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Lashra -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 4:52:15 AM)
I hate to say this but, it sounds like he has you where he wants you, unable to leave him without consquences. However there are resources out there to help you. Call a domestic violence shelter and explain your situation to them or call the YWCA, they will help you get to a safe place and help you get your life in order. Chalk this up to a learning lesson do not ever allow anyone to put you in such a vulnerable position. I know a lot of slaves/subs love that feeling...until things like this happen. Then its..What do I do now? Take care of yourself, YOU are your first priority. Good luck, ~Lashra

OldBastardly1 -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 4:53:06 AM)
Contact him. Tell him your plight. Discuss the cheating issue. If he doesn't help you, sell the ring. But , I would bet the ring is not worth lunch money. Take ownership of the choices you made to get in this predicament. Then learn from them. Did you say how old you are? Good luck.

mnottertail -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 4:57:30 AM)
Now where do you suppose this profile not found was 2 days ago? How did she happen upon CM while all this shit is going on in a motel room? Why hasn't this sort of shit happened to anything other than maniac-depressives who have been out here for months and months, why is it that post 1-8 (or however many old mustapha here is going to make) are ones of dire circumstance, the most improbable and life devastating situations, and all so very one sided. Curiously, Ron

Aileen1968 -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 4:59:12 AM)
All hail the grand voice of reason!!!

chamberqueen -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 5:57:22 AM)
It seems like everyone has missed the obvious. BDSM is about communication. Have you talked with him about this and let him know that you found the number and talked to a sub? I understand the feeling of being sucked back in because I was in a marriage like that, but you should let him know what you found out and that it gives you serious concerns about the future. Sometimes the hardest thing is to walk away, but there are always options. You can check with temporary agencies for jobs and might be able to find one much faster than through normal channels. If he is helping to support you now he may be willing to continue for a time. If you keep this bottled up inside and not tell him what you know you will feel that you are being untrue to both yourself and him, and that will put even more mental pressure on you. I'm very sorry that you're going through this, and my prayers are with you. Just hang tough. Sometimes it's hard to leave a nightmare because you are afraid that the option may be even worse. In most cases it's not. Just hang in there.

MasterGreg43 -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 6:01:47 AM)
I have been in the Lifestyle just over 10 years, but have been online dealing with all types of chat rooms from aol, paltalk, msn, yahoo...etc, 1 out of 10 online relationships last if they have not met serveral times a year, I understand each Dominant has their own way of dealing with a sub/slave, but I have and all My slave have blog many time to empower the submissives woman/man before commintment to a Dominant, you have to do that leg work to see if you are building a online service or real time (r/t) service all does make a different, to newbie just experiencing this Lifestyle and want to go real time must see if that Dominant ever had real slave/sub, active in community of BDSM, and so on before you pack up your home and commint totally to a person you only met 3 time in 4 years. Master Greg Palace of pain

kinkypuppy2 -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 8:24:38 AM)
Some people are just users. Unfortunately you found one and as many submissives do. Gave your all to them. First priority is to get yourself back on a firm stance. Have you friends, A local bdsm community ? family ?? Unfortunately your profile is gone so I cannot even suggest a local help for you. My best and our hugs to you where ever you are.

FRSguy -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 10:59:22 AM)
WOW.

FRSguy -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 11:00:24 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Now where do you suppose this profile not found was 2 days ago? How did she happen upon CM while all this shit is going on in a motel room? Why hasn't this sort of shit happened to anything other than maniac-depressives who have been out here for months and months, why is it that post 1-8 (or however many old mustapha here is going to make) are ones of dire circumstance, the most improbable and life devastating situations, and all so very one sided. Curiously, Ron Damn your good...lol

crouchingtigress -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 11:10:23 AM)
Ron: you are like the hardy boys and nancy drew all rolled up in one. Op: what you call "paitent" i would call co-dependant.

mnottertail -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 11:15:27 AM)
I gotta wonder how you are gonna have two cats in a hotel room? Ron

LaTigresse -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 11:22:43 AM)
Thats sorta what I was thinking myself............as I was doing my level best to behave and not draw the attention of "She who must be obeyed" Because lord knows there is ALOT I could say to this particular thread..........

parttimehotty -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 11:51:21 AM)
Let's ask the cats what REALLY happened.

Aileen1968 -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 11:54:28 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: FRSguy WOW. ????

masterfixer -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 12:13:06 PM)
An option to your dilema... be strong doors open from the vacumn created from closing doors.

angelikaJ -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 2:01:27 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail I gotta wonder how you are gonna have two cats in a hotel room? Ron maybe_motel_6?

SinergyNstrumpet -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 2:20:33 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mnottertail Now where do you suppose this profile not found was 2 days ago? How did she happen upon CM while all this shit is going on in a motel room? Why hasn't this sort of shit happened to anything other than maniac-depressives who have been out here for months and months, why is it that post 1-8 (or however many old mustapha here is going to make) are ones of dire circumstance, the most improbable and life devastating situations, and all so very one sided. Curiously, Ron Yep julia

mignoette -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 2:26:05 PM)
I don't normally post but I had to say something. I too live in a world where I am alone with no family. People it DOES happen and I've found that some so called Sirs try and exploit it. angel sounds like she is in just such a position. it screams classic enabler/abuser. Think about it. Rather than build her up she's pretty much been forced to become dependent on him fully. My best advice is RUN! been there done that and took a few years to get back on my feet.

domiguy -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 2:31:24 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: mignoette I don't normally post but I had to say something. I too live in a world where I am alone with no family. People it DOES happen and I've found that some so called Sirs try and exploit it. angel sounds like she is in just such a position. it screams classic enabler/abuser. Think about it. Rather than build her up she's pretty much been forced to become dependent on him fully. My best advice is RUN! been there done that and took a few years to get back on my feet. Thank God for the weak wildebeest within the herd. It makes it so much easier to garnish the go-go hole without all of that unnecessary chasing. It can be so fucking exhausting. My advice is at best to maybe walk at a brisk pace. The strong, wise and intelligent are not so easily fooled. It rarely takes them "years" to get back up on their feet...Unless they are paralyzed and if you are really fucking tough you can usually overcome that kind of shit in about a month.

FRSguy -> RE: Please help, I don't know what to do (3/13/2008 2:33:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aileen1968 quote: ORIGINAL: FRSguy WOW. ???? Sorry about that... I had this post going and I posted it and then I read Ron and decided to kill my post and just left the wow.

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