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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:19:23 AM   
RedMagic1


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ORIGINAL: greeneyedreamer
THEY SHOULD be stopped....

Or maybe they don't like you.  For example, I will never ask you out... but then everyone knows I'm not a true Dom, because I write poetry to my ladyfriend and I don't wear leather.

If you get dropped like a hot potato again and again, maybe it's not just bad luck.  The men might be saying, "No fucking way."


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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:21:18 AM   
KyttynTheMynx


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ORIGINAL: greeneyedreamer

Oh MY GOD! I didn't mean to start a flurry. I will zip my mouth! smiles... and yeah the ones who go from Submissive to submissive trying to gain trust and then throwing them out like trash... no explanation, no email or contact... THEY SHOULD be stopped.... hey if someone where going around breaking glass car windows we'd stop them... but that's just imoho.


No matter if this was a vanilla site, BDSM site, purple people eater site, theres always gonna be one asshole (or more) in the bunch.  Its a part of life.  THE SITE doesnt have time to babysit us and make sure we are safe from the bumps in the night.  And your suggestion of a blacklist, will cause an uproar no matter the reason.  If you dont want to be outed, dont out others. 


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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:21:20 AM   
Jeffff


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The sight, it leave me breathless.
The way the breeze makes it goose bumped,
I want to give it 46 pumps............
your ass

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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:23:49 AM   
corsetgirl


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

quote:

ORIGINAL: greeneyedreamer

I would love to out all of the doms on CM who have wronged their Submissives... Can we do that on the boards? It is sad that they are allowed to move from one to another wrecking our lives... causing emotional distress... Just asking


I would love to out all of the subs/slaves that wreck lives, cause emotional distress, but that is not allowed either.

Now that is what I call an equal opportunity outer! 


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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:24:54 AM   
tymber


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Status: offline 		No need to out anyone for any reason. Being vindictive does nothing but come back to bite us in the ass, it's not worth the time or trouble. 
I found this on my husbands website after he passed to the Summer Lands, it really says alot, and can work for all kinds of things.
"Forgiveness is not what we do for other people.  We do it for ourselves, to get well and move on".

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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:25:27 AM   
LadyHibiscus


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Status: offline 		I just want to out all the people I don't like!  And Ron.  Whoops!  Too late!

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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:25:57 AM   
RCdc


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ORIGINAL: greeneyedreamer

Oh MY GOD! I didn't mean to start a flurry. I will zip my mouth! smiles... and yeah the ones who go from Submissive to submissive trying to gain trust and then throwing them out like trash... no explanation, no email or contact... THEY SHOULD be stopped.... hey if someone where going around breaking glass car windows we'd stop them... but that's just imoho.


Seriously?  If you know that many 'crappy doms' and have first hand experience of them - I believe you will find it isn't the dominants going s-type to s-type.  Rather the s-type is repeating a process and jumping from d to d.  It's called sub frenzy - might want to look it up.
 
the.dark.

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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:26:44 AM   
SweetDommes


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ORIGINAL: greeneyedreamer

hey if someone where going around breaking glass car windows we'd stop them... but that's just imoho.


Yeah, but that's illegal - so we'd call the police to arrest them.  Being a jerk, while annoying, isn't illegal.  Neither is being a player, or a "fake" or any number of other descriptions you might want to slap on people who have "done you wrong".  Now, if someone is stalking you, that's illegal and should be reported - as should abuse, rape, etc.  But someone dropping you?  That's called 'life' - it happens to all of us.

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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:28:17 AM   
mnottertail


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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

quote:

ORIGINAL: greeneyedreamer

Oh MY GOD! I didn't mean to start a flurry. I will zip my mouth! smiles... and yeah the ones who go from Submissive to submissive trying to gain trust and then throwing them out like trash... no explanation, no email or contact... THEY SHOULD be stopped.... hey if someone where going around breaking glass car windows we'd stop them... but that's just imoho.


Seriously?  If you know that many 'crappy doms' and have first hand experience of them - I believe you will find it isn't the dominants going s-type to s-type.  Rather the s-type is repeating a process and jumping from d to d.  It's called sub frenzy - might want to look it up.
 
the.dark.

 
I only know of one Crappy Dom,
 
http://www.collarme.com/CrappyDom    
 
are you saying there are more?
 

