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colouredin -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 11:21:44 AM)
sigh Gosh its hard work sometimes

Lynnxz -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 11:22:59 AM)
For some reason, the term "Daddy" squicks me out hardcore. It doesn't have to be age regression or anything, just the phrase "Come to Daddy" is enough to turn me off completely, haha.

kittinSol -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 11:23:02 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin Gosh its hard work sometimes And we don't even get paid [&o] .

SinergyNstrumpet -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 11:27:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Lynnxz For some reason, the term "Daddy" squicks me out hardcore. It doesn't have to be age regression or anything, just the phrase "Come to Daddy" is enough to turn me off completely, haha. I know what you mean, they idea of calling a man "master" makes me wanna rebel. I do not like the word, it has bad connotations for me, and it squicks me.. isn't it nice that we all get what we want? I just can't imagine a relationship in which there was no term of endearment, that my intimate partner was so far above me as for me not to be able to call him by his name, but by something entirely formal... My needs are not your needs, etc. julia

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 11:28:33 AM)
i had no problem calling Him Daddy when we gradually moved towards that dynamic almost 2 years ago. He approached me in the fatherly way making me feel safe ...so it felt natural for me to call Him by that title automatically. however i do have a problem when phoning His office using His real name when asking for Him. i want to say Daddy but i do catch myself before i do say it.

kittinSol -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 11:31:36 AM)
How about calling him by his first name? The first name is a practical thing. Actually, I think it was invented for the purpose of calling someone ;-) . Seriously, whatever rocks your boat.

hopelessfool -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 11:50:53 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin quote: ORIGINAL: hopelessfool I know its hard at first I also had a problem with it. It just takes time and practice, you can try other words for daddy, or you while your alone (people mocked me if I did it in public) repeat to yourself, 'Its just a word, Daddy finds it pleasing, Its no big deal. Daddy wants it, Daddy should get it....' repeating it tends to help let it sink in. It also worked for me with Sir, and Master We dont know WHY she doesnt want to use it, and if she doesnt want to she doesnt have to, there is no right/wrong way to do it, if you dont like the word dont use it, try something else you dont have to force yourself into it. I know I personally wouldnt want to thats just me, i wouldnt 'practice' i just wouldnt use it. If you want a differant term, you can use any that people have mentioned or talk to you Dominant and see what works for you. ps, the op didnt say that Daddy was only used in age play simply that her dynamic is DaddyDom/baby girl. Squicky uncomfortable or not, If her owner wants her to use the term daddy in specific, then shes going to have to learn to get over it, or set it as a limit, a name is a name. If He wants to be called daddy and she agrees to his terms, I offered how I got over the squickyness of it. Practice makes perfect, wither it be cleaning the house a certian way or saying certian phrases that make you blush, She asked How did you solve your problem with daddy, I replied with how I solved It, Im sorry you disagree.

colouredin -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 11:53:10 AM)
Sorry by the title of the the post and that she asked for terms she wanted new terms, but having re read it she did ask how people got over it themselves so im sorry :D

hopelessfool -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 11:59:46 AM)
Sokay ^_^;; speed reading gets the better of me all the time. ^_^

LadyHathor -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 12:19:43 PM)
*Find a paternal term in another language.*

CreativeDominant -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 12:21:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tecara We are slowly exploring the DaddyDom/babygirl lifestyle and find it fits us very well. My problem is the term "Daddy". I was wondering have others had an issue with that, if so how did you solve it? Do you use other terms? if so what?? Thanks for your help. Also anyone who lives this lifestyle and would like to chat I'd love the oppertunity to pick your brain <smiles> tecara I've never fully lived the dynamic. My first submissive was almost 20 years younger than I was and sometimes called me "Daddy". But she also called me "Sir" and "Master". I noted that the "Daddy" came out more when she was in need of nurturing and being made to feel safe or when she already felt very safe and loved by me. I've been involved with and have known submissives who do not like the whole idea at all. Not just the term of "Daddy" but the whole idea of it. Though they might be involved with an older man, the idea of addressing him as "Daddy" or anything remotely like that squicked them bigtime. Of course, most of their relationships weren't built on any kind of Daddy/little girl foundation. Of the ones that were, I found it a bit ironic and amusing that, despite the underlying "Daddy/little" girl foundation, they would no more call him "Daddy" than fly to the moon. But that was an observation, not a judgement. They had to go with what was comfortable for them. You have to do the same. Find the term that works best, not just for him but you and for the dynamic as it suits the two of you best.

