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Cuckold behavior.... - 3/10/2008 10:05:14 PM   
CuckoldSameh


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Status: offline 		Hi ,

I was told by a cuckolding Mistress that as a cuckold I'm expected to do more for my Mistress than a man would do for his woman . For example , that I'm supposed to spoil her more , pamper her more , give her more presents , keeping her in a high lifestyle and be very obedient . Is this true ??

Also , that as a cuckold she has no obligation to have penetrative sex with me , and that I should get my pleasure from pleasing her in everyway else .

When I argued about the past topics , she told me that this was the nature of this kind of relationship .

Any advice ?????

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/10/2008 10:16:56 PM   
DommeSquirts


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Status: offline 		The only main concept of the cuckold relationship is that the woman has different parteners if she pleases and may or may not force the husband/sub to watch or be involved. 

As far as the rest.. in any relationship where there is a Dom female you would expect that yes, the man will spoil and pamper her more than any other relationship and obedience would be expected. 

Regarding the 'keeping her in a high lifestyle' and the no obligation to penetrative sex.  These ,such as soo many things in the BDSM lifestyle (including the exact way any cuckold relationship works) are open to however the people in that relationship choose to make them work best for them.

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/10/2008 10:50:26 PM   
hopelesslyInvo


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Status: offline 		cuckolding = the woman freely and openly engages in sexual relations with whoever, has whatever amount of partners, and does so however she feels like it, while the man is momogamous with her or doesn't have sex at all.

there are no other obligations, stipulations, or expectations.

if you're expected of something stupid as to "do more for her than a man would do for his woman", then she needs to learn the definition of folly, and that what a man does for his woman is not easily defined in the slightest.

cuckolding does not mean spoil more if at all, pamper more if at all, or give more gifts if any at all, and it doesn't mean no sex for you or that you "should" be in subspace just from making her some scrambled eggs and toast.  but despite what you get out of it, it's possible within the definition, that there will be or won't be any sexual activity, but if there is it will be only with her, whereas she can pursue any others she pleases.

not to sound like i'm saying "she's doin it wrong", i'm saying these other things are not inherent to cuckolding.

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/10/2008 11:55:03 PM   
Stephann


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Status: offline 		It sounds like she's set her expectations pretty clearly.  Other women will have other expectations.  It's up to you to decide if that's compatible with your own needs, or not.

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/11/2008 3:30:30 AM   
ScottishRose


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Status: offline 		this might help   http://dva.gbrit.com/~dougadams/cuckold_submissive_men.php

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/11/2008 6:59:57 AM   
crouchingtigress


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Status: offline 		always question folks who say this is how it is...or....this is how its done.

remember all things in BDSM are subjective to the parties involved.

that said, we dont/cant define her rules of service, only she can do that.

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/11/2008 8:10:08 AM   
herpet1313


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Status: offline 		I have to agree with Stephann. Cuckolding is an aspect of some femdom relationships and, as in any such D/s relationships, your Mistress has the right to set the terms and conditions.  It is up to you to decide if this is what you want. I would not, unless it was within a marriage.
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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/11/2008 9:10:05 AM   
MzStripes


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Status: offline 		I believe the behavior a Mistress expects from a cuckold can vary as much as one Mistress to another...isn't that one reason why we are all so drawn to this lifestyle? It is what we do that we enjoy...not what everyone else says we should do. Just because I put certain restrictions on a male I don't assume that every other Mistress does the same thing. Labels tend to get people in trouble! Why not stop and discuss the actually actions and so forth that will be expected?

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/11/2008 9:13:58 AM   
Lordandmaster


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh

Any advice ?????

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/16/2008 12:09:14 PM   
CuckoldSameh


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Status: offline 		Thank you all who replied my post . Now , I have a question , what do you think a cuckold should do for her Mistress ?

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/16/2008 12:11:07 PM   
Lordandmaster


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Status: offline 		Whatever the mistress damned well says he should do.  I personally draw the line when the cuck wants to suck my dick, but there are other guys who are into that, so if your mistress wants to see it, you'd better be prepared.

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/17/2008 12:32:22 PM   
MisPandora


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh

Thank you all who replied my post . Now , I have a question , what do you think a cuckold should do for her Mistress ?

What SHE wants.

Why is that so hard for you to grasp?

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/17/2008 1:40:06 PM   
ObediantMan1


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Status: offline 		Actually, I have learned to shy away from women who quickly toss in financial submission.  That is basically what she is talking about.  She might as well have stated that she wanted a tribute. 

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/17/2008 2:31:00 PM   
MisPandora


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quote:

ORIGINAL: ObediantMan1

Actually, I have learned to shy away from women who quickly toss in financial submission.  That is basically what she is talking about.  She might as well have stated that she wanted a tribute. 


Here we go again....

A woman can expect to be well cared for, or even spoiled by a mate, without it being financial domination.  Think about it in the vanilla world and tell me it doesn't happen.

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/17/2008 5:29:25 PM   
CuckoldSameh


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Status: offline 		But somehow , this financial submission makes me happy......It's the fact that I please my Mistress.......

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/18/2008 7:47:01 AM   
chezzy52


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Status: offline 		You know i have talked to Dominas of all walks of life..except Pros of course.I was even considering becoming a cuck until said Domina made a remark i didn't care for and of course what has been my mantra forever...if i am not good enough for one,then i am not good enough for anyone,meaning i am not ALLOWING..don't rub your eyes..i did say allowing another to have sex with anyone but i but as we know..it is more than just sex that anyone should be concerned with.Cuck to me is almost the same as poly except whatever other guy is enjoying himself doesn't get to spend the evening most likely.I don't understand it and never will.

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/18/2008 8:09:00 AM   
MamaDomme1


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quote:

ORIGINAL: CuckoldSameh

But somehow , this financial submission makes me happy......It's the fact that I please my Mistress.......


Ok, stop whining and do what She tells you to do.

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/18/2008 8:57:24 AM   
AS11


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Status: offline 		I may be from the old school, in fact I am, and deep within my belief and value system there is a charge that mandates financial responsibility accompanies bonding on a M/s level.
What I fail to understand is why males are constant whining and crying about being as financially realistic and generous with female dominators as they are with a woman in a vanilla setting?

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/18/2008 12:11:02 PM   
LadyNTemptress


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Status: offline 		To Cuckold Sameh:

Rather than advise, I think you are looking for external validation of this relationship. Your comments to some of the posts here reflect that you are accepting of the boundaries She has established. She is very clear in expressing what She wants. You should determine if you are up to it or not.
 
At the end of the day, the only thing that matters is that both of you are happy in the relationship as the two of you have defined it. Once you have made a decision, stop second guessing...and enjoy it!

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RE: Cuckold behavior.... - 3/18/2008 6:10:07 PM   
CuckoldSameh


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Status: offline 		LadyNTemptress ,

No , I'm not just looking for validation . I'm really looking for an advice on the situation . I would like to know if this is something normal , or just special about my situation .

Regards ,

   cuckoldsameh

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