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littleone35 -> Being Shared (3/12/2008 12:26:09 PM)

I know there are some subs/slaves on here who are shared by their Master/Daddy. 
I was wondering if you were one of those subs/slaves and you were collared by a Master who said he would share you (and you wanted to be shared), and after you accepted his collar he changed his mind and wanted you all for himself.  Would you stay in the relationship or would you ask for release?

Matt's littleone 



toservez -> RE: Being Shared (3/12/2008 12:43:15 PM)

Being shared is not about sexual satisfaction for me. It is not about enjoying different men or getting the chance to be with women sexually. Being shared without my direct consent is a powerful act of domination and since my biggest fetish is power being exercised over me it is a type of thing that plays on that line of dread/ecstasy.

That being said if tomorrow my Master told me he lost his desire or came to the conclusion his best path is monogamous then I would have zero issue with it. There are hundreds of different ways to feel and taste his power over me. My sexual satisfaction begins and ends with him and him alone no matter what.

Now if all along when we were dating each other and he focused on or made a point that it was a big deal or because of other limitations in his interests made that type of play important for me to have with him and when I did become his slave he went “by the way, those words were a lie, you will never be shared” then that would be a huge issue. Not the actual lack of event but the lie, compatibility issue and the huge hit on the trust issue.



ownedgirlie -> RE: Being Shared (3/12/2008 1:12:36 PM)

Much like toserves said, being shared is an exercise of his power over me.  So far, he has minimally shared me, and when doing so, he is present and dictates what occurs.  I am not on this earth to serve others; only him.  For example, I have performed an erotic dance for a man in my Master's presence, but the dance wasn't for the other man, it was for my Master - at his instruction and for him, even though aimed at the other man and groped at by the other man.  It was all about my Master, and for his enjoyment.

Should he wish to no longer exercise his power in this way, then I would enjoy submitting to him in whatever other way he opted.  It would take a major and extraordinary ordeal for me to even consider asking for release, and I don't foresee ever asking that question.



mbes -> RE: Being Shared (3/12/2008 2:49:43 PM)

I would stay and be happy with it.



beargonewild -> RE: Being Shared (3/12/2008 3:33:09 PM)

Prior to when I was collared, I knew i would be shared with my former owner's friends and that was acceptable with me. I'm of the mind set that if he changes his mind and decides not to share me with others, it isn't a major issue to walk away from the relationship. I just don't feel that is important enough to be a deal breaker.



fluffyswitch -> RE: Being Shared (3/12/2008 10:46:07 PM)

well the concept of being shared keeps coming up between me and Him but i keep being told that i'm not ready yet. i think i'm ready mentally and maybe He's picking on something physically that i'm not noticing (though i'm really good about making things stop when i feel they have to, i've been known to draw blood before). so i guess for me it would be if i NEVER got shared then i would ask to be released.



StormsSlave -> RE: Being Shared (3/13/2008 12:45:59 AM)

My Lord has shared me one time, and I'm with toserve and ownedgirlie: it was hot, but mainly for the sake of My Lord.  It was his ultimate control over me, since I was given the task of finding someone and setting it all up by a certain date.  It was exciting, a little weird, but I will definitely do it again.  sigh...doing what I'm told and being pleasured beyong my wildest imaginations.  I guess I'll just have to throw myself onto that grenade.



subboi3382 -> RE: Being Shared (3/13/2008 2:03:30 AM)

i'd stay, but i would perfer to be shared



IrishMist -> RE: Being Shared (3/13/2008 4:46:47 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: littleone35

I know there are some subs/slaves on here who are shared by their Master/Daddy. 
I was wondering if you were one of those subs/slaves and you were collared by a Master who said he would share you (and you wanted to be shared), and after you accepted his collar he changed his mind and wanted you all for himself.  Would you stay in the relationship or would you ask for release?

Matt's littleone 

I would stay in the relationship. Once the collar is on my neck; it is no longer my choice to make.



Aynne -> RE: Being Shared (3/13/2008 5:00:49 AM)

I would be glad that I had a man that wanted me and my love for himself, and was not a pimp.  But, I would not take a collar from one that would share me anyway.  I am a submissive, not a thing to passed around randomly. 



Dnomyar -> RE: Being Shared (3/13/2008 5:02:31 AM)

Perhaps the op should have found someone who was into a poly relationship from the start.



lilabbotsfordgrl -> RE: Being Shared (3/13/2008 5:16:01 AM)

I would consider that a broken promise, personally.  I would tell him I was upset he had changed his mind about something that was important to me and a deciding factor in deciding to escalate my relationship with him.  Depending on his response, I would consider asking for release.

quote:

I was wondering if you were one of those subs/slaves and you were collared by a Master who said he would share you
quote:

ORIGINAL: Dnomyar

Perhaps the op should have found someone who was into a poly relationship from the start.

