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When Dominas enroll female subs to help toping the male. - 9/25/2005 1:49:22 AM   
eslave


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On several occasions during public play parties, i had Dominas (mainly that i did not know personnaly but who where briefly playing with me at one time or another) enroll a female sub to assist them in toping me. It was never a full-fledged independant toping, but more in the way of a "helpfull hand" (some spanking & flogging or twisting & holding the sack mainly) or on one occasion holding the leash and walking me all over the place for a while. Anyway, i never had the chance to ask those Dominas what were their motivation to do that : i believe it was not really to have some help, as each time they were other Dominas in assistance that could have helped too. Would this be for humiliation purpose ? Something along the line that a Female, Be She sub or Domina, will always be in a position to control the male sub ? It does sound very Female Supremasist to me (in a nice way, as i really did enjoy it). i've never seen, on the other hand, Male Doms using either female or mal subs to help in their scenes (except letting the occasional male sub hump that bound female sub for fun).
And i've never seen Dominas using male subs to help toping other male subs either, although i'm sure it's a much more likely situation.

Anyway, what do You, Ladies of the place, make of it ? i know You can't answer for those Dominas i met, but in Your book, would You do it, and if yes, would it be out of convenience, to humiliate Your male pet, or because of a Female Supremacy belief ?

Thank You for Your time and insight, Ladies.

eslave.

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RE: When Dominas enroll female subs to help toping the ... - 9/25/2005 11:38:21 AM   
MstrssPassion


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Status: offline 		In my book, as you put it, it is not planned. I do not view any of the variations you mentioned of adding a submissive to the scene as a specific act of humiliating the bottom.

In fact I had a male sub that was being an absolute pest at a party & wanted me to play with him. I had already planned a very intense scene for the evening & the pest remained just close enough to make his presence known, but not interfere. This caused a major distraction for me so I decided to include him. I called him over & said... ok, we are going to play & I directed him to stand fairly close to where I was going to play. I placed a blindfold on him & he became very excited. I had him hold out his arms & told him he was not to move until I instructed him to do so... he agreed. I began to hang floggers, straps, quirts & other misc. items on his arms. I used him as a rack. As I would walk over to him to change out items he would mumble, I told him to remain silent. At the end of my scene & after I sat down the bottom I had played with, I went over to put away my gear. The pest then asked,"are we going to play now?" I answered him by saying that we had already played. In this example the humiliation was not focused on the bottom of the scene but rather on the bottom that was called in to assist in the scene.

Other times when I have been with a large group of friends we all get caught up in a large orgy of a scene. Several dominants will interact with each others sub/bottom. Other subs/bottoms will jump in to add a swat or two & ultimately they will end up bent over a bench or across the sub that is already on a bench. Humiliation is definitely not the motivation for this. It is all about good old fashion kinky fun.

Would I bring in a sub to add to the humiliation of one that I was already playing with. Yes, if the mood struck me & it did not exceed any limits of the negotiated scene. I must add that if the desired action was to humiliate the bottom I was playing with, I can think of many ways to do so without bringing in an additional person.

MstrssPassion




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RE: When Dominas enroll female subs to help toping the ... - 9/25/2005 11:39:54 AM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		Male Doms enlist other Male Doms to session subs all the time. Bondage, sensual deprivation, suspension, many activities can be benefitted by some knowledgable helping hands who know the parties in question.

It has to do with a myriad of other dynamics, not Female Supremacy, per se.

Texas Maam

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RE: When Dominas enroll female subs to help toping the ... - 9/25/2005 11:41:25 AM   
TexasMaam


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Status: offline 		Certian Dominas will indeed use male subs to top other male subs. Depends on the Domme in question.

Texas Maam

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RE: When Dominas enroll female subs to help toping the ... - 9/25/2005 11:45:42 AM   
MsPurrmeow


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No one can know the Dominant womans motivcation except for her and you, if you ask.

From my viewpoint, I would say that the "female submissive" is the least threatening figure of all kink roles. If the Domina is unsure of how their bottom would react to other people, then a female sub is a safer bet than any Dominant or a male. Besides, a person who is "out there" as a submissive is more likely to bw versed on how to follow directions with humility. We like that.

It is entirely possible as well that she noted an glance or hint of attraction the bottom showed toward you and therefore asked you out of both her pleasure and the bottom.

I love to co-Top with others regardless of role or gender, but if was unsure of my bottoms reactions at certain humble moments, I'd choose a female over a male simply because of mental mechanics.

I'd consider it a compliment in any manner. She trusted you to follow, she trusted you to care for her bottom, and she found your energy worthy of adding to her scene. Ask her directly what her motivations were when the opportunity arises.

Purr

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RE: When Dominas enroll female subs to help toping the ... - 9/25/2005 2:37:27 PM   
eslave


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Status: offline 		Thank You Madams. Indeed, i understand this is not possible to have a generic cause to this behavior. Your insights and opinions are very valuable though.

Thank You.

eslave.

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RE: When Dominas enroll female subs to help toping the ... - 9/25/2005 4:40:53 PM   
TexasMaam


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ORIGINAL: TexasMaam

Certian Dominas will indeed use male subs to top other male subs. Depends on the Domme in question.

Texas Maam


....wonders if bobbi is taking notes.....

<laughs a good hearted belly laugh, then exits right....

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