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Blackmail - 3/9/2008 9:09:22 PM   
usasub


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Status: offline 		Why in Gods name would a Dom want to blackmail his sub/slave? I wonder why one in authority would want to do this. Do you Doms get some kind of a rush from this ? This blackmail stuff is really strange to me. I would think that it would mean so much more to a Dom if the submissive/slave bent to his will because she wanted to please him. I would think that blackmail would make a sub fear her Dom. Speaking for myself I don't like being scared doesn't build trust for me. Anyone have any thoughts on the subject?
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RE: Blackmail - 3/9/2008 9:11:40 PM   
CalifChick


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ORIGINAL: usasub

Why in Gods name would a Dom want to blackmail his sub/slave?


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RE: Blackmail - 3/9/2008 9:14:33 PM   
YourhandMyAss


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Status: offline 		well now that depends black mail PLAY where it's all pretend is some people's fantasies and quite erotic to many. REal black mail and I'd say they are not doms in my opinion but spineless dicks who couldn't get someone any other way.

Course there's probably people who find non play black mail erotic too.

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RE: Blackmail - 3/9/2008 9:22:31 PM   
SteelofUtah


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Status: offline 		Because it is the only way they can extract obedience from someone.

I would only accept obedience given freely, however there are those who think a power exchange is overpowering another.

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RE: Blackmail - 3/9/2008 10:45:42 PM   
SinergyNstrumpet


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Status: offline 		There was a "dom" that posted a thread about blackmailing his married submissive so that she would do whatever he wanted while she was going through a divorce....

Any chance he was your dom?

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RE: Blackmail - 3/9/2008 10:48:29 PM   
PanthersMom


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Status: offline 		yet another reason to know a little more about a partner than whether or not tab a will fit into slot b.  discussion of likes and dislikes, turn ons, whatever, communication is imperative.  if they don't want to wait long enough to talk things out, it's not worth it.
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RE: Blackmail - 3/9/2008 11:19:57 PM   
conquer4love


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ORIGINAL: usasub
Do you Doms get some kind of a rush from this ?

Uhm, no.

Never done it, never would. If someone is not happy in their submission to me then they are free to leave, I will even help them pack and make sure they get to a location where they are safe.

I have better things to do with my life, have more respect for myself and for the person I am with to stoop to such cowardly steps.

I would hope most of the doms on here would agree.. hard limit :P

PS. Blackmail is illegal in the US. If this is happening go to the authorities. In my opinion stuff like this is should not be messed with. People who will stoop to blackmail probably would stoop to much worse means to keep from getting in trouble from it.

~~conquer4love~~

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RE: Blackmail - 3/10/2008 5:02:21 AM   
sambamanslilgirl


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Status: offline 		i can think of many reasons why a Dom would want to blackmail a submissive/slave esp if that person is married.

on the flipside, i can think of many reasons why a submissive/slave would want to blackmail a Dominant ...especially if he's married and the wife has no clue.


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RE: Blackmail - 3/10/2008 5:04:30 AM   
Justme696


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quote:

ORIGINAL: sambamanslilgirl

i can think of many reasons why a Dom would want to blackmail a submissive/slave esp if that person is married.

on the flipside, i can think of many reasons why a submissive/slave would want to blackmail a Dominant ...especially if he's married and the wife has no clue.



I really hope when some one does that afther building trust....he or she gets the crap beaten out of them.

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RE: Blackmail - 3/10/2008 5:07:42 AM   
Dnomyar


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Status: offline 		If it is play blackmail ok. If not then hope the sub dosent have a jealouse hubby or bf.

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RE: Blackmail - 3/10/2008 5:14:07 AM   
stella41b


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Status: offline 		Because some people are more interested in playing mind games or achieving ulterior motives than developing positive relationships.

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RE: Blackmail - 3/10/2008 5:16:27 AM   
camille65


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Status: offline 		There are also relationships where both parties get off on blackmail 'play', and those that love the idea of actual blackmail. I don't think it is always about ulterior motives or having a negative relationship, sometimes it is just what they are into.

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RE: Blackmail - 3/10/2008 9:13:50 AM   
AMaster


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Status: offline 		I've never done it, but I can see blackmail PLAY as interesting concept. 

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RE: Blackmail - 3/10/2008 9:14:44 AM   
akisha


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Status: offline 		I had a "dom" from this site try and blackmail me into meeting him in an isolated area with no one around. NOT Happening!!  After talking for a while he turned out to be creepy so I said I was no longer interested in meeting at all. He threatened to come to my office and embarass me. I invited him to come on down and feel free to say anything he wished to the people i work with.

btw, i work for a rig company and work with all men that are fairly protective of me and yes they know what I am and what I'm into.

Don't give into black mail. Call their bluff. most times they are all talk and no action anyway. I guess if you hide who you are then there is the ability to be blackmailed but only if you allow it to happen. As adults we have to take responsibility for our choices in life.

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RE: Blackmail - 3/10/2008 11:11:21 AM   
TearCollector


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Status: offline 		Im glad this thread popped up in reaction to the thread "is this going to far". Im also happy to see the strong input. I would encourage reporting blackmale to the authorities. I agree that it is 90% bluffing. But thats not why Id say report it. The 10% of non-bluffers could still do you damage. The reason Id say report it is because once you give in to a blackmaler, they know they have you and can get more. It wont end until you end it. So stop it right from the get go.
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Also consider this; the only thing a black maler has on you is your fear of something. But as soon as they start that game they have given you the ability to put th efear into them by reporting it. Get some proof. Get them on record. Then trun the tables.

I probably didnt spell blackmale correctly. We can start a thread on spelling if need be.

TC


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RE: Blackmail - 3/10/2008 11:27:11 AM   
kittinSol


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ORIGINAL: TearCollector

I probably didnt spell blackmale correctly. We can start a thread on spelling if need be.



No, you didn't spell "blackmail" correctly, and it's one unfortunate spelling mistake.

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RE: Blackmail - 3/10/2008 11:43:50 AM   
Constrictor1


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Status: offline 		usasub, If you are talking about blackmail play, then I would tell you to play along. If you are talking about blackmail in the legal sense to use information to coerce a behavior for illegal capital gain, then I recommend the police. If they catch someone using this technique they will incarcerate them. If someone is using info to just get you to have sex that may be illegal also but I suggest you ask YOURSELF how you got to this place. If you are married and are being coerced to do things you have chosen a difficult path and might need to come clean. No not all Doms do this behavior. You may have chosen poorly.

C

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RE: Blackmail - 3/10/2008 11:45:16 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		Give me some money, I will give you my thoughts.....In fact, fuck that.....

Just give me some money or I will tell your mom you are out here.

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RE: Blackmail - 3/10/2008 7:30:02 PM   
DesFIP


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Status: offline 		People blackmail to coerce something they want out of someone else. What to do about it? Call your attorney immediately. Have him accompany you to the police to file the report.

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RE: Blackmail - 3/10/2008 9:00:15 PM   
SirMIkeSD


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Status: offline 		If it's play then fine, if not then get the hell away from this freak show of a person.

Mike


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