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Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 2:33:00 AM   
subbiemk


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Status: offline 		Please could you look at my profile, and please tell me whats wrong,and what you,d like to hear? im on my knees asking.please i beg help,mybe take me?THANKYOU,
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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 2:48:22 AM   
Lovearts


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Joined: 12/18/2004
Status: offline 		Ok, i can help, though i am not a Mistress, i can assist as a fellow sub =)

Your profile is A. too short, B. describes things you want, but not what you can provide on a personal level (in depth ) C. YOUR EXPERIENCE! this is a big draw, especially at your age, even if its not in the realm of bdsm, you must have a profession and set of useful skills to which you can offer, D. your availiblity and circumstance for serving.

the internet is a vast and wonderful thing, but it also allows you to bypass all the niceties and get to the nitty gritty details and put it all forward. so take advantage of that , it helps. =) good luck on your journey my friend.

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 2:56:26 AM   
LadyEllen


Posts: 10931
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From: Stourport-England
Status: offline 		Lose the picture and get another; first thing I thought was "he looks very serious and disapproving - like someone off camera just said something offensive".

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 3:42:31 AM   
Madame4a


Posts: 2045
Joined: 2/4/2008
From: Washington, DC area
Status: offline 		I agree with what's been said -- profile is too short, if I were looking in your area, I'd move on quickly from your profile.

Yes, another picture would be great.  I don't see anything wrong with the one you have, but personally, I like to see people doing other things in pictures -- it gives me some hope that they have a fuller life than just here.

Assuming 2 things here:  you started searching in December when you joined CM, then its not been that long; it takes a great deal of time to find the right match for any kind of relationship.  For a life partner, three months would be nothing to find the right fit.  The second is, if CM is your only outlet for finding a mistress, you might want to broaden that.  I don't know what t hey have in the UK, but I've noticed there are events.  So, join a group, attend events so that you can also meet people face to face.  Its good to have more than CM if you're serious about finding someone.

good luck!

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 3:51:27 AM   
MissMagnolia


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Status: offline 		See, I think the photo makes you look like you're about to cry, so I'd change that. Ditto to the brevity of the profile. You have the list happening true, but little in your own words to let a prospective Mistress know who you are. Obviously, she will get to know you over time, but she really will look for some immediate signals in the profile. What can you do for a Mistress? What can you offer (and please, oh PLEASE don't say that you're looking for someone to help you explore your submissive side!! I run like hell when I see that, lol).

Three months isn't very long, so don't get disheartened, otherwise negativity will be reflected in your profile and subs bitching is not attractive!! Good luck!

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 4:43:08 AM   
MsSonnetMarwood


Posts: 1898
Joined: 2/10/2005
From: Eastern Shore, Maryland
Status: offline 		What have you done to get involved in the UK scene and meet people that way?

How long have you been reading the boards here to learn about BDSM, what Dommes look for, etc?  (And have you noticed the pattern where we get at least one of these postings every week?)

Have you really thought out what YOU bring to the table as a potential sub, what kind of relationship you are available for, etc?

How long do you think it takes to find an in-depth deep connecting vanilla relationship?   Is there really a time limit?

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Tossing up a one paragraph profile on a BDSM site is NOT and NEVER will be enough to bring the Dommes out to you in droves.

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 6:40:40 AM   
MistressFaye1


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Status: offline 		OP,

Ditto to what the others have said.  The one thing that would have had me moving past you is the "mostly to serve".  To me this signifies there is something, probably a lot of other things you will not do or expect a Domme to do for you but when you feel like it or if you want something you will "mostly serve".  What else are you looking for other than to "mostly serve"?

Ms. Faye

< Message edited by MistressFaye1 -- 3/12/2008 6:41:45 AM >

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 6:56:43 AM   
bobipanti


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Joined: 9/29/2005
Status: offline 		I have had the same problem as you and have had a few Mistresses tell me to say what I can do for them in my profile. I am working on changing my profile a bit, but I feel what I can do for a Mistress depends somewhat on what The Mistress wants and desires me to do. In some ways I feel that I am applying for a job for which I am unsure what is needed! Can a Mistress shed a little light on this?

