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switchmale79 -> RE: Cathartic BDSM (9/25/2005 7:50:51 PM)
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Well, what I've noticed is that oftentimes working through ones "demons" by using activities related to BDSM is actually just as likely, if actually not more likely, to be effective. Just as going out for a run, or having drinks, or talking on the phone can be therapeutic in working out one's problems. My guess is that doing anything that takes our minds away from obsessing on the problem will inevitably provide some emotional relief, even if only momentarily, until our minds return to that original problem that was bothering us. The danger is that it can become a crutch. In other words, we transform into drunks or exercise addicts to avoid fully confronting and facing up to the problem. And BDSM can very much function in that fashion. So in the end, it all turns on the question of whether we are in control of ourselves--whether we are masters of our own emotions. Unfortunately, there is no blanket answer when it comes to whether BDSM will ultimately help or merely a temporary diversion to ease and soothe our minds if only for a while. Like most things, not to fall into cliches, but moderation and control are the safest ways to approach it. It helps in the beginning with the most anguishing of hurts and emotional pain, but then it no longer provides the same emotional "shot in the arm" so to speak, and at that point we must stop and reflect on what else we need.
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