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To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 4:19:52 PM

rdilgart

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Just curious How many Mistress/Domme's prefer crossdressing, as apposed to not..

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 5:33:52 PM

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Not sure what you mean by crossdressing in this context. Someone who's a crossdresser doesn't really have a choice about it, and whether Dommes prefer it is beside the point. It's a compulsive behavior that emerges usually before or during male puberty. Most people, including most Dommes, have a decided aversion to it. I don't, and consequently crossdressers and trans women seek me out. It's not something I strongly prefer. It's just not a hard limit for me, and something that I can appreciate.

If by crossdressing you mean the Domme requiring her male sub to wear articles of women's clothing when he has no compulsion to wear women's clothing and ordinarily chooses to wear men's clothing, a great many Dommes (including me) like this kind of play.

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 5:50:40 PM

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Domme friends of mine have expressed it like this:

Depends on the man. Some are very passable-others resemble an oranguntang in a tutu.

Guess which they found more appealing?

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 6:40:37 PM

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I'm in the 'not' category. It doesn't do anything for Me.

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 6:43:58 PM

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what if they look like richard simmons?

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 6:48:22 PM

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No crossdressers for me as personal submissives, thanks.

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 7:12:30 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: Reigna

Not sure what you mean by crossdressing in this context. Someone who's a crossdresser doesn't really have a choice about it, and whether Dommes prefer it is beside the point. It's a compulsive behavior that emerges usually before or during male puberty. Most people, including most Dommes, have a decided aversion to it. I don't, and consequently crossdressers and trans women seek me out. It's not something I strongly prefer. It's just not a hard limit for me, and something that I can appreciate.

If by crossdressing you mean the Domme requiring her male sub to wear articles of women's clothing when he has no compulsion to wear women's clothing and ordinarily chooses to wear men's clothing, a great many Dommes (including me) like this kind of play.

Is there a difference between "crossdressing" and "transvestism"?

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 7:19:04 PM

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one plays music and the other is a television.
wait no...not the same subject...

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 7:20:44 PM

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It's a no for me. I have had good results with stating this preference in my profile - that way I am not wasting their time. While I see quite a few trans/crossdressers viewing my profile, most do read the note and do not contact me.

I think my aversion stems from:
1) when we take off our clothes, I want to be the pretty one
2) sometimes I get the impression they want to only dress overly slutty in a way that is distasteful/unattractive to me
3) most are not passable, so I find the visual disturbing.

I am attracted to biological females that crossdress as males, however.

Double-standard, but just my preference

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 7:22:00 PM

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My sub crossdresses sometimes and it doesn't bother me. He has very sexy LONGGGG legs that look great in thigh hi's (the bitch

). He does it when I allow and the reason it doesn't bother me is I see it as a need of his. When he doesn't dress occasionally he gets anxious, nervous and just plain uptight. I'd rather not have him that way so he can dress, it doesn't bother me because he is a big macho kinda guy who occasionally loves to put on a pair of silk panties. And who could blame him?

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 7:30:22 PM

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Simply put, if a sub is in service to me, he doesn't get to crossdress. I don't feel that there's anything wrong with crossdressing...it's just not "right" for me.

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 7:32:57 PM

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No, I have zero interest in crossdressers.

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 7:36:47 PM

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You'll have to suffer for it: shave or wax everything, break out from strange makeup, and put blisters in those pretty shoes.

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 7:37:59 PM

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ORIGINAL: blackwinterbyrd

You'll have to suffer for it: shave or wax everything, break out from strange makeup, and put blisters in those pretty shoes.

All things women do on a daily basis.

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 7:43:57 PM

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Does anyone out there scene with TG's and how do you scene them? is it different then scening with male slaves? i am looking for someone who has experience in both. Do you still do CBT? Do you do more anal stuff more humilation? Because the TG i am looking at acts more like a female sissy then a male wimp....

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 8:00:15 PM

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As far as I know, the terms are synonymous. I think the term "transvestism" is used more in the UK than in the US, though.

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 8:06:44 PM

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ORIGINAL: MommaOphelia

is it different then scening with male slaves?
A slave is a slave. There are differences in gender psychology, but the basics are the same.
i am looking for someone who has experience in both. Do you still do CBT?
Yes
Do you do more anal stuff
More? Dunno. I do it a lot anyway. It does take on a peculiar importance with a trans person though, as they want to feel they're being taken and penetrated the way a woman would be.
more humilation?
I do this a lot, too. The themes are somewhat different with trans people; but again, the basics are the same.
Because the TG i am looking at acts more like a female sissy then a male wimp....
A lot of them do.

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 8:13:47 PM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: rdilgart

Just curious How many Mistress/Domme's prefer crossdressing, as apposed to not..

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 8:32:46 PM

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playing with all aspects of gender is very hot for me, but its really about chemistry.

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RE: To crossdress or not to crossdress - 3/9/2008 8:35:53 PM

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Men in dresses not for me.. guys who like to wear panties and thigh highes.. make me kinda hot.. again it depends on the guy..

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