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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:29:04 AM   
Jeffff


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I hope this is helpful

Jeff

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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:32:08 AM   
LaTigresse


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ORIGINAL: greeneyedreamer

Oh MY GOD! I didn't mean to start a flurry. I will zip my mouth! smiles... and yeah the ones who go from Submissive to submissive trying to gain trust and then throwing them out like trash... no explanation, no email or contact... THEY SHOULD be stopped.... hey if someone where going around breaking glass car windows we'd stop them... but that's just imoho.


I believe almost all submissives have some choice in who they spend time with.......unlike the car windows.

Pick better people to surround yourself with.


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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:32:12 AM   
RCdc


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But what do you call a selection of crappy doms?  A herd?  A flock?
 
the.dark.

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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:33:32 AM   
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ORIGINAL: Jeffff

As the sun shines on the crevice,
The sight, it leave me breathless.



Hand in glove
The sun shines out of our behinds
No it's not like any other love
This one is different, because it's us

And if the people stare
Let the people stare
Oh, I really don't know, and I really don't care!


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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:33:43 AM   
Jeffff


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ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark



But what do you call a selection of crappy doms?  A herd?  A flock?
 
the.dark.

 
I would think the answer is obvious........ a pride............no?
 
Jeffwey

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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:35:36 AM   
mnottertail


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Status: offline 		I suspect your side of the pond would designate it as a 'loo of crappy doms', whereas the more brusque yanks such as my self would call it a 'toiletful of crappy doms'. Maybe even a 'shitload of crappy doms'.

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< Message edited by mnottertail -- 3/11/2008 8:38:38 AM >

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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:38:24 AM   
kittinSol


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ORIGINAL: mnottertail

I suspect your side of the pond would designate it as a 'loo of crappy doms', whereas the more brusque yanks such as my self would call it a 'toiletful of crappy doms'.
 


You can also have "a bog of crappy doms". Bog... fantastic word for "the crapper".

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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:39:10 AM   
greeneyedreamer


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Status: offline 		No I only know ONE personally, but others through Submissive friends... I am shutting my mouth... hey, I won't go into it but I have my reasons for this. GOOOOOOOODDDDD ones. and he's a coward. He couldn't tell me himself it was over. That is good enough for me.... Dreamer

I AM SHUTTING UP ..........I ASKED ONE SIMPLE QUESTION... and i asked nicely too! LOL I am not a dominant jumper or anything of the sort.... or a loser or any other thing... I am just a woman who HATES to see other women hurt...

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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:39:36 AM   
LeatherBentOne


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ORIGINAL: greeneyedreamer

I would love to out all of the doms on CM who have wronged their Submissives... Can we do that on the boards? It is sad that they are allowed to move from one to another wrecking our lives... causing emotional distress... Just asking


Do you negotiate?

Do you set limits?

Are you harmed in any way you did not consent to?

Was your harm caused by an honest accident?

Have you acknowledged any red flags prior to playing?

Seems to me that if anyone is unhappy with the person they are playing with, he or she would stop and look for someone else rather than trash someone because they didnt live up to their expectations and/or didnt make them known.

What is one person's trash, could be someone else's treasure.  Why would anyone choose to degrade another without taking time to discuss and agree upon the perimeters beforehand?  Besides, this practise could be down-right dangerous in my opinion.

Now, if harm was intention or a Dominant has crossed the line regarding you making your clear cut limits known, then and only then, in my opinion, should others be notified from a safety perspective only, and only factual information should be conveyed, not personal opinions or perceptions.  It is unfair and morally immature to do otherwise.

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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:39:53 AM   
BossyShoeBitch


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quote:

ORIGINAL: mnottertail

quote:

ORIGINAL: Darcyandthedark

quote:

ORIGINAL: greeneyedreamer

Oh MY GOD! I didn't mean to start a flurry. I will zip my mouth! smiles... and yeah the ones who go from Submissive to submissive trying to gain trust and then throwing them out like trash... no explanation, no email or contact... THEY SHOULD be stopped.... hey if someone where going around breaking glass car windows we'd stop them... but that's just imoho.


Seriously?  If you know that many 'crappy doms' and have first hand experience of them - I believe you will find it isn't the dominants going s-type to s-type.  Rather the s-type is repeating a process and jumping from d to d.  It's called sub frenzy - might want to look it up.
 
the.dark.

 
I only know of one Crappy Dom,
 
http://www.collarme.com/CrappyDom    
 
are you saying there are more?
 



She should be so lucky as to be able to serve MY CrappyDom...


Sorry Jeffff, you aint him.. :-)

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RE: Outing the Doms who Wrong their Subs - 3/11/2008 8:40:55 AM   
mnottertail


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Hiya, Bossy

Ron

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