 12:49:16 PM

martialartsway

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Hey guys. I am looking to improve my Dom skills.. I need a male Dom who is very experience (at least a few years) to guide me to being a better Dom. I am 24, about 2 years of experience with having slaves, have had two altogether. I have an incredibly HOT and insatiable slave and she wants me to get better at the Master role... she NEEDS more from me. I always thought I was pretty good though.. :/. I am a very smart guy, and a black belt in Karate. Anybody want to give me some pointers or just introduce themselves to me?

Thanks!
Kevin, 24 Male dom, Colorado.

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/9/2008 12:53:06 PM

celticlord2112

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I have an incredibly HOT and insatiable slave and she wants me to get better at the Master role... she NEEDS more from me.

Turn it around. What do you need from her? What do you require of her?

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/9/2008 1:00:11 PM

MISTRESSKUMA

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I've heard that women get turned on by a man who helps out round the house.

I came home to a clean house yesterday and my boy had a huge smile on his face today so I think its true.

The more you cater to her needs -like you seem to have an interest in-, the more she will openly receive you and your efforts.

Ask her if she likes spankings. Lots of people get real turned on my spankings.

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/9/2008 4:02:58 PM

ThundersCry

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*Thunder in the Mountains* is held in Denver...sometime in July.

It may be a place you can meet other doms/masters...that share the same interests you do.

Good luck.

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/9/2008 4:06:08 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: martialartsway

Hey guys. I am looking to improve my Dom skills.. I need a male Dom who is very experience (at least a few years) to guide me to being a better Dom. I am 24, about 2 years of experience with having slaves, have had two altogether. I have an incredibly HOT and insatiable slave and she wants me to get better at the Master role... she NEEDS more from me. I always thought I was pretty good though.. :/. I am a very smart guy, and a black belt in Karate. Anybody want to give me some pointers or just introduce themselves to me?

Thanks!
Kevin, 24 Male dom, Colorado.

Keep repeating like a mantra "she is in control kevin 24 male very smart black belt dom" maybe someone will start to believe.

BadOne

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/10/2008 5:09:12 AM

Dnomyar

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A black belt does not a Dom make. Try black suspenders.

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/10/2008 6:05:57 AM

MasterJC01

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Turn it around. What do you need from her? What do you require of her?

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Well stated C,

Care for her well being, but in that understand that your guidance comes from within. If what/who you are falls short of the mark, you must look at who is setting the mark. If it is your sub, then you need to re-evaluate your position.

A strong submissive needs a strong Dominate, you must ask yourself "do our needs complement each other on the same level" She shall rise to yours but if you feel you must rise to hers, are you the right Dom to guide her.

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/10/2008 6:10:38 AM

Madame4a

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Go to munches, meetings and workshops -- in your area and beyond... perhaps there you can find a mentor to help.

And yes.. Thunder this summer but I'm sure there are other events not to far away and you can attend them too.

Mentors are great if you're willing to listen and learn.

Good luck

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/10/2008 6:17:49 AM

LaTigresse

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Focus on being a better human being. Self growth. Maturity. If you want people to respect you, be someone they can respect. If you want to control others, be in control of yourself. Be sure you use your brain before you use your mouth or hand.

Worry less what others think of you but what you think of you.....and I'm not talking about "wow, aren't I a stud?!" I am talking about what if you just met you, what would you think. Would you like and respect yourself, would you inspire you to follow where you led?

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/10/2008 6:35:58 AM

SirRussellP

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Look at what you want from the Life, then set up a set of rules that will be your tenants for her to live by. These should cover any important aspect of the life you want and be there to guide her even when your not around. Most sub/slaves want these to feel controled even when the Dom/Master is not around.

Also use tasks for when she isn't with you to keep you on her mind. These can be tied to normal events such as hanging up the phone she will suck on 2 fingers and think of your cock in her mouth with her hands cuffed behind her back.

Another could be something in her bra that will remind her of you the whole day. Be creative.

Next don't punish her with things she craves or that you enjoy. That is counter productive training her to be bad to be punished and teaching her what you like is punishment for her.