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 8:31:39 AM   
LadyHathor


Posts: 775
Joined: 1/2/2008
Status: offline 		For Me, you are too far away, the pic is far from submissive, the profile way too, me me, me
 
and I really don't  gravitate to subs who have pics of all the naked subs and Mistresses and not many with clothed pics---but that's just Me---

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 8:39:06 AM   
faerytattoodgirl


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Status: offline 		ask again in 10 yrs and see if your still looking.

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 8:44:47 AM   
LadyLynx


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Status: offline 		bobipanti, that is an excellent point!  However, listing your set of skills and interests, like say massages,international cook,mechanic, & gardner. (ones that appeal to me, **winks**.) would be good to add

And OP, I'm sorry to say that I would pass you by because of the mostly service reference. Other then that, I liked the opening statement, but I have to agree with the others that the profile is a bit sparse, and your picture makes you look like your annoyed by something.  Be prepared to be looking for a long length of time, I've known people that have been looking for like 10 years. Definately look into your local community.

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 8:46:13 AM   
Shawn1066


Posts: 987
Joined: 10/7/2007
Status: offline 		Why does it not work?

It's not a profile.  It's a list of wants.

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 9:02:58 AM   
LadyHibiscus


Posts: 27124
Joined: 8/15/2005
From: Island Of Misfit Toys
Status: offline 		I agree regarding the picture.  Men have to look pleasant, friendly, and interested, not ultracranky, in order to get positive attention.  Unless they're young and hot, of course, then all bets are off.

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 10:10:28 AM   
Ostentatious


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quote:

ORIGINAL: subbiemk

Please could you look at my profile, and please tell me whats wrong,and what you,d like to hear? im on my knees asking.please i beg help,mybe take me?THANKYOU,


Because you're looking online is your biggest problem!

You live in Milton Keynes, do you go to Kinks at Pinks every two weeks?  Loads of us bdsm types there...

Do you go to the Bedford/Aylesbury/Northampton munches?  Never seen you there...

Forget profiles, get out and meet people!  We'll look after you and there's tons of Mistress' that I don't want so I'm no competition :)

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 10:51:50 AM   
DarkLovelyDomme


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quote:

ORIGINAL: LadyEllen

Lose the picture and get another; first thing I thought was "he looks very serious and disapproving - like someone off camera just said something offensive".


Agreed! You look very cranky and not at all submissive. That, combined with the "This is what I want" profile doesn't do a very good job of appealing to Dommes.

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 11:10:57 AM   
Dnomyar


Posts: 7933
Joined: 6/27/2005
Status: offline 		Op take your clothes off. Get down on your knees. Women eat that up. Put on some nipple clamps. Wear sunglasses. Take a black magic marker and draw a moustach on face. Don't be yourself that never works. Look at it this way. Seening that you posted on here you now have more women looking at your profile. Cant beat  that.

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 12:22:56 PM   
LadyHathor


Posts: 775
Joined: 1/2/2008
Status: offline 		Just spews soda, are you sure you haven't trolled as a sub??


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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 12:34:43 PM   
MistressVnus


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From: Central Florida
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quote:

Why can,t i get a mistress


Because your dick is tooooo small, you dweeb!!!
Sorry, I just couldn't help it....*grin*

Be patient.  There is someone for everyone.


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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 2:28:23 PM   
KindLadyGrey


Posts: 358
Joined: 11/6/2007
Status: offline 		Every time I see one of these posts I want to create a fake subby profile that is absolutely the worst thing EVER and post: "What is wrong with my profile? Why no Dominate love?"

These posts bore me. Let's play a new game: Absolute worst subby profile ever. What does it include?

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RE: Why can,t i get a mistress - 3/12/2008 2:30:47 PM   
Shawn1066


Posts: 987
Joined: 10/7/2007
Status: offline 		"I want to worship YOU and YOU will beat me, enslave me, keep me in enforced chasity will feminininimining me.  I am looking for a discreet relationship because my wife would never understand me like YOU GODESSES.  I bow at YOUR feet"

Something along those lines.

DV's Fox

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