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chellekitty -> a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 10:49:02 AM)

so i was scrolling through the profiles of local members on the otherside this morning, and i had a "wft?!?!" moment...i came across the profile of the guy who raped me nearly 3 years ago...and i don't know why it is such a huge suprise...he chose me because he had seen me be flogged at a bar by someone i knew from the local community - outside the bar, so he figured i would be easy prey, he told me so while he was raping and beating me...due to various problems (like being admitted to a mental hospital when the detective called me back and the detective's asshole attitude) i never filed a formal report....i don't know if i am more scared that he might find me again, or that he might find someone else to attack, or more pissed off at myself for not following through...and i don't expect ya'll to do anything...i just wanted to vent....

chelle




MissHarlet -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 10:52:30 AM)

Chelle ....

I wish I had words of wisdom about how to make this all better for you .. I too was raped many years ago and didnt follow thru because of the attitude of the police .. all I can do is offer hugs and prayers ... and the fact that you are not alone .........




DrkJourney -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 10:56:30 AM)

I totally understand the vent, and why you didn't say anything....as MissHarlet said, unfortunately you're not alone

my prayers are with you as well

DJ




xxblushesxx -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 11:00:10 AM)

Hide his profile, as you can't turn him in here and just seeing his picture I'm sure has physiological effects on you.
I'm very sorry.
What a bastard.




softness -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 11:03:25 AM)

what she said *points up* .... also contact your local rape support group .. they keep notes on unofficially filed attacks and often pass that information on "unofficially" to the police .. its not getting his ass kicked into prison for the rest of his life ... but it means someone somewhere might get help and support where you didn't




Pyrrsefanie -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 11:06:52 AM)

Chelle, I'm sorry you had to go through that in the first place... and especially to find the son of a bitch again, that's an unpleasant shock to be sure.

I had a similar experience when I was 16 and wanted to be a Suicide Girl oh so badly... I posted a profile on one of the modelling sites for a pinup photographer, one guy answered and said he had no problem with me being underage for the photos, he seemed trustworthy... did this all behind my mother's back because I knew she'd freak.  Now I wish I had told her what I was doing because the fucker raped me and forced me to perform unspeakable acts of "submission" over and over again (he passed himself off as a real dominant), playing mind games and telling me he'd ruin me and do all sorts of shit if I ever spoke up or tried to get away.  My friends were the only ones I told and finally with their support (and the reassurance that if he ever came near me they'd kill him on sight) I managed to get away from him...

Like you, I never filed a formal report.  I was afraid of what people would say, "oh well she deserved it for what she was doing, what'd you expect, etc." but to this day I feel sick to think of how afraid I was... he had two adorable daughters, used to show me pictures of them all the time, and I wonder what the fuck he's doing to them... then found a recent posting of his on another site looking for local models.  So I can't help but wonder how many other girls he's done/is doing this to.

I understand the vent.  And I hope that the fucker gets caught and punished appropriately... maybe somebody'll castrate him and then shove his own balls so far up his ass that they come out of his mouth?

Hang in there.  I don't think we've ever spoken one-on-one but I've read your posts and I think you're fuckin' hardcore awesome.  :D

xoxo
Pyrr




sweetwenchie -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 11:09:20 AM)

i agree with blushes, hide his profile, so at least you do not have to keep seeing him... 

i am so sorry you had to experience that.   i do wish there was better advice i could offer.

wenchie




LilMissHaven -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 11:16:04 AM)

I know it probably sounds odd coming from a sub who's supposed to be looking for a Dom to protect her but a course in empowerment would probably do you a world of good.

The first time my scrawny five foot, 95 pnd ass threw a man twice my size to the mat...I just suddenly stopped being afraid. 

The next step was the hardest for me and that was to forgive myself.

The final step...forgiving him I'll probably be working on for the rest of my life.


Iggy his butt!!




DesFIP -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 11:24:47 AM)

Chelly, if you're afraid he'll see you and find you, remove your picture. Because it will be harder for him to identify you from just your profile. If there are any identifying details, like you live in a town of 300 people, remove those too.




BOUNTYHUNTER -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 11:24:54 AM)

Chelle,I want to speak for the men that don't abuse, rape or need have to have a woman under his feet to feel his power...Its those that do,needs to be denutted and given some of his own medicine...AS long as those abusers are allowed to do their crimes and slip back into the shadows then they will continue to molest,If you have noticed lately law enforcement aren"t too kind to bdsm's especially the women molested,ITS the good old boys attitude"Well the bitch was wanting it'....bounty




chellekitty -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 11:30:25 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: DesFIP

Chelly, if you're afraid he'll see you and find you, remove your picture. Because it will be harder for him to identify you from just your profile. If there are any identifying details, like you live in a town of 300 people, remove those too.


hoping it is not too late, but excellent suggestion, and done...thanks...




LadyLynx -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 11:43:18 AM)

empowerment in anybody is good, regardless of their role.  you may choose to submit, doesn't mean you have to have a "submissive personality"







Lucylastic -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 11:43:19 AM)

Chelle, , youve had some good advice so nothing much I can add to this, but virtual hugs.
If I were to come *face to face* as it were, even on the computer with some of the assholes from my past, I would feel the same way and for much the same reason. Its a shock to the system .. brings up well you know what it brings up....just take care of  you, iggy block etc, as everyone has said.
Best of luck
Lucy




LilMissHaven -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 11:54:37 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyLynx

empowerment in anybody is good, regardless of their role.  you may choose to submit, doesn't mean you have to have a "submissive personality"







Amen!!




pahunkboy -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 1:17:12 PM)

...hello.   the OP assumes the pic and the info  is accurate to the person who listed it.    the one thing - if it is, then it is clear who to avoid.

I am sorry how you were treated.  I am sorry hun.




Aileen1968 -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 1:29:18 PM)

I find that most problems are solved with a baseball bat.  Keep one in your car.  You never know when some balls might need hitting.  Seriously.




sweetwenchie -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 1:30:38 PM)

[sm=applause.gif]  Now i think that is the best advice of all Aileen!  [;)]




popeye1250 -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 1:38:10 PM)

Stay away from the cops.
Handle it yourself.
You'd be surprised what you can get done for $1,000.




Termyn8or -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 2:07:01 PM)

Doesn't anyone have any brothers ? If someone raped my sister I just can not tell you what I would do in the open forum. Suffice it to say he would never ever do it again.

Animals who masquerade as humans, well there are ways to deal with that.

T




chellekitty -> RE: a wft? moment... (3/11/2008 2:13:57 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Termyn8or

Doesn't anyone have any brothers ? If someone raped my sister I just can not tell you what I would do in the open forum. Suffice it to say he would never ever do it again.

Animals who masquerade as humans, well there are ways to deal with that.

T


my older bro has downs syndrome...my younger bro was 15 at the time...i am not even sure he knows today what happened to me then...i was still protecting him then...

i had a man who said he would "deal with it"...he has since proven that he is nothing he has ever said he was and is no one anyone can depend on...and now...i don't know what spiritual principle applies to retribution, so i don't worry about it...

chelle




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