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/10/2008 7:29:44 AM

amayos

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quote:

ORIGINAL: LaTigresse

Focus on being a better human being. Self growth. Maturity. If you want people to respect you, be someone they can respect. If you want to control others, be in control of yourself. Be sure you use your brain before you use your mouth or hand.

Worry less what others think of you but what you think of you.....and I'm not talking about "wow, aren't I a stud?!" I am talking about what if you just met you, what would you think. Would you like and respect yourself, would you inspire you to follow where you led?

Well said.

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/10/2008 9:09:28 AM

LaTigresse

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Thank you amayos. From you, that is high praise indeed.

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/10/2008 9:16:04 AM

OmegaG

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ORIGINAL: MISTRESSKUMA

The more you cater to her needs -like you seem to have an interest in-, the more she will openly receive you and your efforts.

Well, that approach wouldn't work for me

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/10/2008 12:40:34 PM

LaTigresse

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Methinks someone was a triffle confused......

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/10/2008 1:58:05 PM

kend70

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Hey Kevin, damn insightful question.

All I can offer is... be who you are. like celticlord2112 said, what do you want. I don't know that there is a "right" or "wrong" answer except (notice the qualifier there) are you compatible. If she needs (fill in the blank), you gonna go there or not?

Now, my own concited bias is, you define her. If you don't she isn't yours. However, you must hold her heart to know if she is going to submit to you. Some might say, you make her submit. I say, that's a joke, in that ultimately, she has to choose to submit. Put another way, the lable and your slave do not define you, you have to do that. Sounds easy, but for me, that's the challenge. And both Dom and Sub / Master and slave really need to do that.

You have to know who you are to know what ya want, that's part of the journey. Not sure if that helps, but being free is the freedom to be yourself, labels aside.

Be well

Ken
Colorado

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/12/2008 4:29:06 PM

MissMenagerie

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This will either seem incredibly silly, or be immensely helpful to You. It's up to You which.
Take a hike. To a distant mountaintop, or Your bathtub, it doesn't really matter. Get some alone time. This is sort of a Dom meditation excersise, and it's the only way I could ever switch for sessions with my ex (very much a sub).
Have a token. A collar, bracelet, even a tattoo or color of nail polish.
Picture Your sub, sitting across from You. Focus on Your chosen token. That means the sub is YOURS. Picture her doing simple things...raising her left arm, kneeling, bowing. Make her do whatever You want. Do this until You're comfortable with it. Then go see her. And realize that You still have all the control You did when she was in Your mind.
And that's what she wants.

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/12/2008 7:03:34 PM

katie978

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quote:

ORIGINAL: martialartsway

she NEEDS more from me. I always thought I was pretty good though.. :/. I am a very smart guy, and a black belt in Karate.

I wouldn't worry about this. There's a lot to this dom/sub thing, and it takes some learning to get it right. I freely admit that I've got a lot to learn to be the best subbie I can be. Honestly, I think if there ever is a time when I don't feel like I've got loads to learn, then I've got a problem. It's possible to just get settled into a funk where the relationship stagnates, and learning more could help start that creative fire again.

Being a very smart guy, and a black belt on top of that, you probably already know that you never stop learning a discipline you love. If your teacher tells you that you have bested them in every skill and you have no more to learn, do you simply accept your place at the top of the mountain? Or do you seek out a more skilled teacher?

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/13/2008 8:23:01 AM

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ORIGINAL: SailingBum
Keep repeating like a mantra "she is in control kevin 24 male very smart black belt dom" maybe someone will start to believe.

BadOne

whew. you kids are vicious.

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/13/2008 8:39:35 AM

LaTigresse

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quote:

ORIGINAL: variation30

quote:

ORIGINAL: SailingBum
Keep repeating like a mantra "she is in control kevin 24 male very smart black belt dom" maybe someone will start to believe.

BadOne

whew. you kids are vicious.

It's part of our charm.

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Just because you are well educated, articulate, and can use big, fancy words, properly........does not mean you are right!

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RE: Need training to become better Master - 3/13/2008 9:53:08 AM

ThunderRoad

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Get involved with the local D/s community. You'll meet people who are in to all aspects of the lifestyle and I'm sure someone can help teach you some of the things you want to learn.

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