tecara -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 1:50:22 PM)
What we do is not about age play. For more information maybe you'd like to take a look at http://vanilla-not.com/basics/daddydom.html

tecara -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 1:52:18 PM)
No its not about age play at all for us. Its more about the nurturing and protection, training and guidence that a DaddyDom provides.

sweetwenchie -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 1:57:28 PM)
i'd say find a word similar to Daddy that works for you, or find a way to reconcile the word Daddy in your mind with the word Master. As to your link, perhaps that works for you, but for me personally, it does not fit what i do and enjoy. [;)] As i have stated in the past, i'm a sick twisted bitch that gets off on things considered taboo.

colouredin -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 2:03:47 PM)
I read the link, i still think its a quibble over semantics and moral outcry because of the connotations, but thats just me, thanks for the link.

daddyncherry -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 2:05:31 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: tecara No its not about age play at all for us. Its more about the nurturing and protection, training and guidence that a DaddyDom provides. Then it is similar to what we share....and my Daddy also wrote something more about Daddy Doms in response to kendra's essay that you linked to....Mentioning how the term was/is a common thing in the southern US as well as Daddy being a pimp..... With that in mind, it is just another word that may take time to adjust to....If i had to refer to my Daddy as Master or Sir or by his real name it would be a really super hard transition since ALL i have ever called him is Daddy. i thought it would be hard to adjust to calling him Daddy but when he signed his emails and stuff to me, and refered to himself as Daddy to me it made it much much easier, cause that is who he is to me. Goodluck :D

tecara -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 2:13:07 PM)
I posted pretty fast this morning so please allow me a chance to clear up a few things. I have no issues with age play and never intended on saying it was right or wrong, its just not what we do. Hence why I added the link to help those who weren't as sure of the dynamics. He is not making me call him Daddy, hence why i'm looking for other terms. I want to find a term that is caring and loving but a bit out of the "norm" of dear, babe, sweetie. Something that would reflect the dynmaics without being obvious to the world LOL. The reason I asked how people got use to using the term was that maybe some hints could help me get over it not sure I ever will but knowledge is always a good thing. Thank you to those who posted suggestions of words. I'm making a list and will take them to him for consideration. Thank you also to those who shared their stores. I love being a Daddy's girl, always have, always will, so this just fits like a glove now. Though i love the D/s I always felt something missing... Now i've found it.

OmegaG -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 2:15:43 PM)
Personally, I could never call someone "Daddy" because that is what I called my father until the day he died. I could use a substitute word for a person who acted as a father figure (in fact I still call my old school friend's parents "mom" and "dad" because I grew up in their house almost as much as I grew up in mine) I would hope that a person who cared for me would understand the sacredness of my connection with the word "daddy" and compromise on another title. m'Lord doesn't have a specific preference for what title that I use, I do have a hard time with "Master" but I don't know why. It is fun to come up with variations on the theme. (he got a big chuckle out of being called Sadistic Over Lord) ETA apostrophe that my silly typist forgot.

MasterWilliam55 -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 2:27:31 PM)
Ty tecara for the link to that article. It does reflect what most of us want and aspire to achieve. Many do however engage in age play, not so much as a lifestyle, more often as a fetish, and certainly for play. From changing diapers and using babytalk to preteen and teen disipline. In some cases, no sex is involved, and there are sites that cater to this, as well as sites that cater to age play with sex. I do believe though you are right that for most of us, adopting a certain age to play at is not what we do. Its more an attitude and an approach we adopt for our basic D/s and M/s relationships.

tecara -> RE: Daddy by any other name... (3/12/2008 2:56:28 PM)
Just from the responses I'm getting out here, I'm beginning to believe there are more into the DaddyDom/little girl out there then I first thought. I know we have mentioned things in our local community only to get the yukkks and weird looks LOL. Not that it bothers us. I think alot don't understand what it is all about. I wish there was more good information out on the web regarding this way of life. The articles are limited and often repeats. If anyone has any good links that would be greatly appreciated. I'm like a sponge right now obsorbing all I can.

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