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pixelslave -> RE: Must I tell all? (3/15/2008 5:15:24 AM)
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ORIGINAL: iwearpanties
hello All
ive read all of the post here and i guess im the only one ? but i hope im not one of the Mistress ' es i met for the frist time told me where too meet and what to wear so she could see i have followed orders she had given and to be able too spot me out in a public place where we met . How ever she did tell me i d better be wearing ladies panties under my male clothes she gave me a type or panty and color it took me a few stores too find that but i had no trouble doing this for her kinda made me feel she was interested more or just wanting too see if i would realy do as instructed? and i did do as she told me she was very plaes too see i found my panties and she made sure the lacey wasit band on then she colud see while we chatted
Personally, I think that what she did inappropriate. In my view, she was domming you and having a public scene with you. At that point you were not her submissive and she was not your Mistress. Based on your brief description, if that's more of what she wanted, you should have met at a public dungeon as opposed to possibly involving non-consenting bystanders in your scene. Having her suggest to what you wear externally in order to help her recognize you would be acceptable to me if not too specific. At the same time, if it was someplace you weren't familiar with, you could have asked her what was appropriate to wear and then decided for yourself and told her what you'd be wearing to help her spot you. [&:]
At this point in a relationship, IMO, a test of this sort isn't appropriate. To me, that comes later. I'm confident there are some who would disagree. Those women are also the ones who likely wouldn't interest me to begin with as to me that's not what a first meet is about. [8|]
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ORIGINAL: Ostentatious:
I wouldn't meet someone who called it an interview. I may not even want the job after meeting her. Meeting as friends, with no pressure is much better and imo Ds relationships that work work because there's a friendship in place. Making it Ds from the start doesn't allow that to happen.
I agree totally! To me, what you inititally described is "putting the cart before the horse!" One doesn't enter into a D/s dynamic until they know the other. Once they do, the dynamic slowly develops on it's own as each party eases into it. I've been on my own too long to have someone walk into my life and immediately take total control of it (e.g. "I'm not a doormat" LOL!). It would have to be a gradual thing for me as we got to know each other better and my submission to her grew. That was the case with my last Mistress who was wise enough to understand that. [:)]
As Bill Murray constantly repeated in one of his movies where he played a character with OCD, "Baby Steps". [8|]
Just my two cents on the subject... Okay, I'll admit it was at least a nickel's worth! [;)]
- pixel
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