She said  "I was wondering if you were one of those subs/slaves and you were collared by a Master who said he would share you..." She didn't say "I was collared by a Master who said he would share me..."



jenf -> RE: Being Shared (3/13/2008 5:50:50 AM)

Presently, i HATE being shared, but i do it for my Master...i would LOVE to be HIS alone...he has always been enough for me.



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Being Shared (3/13/2008 6:39:15 AM)

Like some have said the issue of sharing isn't about sexual gratification but more of his power being exercised over me. Whatever his wishes are I would honor that because I knew going into our relationship what would be expected either way. Sometimes goals and needs change and a relationship has to to change with it.



sweetnurseBBW -> RE: Being Shared (3/13/2008 6:44:48 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Aynne

I would be glad that I had a man that wanted me and my love for himself, and was not a pimp.  But, I would not take a collar from one that would share me anyway.  I am a submissive, not a thing to passed around randomly. 


You do realize that there are those that enjoy being shared and those that enjoy doing it? Just because you obviously abhor it doesn't make it wrong. Just because someone else's kink isn't like mine I don't judge so harshly. If it is consensual and within the parameters set in the relationship at the beginning then it isn't for me to judge. Sorry to be snippy but your comments seemed a bit judgemental.  



subJuneJM696 -> RE: Being Shared (3/13/2008 6:48:38 AM)

what do you see in beiing shared..a poly household or just beiing shared on occasion?

personaly i'm glad my Master wouldn't share me..it makes me feel special and loved that He wants me all for Himself :P

but hey..everyone his or her fantasy!
I wouldn't stop a relation because one of a million things you could do or explore together seems to be not what you both want...



trusting -> RE: Being Shared (3/13/2008 7:19:30 AM)

i have no issue with being shared, only if that is His preference. if we had discussed my being shared and then He decided to change His mind... i would not be willing to ask to be released.

my purpose is to tend to His wants/needs, not my own! so, in other words... what He says goes!



daddyncherry -> RE: Being Shared (3/13/2008 7:43:29 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: fluffyswitch

well the concept of being shared keeps coming up between me and Him but i keep being told that i'm not ready yet. i think i'm ready mentally and maybe He's picking on something physically that i'm not noticing (though i'm really good about making things stop when i feel they have to,ii i've been known to draw blood before). so i guess for me it would be if i NEVER got shared then i would ask to be released.


fluffyswitch,

This is something i am learning of late, maybe it has nothing to do with you  physically or mentally but his trust that the relationship won't suffer some ill effects if he were to share you...He has to be able to trust in more than the fact that you say you are cool with it...He may "test"or assess you in some ways and think that now isn't the right time for it....Just a  guess, since i have been going through some of this with my Master/Daddy.

To the OP:

littleone, This would be a serious issue for me, and cause alot of confusion and upset for me. This is something that was made pretty damn clear at the onset and so i would feel like i'd been totally tricked and that my consent would never have been given for total monogamy....i am not interested in a poly relationship and feel as others have stated about the whole power exchange that is involved in the sharing process....This is a way that i am personally wired, and sure there are many ways that he shows his power and control over me, but to do it in this way would/does effect me on a very profound level much differently than anything else......Also, he has been trying to cultivate a slut in me, and sexual freedom and i long for all of that, sexual freedom within the confines of being his slave.



favesclava -> RE: Being Shared (3/13/2008 7:53:05 AM)

i'm one of those "things". i'm shared from time to time. because He owns all of me. it pleases Him to see other's desire His property and know they will never make me do the things He does. that none can satify my needs but Him. and i learned this also. i enjoy the moments . i can live without them. my job is to please Him and if watching me with another man or woman is what pleases Him then that's what will happen.
edited to add : Master said He can share me because He's very secure in my feelings for Him and His for me. He owns part of me that other's never have or ever will touch.



fluffyswitch -> RE: Being Shared (3/13/2008 8:25:29 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: daddyncherry

quote:

ORIGINAL: fluffyswitch

well the concept of being shared keeps coming up between me and Him but i keep being told that i'm not ready yet. i think i'm ready mentally and maybe He's picking on something physically that i'm not noticing (though i'm really good about making things stop when i feel they have to,ii i've been known to draw blood before). so i guess for me it would be if i NEVER got shared then i would ask to be released.


fluffyswitch,

This is something i am learning of late, maybe it has nothing to do with you  physically or mentally but his trust that the relationship won't suffer some ill effects if he were to share you...He has to be able to trust in more than the fact that you say you are cool with it...He may "test"or assess you in some ways and think that now isn't the right time for it....Just a  guess, since i have been going through some of this with my Master/Daddy.





i've been wondering that as well, though He seems more than willing to find other females for Himself (though to be fair He is seeking a bisexual so i can play too). i don't know i like our structure the way that it is (for the most part) so i don't poke at something that really isn't an issue as of yet.



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