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sabirah -> what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 5:59:05 AM)
I have heard this a few times now, I think it has something to do with the high level of intensity of a scene,and when the scene is over the Dom is left feeling empty ? Can anyone please explain it, or has anyone ever heard of this term before ?

SailingBum -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 6:15:23 AM)
This is a question where all the "experts" gather to explain what "fill in the blank" means to them. And how other views are just plain wrong. This should be a fun read. BadOne

SixFootMaster -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 6:18:20 AM)
It's quite simple, it's the drop at the end of a massive high. You know when you have this really delicious cake, and you're there eating it , savoring every mouthful, and then its all gone, and you dont have cake anymore, just the memory of how good the cake was?

LadyHibiscus -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 6:36:00 AM)
There's cake? Some folks will tell you that tops have some version of the endorphin high that some subs get....and with every high comes a plummet.

SirMIkeSD -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 6:55:47 AM)
Sixfoot gave a very good explanation, and for me if it was a really good session I fly for a couple of days after. Then when I crash it's I need to sleep NOW. Mike

MistressVnus -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 7:11:33 AM)
Expert or not, I know what it is to me and I hate it. I refer to it as "Top-drop" And, for me, it is more about my body chemistry having been altered with adrenalines and phermones for an extended period of time, as well as enduring some level of sleep deprivation due to so much play and adrenalines pumping, and then removing the stimuli that creates it (the slave). Therefore, crashing from the high of it all. I am not one of those people who likes to come out of my top space. I can definately stay in it 24/7 if given the opportunity. However, usually I have a visit for a few days or a week, perhaps, and afterwards I do an extreme emotional drop. I become very tired, have symptoms of depression, and isolate for a day or two afterwards until I get my bearings back. Before I knew what it was, I was attaching all this to the slave I had been with. In other words, mistaking the feelings to come from a strong emotional attachment to the slave, exclusively. And interpreting it more as my missing that individual, extremely so. But, I learned with time, that although I am emotionally attached to my slave(s), the bulk of what I'm going through is top-drop and it ceases within a couple days. Since realizing this about myself, it is much easier to cope with and much quicker to walk through. Now I do things to speed up the process of homeostasis. Drink lots of fluids. Excercise. And catch up on some much needed sleep. Then......I'm ready for the next round...grin

SailingBum -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 7:37:57 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: MistressVnus Expert or not, I know what it is to me and I hate it. I refer to it as "Top-drop" And, for me, it is more about my body chemistry having been altered with adrenalines and phermones for an extended period of time, as well as enduring some level of sleep deprivation due to so much play and adrenalines pumping, and then removing the stimuli that creates it (the slave). Therefore, crashing from the high of it all. I am not one of those people who likes to come out of my top space. I can definately stay in it 24/7 if given the opportunity. However, usually I have a visit for a few days or a week, perhaps, and afterwards I do an extreme emotional drop. I become very tired, have symptoms of depression, and isolate for a day or two afterwards until I get my bearings back. Before I knew what it was, I was attaching all this to the slave I had been with. In other words, mistaking the feelings to come from a strong emotional attachment to the slave, exclusively. And interpreting I can relate to this in a way it has nothing to do with play time. The body chemistry letdown she is refering for me has to do with playing sports or any prolonged exercise. The emotional drop I've experienced has to do with when someone I care for is ill or when they pass away. Or when my kids would leave me to stay at their mothers house. When I was getting a divorce. BadOne

variation30 -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 8:11:39 AM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LadyHibiscus There's cake? the cake is a lie.

kinkypuppy2 -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 8:59:00 AM)
Good way of explaining it. Dom-drop is the sudden ending of physical and mental effort. The sudden ending of energy input from the submissive being played with that leaves one feeling empty.

MasterWilliam55 -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 10:17:28 AM)
I only feel exhilerated after prolonged intense play. I suppose some Doms could experience Dom drop, but I suspect most don't. This subject came up at a munch last year, and as I recall only one Domme said she had experienced it.

Leatherist -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 10:21:43 AM)
This is why I got selfish in the end, and switched from "service top" mode into a purer form of sadism. I was spending so much of my time during a scene being submissive to the botom's pleasure-that it reduced my own to nada. And that does become very draining after a while. If the energy flow is not reciprocal,-fuck it-I'm not going to bother.

Archer -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 11:33:51 AM)
I get the drop personally because when I'm in the scene/action/ work/play the area I control and rule over expandsand when it's really good, I end the scene OWNING the entire universe and everyone in it. Dom's Masters, switches submissives slaves all of them BELONG TO ME. Problem is two fold #1 they don't know it, (damnit why don't they all just bow down to me it should be obvious that I am a God) #2 this mental state has to end sometime or else I would end up in the luny bin. (For some reason the world insists that I am not a God, and insists on locking me up when I believe it myself) Crashing back to reality realizing that no that tasty little morsel over there has not consented to be NEXT, can be a real problem sometimes.

SummerWind -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 7:32:15 PM)
.......Candy for Masters

Sirandlil1 -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 7:36:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SummerWind .......Candy for Masters First cake and now candy.....

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 7:49:22 PM)
Honestly anything that has been said about subdrop can apply to topdrop. http://www.collarchat.com/m_883031/mpage_1/key_top%252Cdrop/tm.htm#883388 TopDrop/subdrop and Aftercare http://www.collarchat.com/m_772983/mpage_1/key_aftercare/tm.htm#773055 how much is "too much" aftercare? http://www.collarchat.com/m_725006/mpage_1/key_aftercare/tm.htm#725011 aftercare, the top side? http://www.collarchat.com/m_598726/mpage_1/key_aftercare/tm.htm#599129 aftercare in ltr and casual play http://www.collarchat.com/m_495421/mpage_1/key_aftercare/tm.htm#496775 aftercare- when to offer it and how much? http://www.collarchat.com/m_491455/mpage_1/key_aftercare/tm.htm#492065 aftercare http://www.collarchat.com/m_743958/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#744221 sub drop please help http://www.collarchat.com/m_649399/mpage_1/key_subdrop/tm.htm#649697 Coming down from the glorious heights http://www.collarchat.com/m_522013/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#522021 sub drop, definitions, causes, cures, and prevention http://www.collarchat.com/m_512884/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#513003 Your insight is needed please http://www.collarchat.com/m_487853/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#488083 sub drop (2) http://www.collarchat.com/m_460639/mpage_1/key_subdrop/tm.htm#460834 regaining balance after deep subspace http://www.collarchat.com/m_202168/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#202459 sub-drop what is it? http://www.collarchat.com/m_345419/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#345462 highs and lows http://www.collarchat.com/m_398653/mpage_1/key_sub%252Cdrop/tm.htm#399164 subdrop or what? Is it drop or am I kidding myself? Depression after a scene Sub Drop Nervous sub seeks reassurance sleeping...

ownedgirlie -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 7:51:22 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: SailingBum This is a question where all the "experts" gather to explain what "fill in the blank" means to them. And how other views are just plain wrong. This should be a fun read. BadOne LOL I see you've been around long enough to learn how things around there.

MasterGreg43 -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/13/2008 9:23:22 PM)
well I see enough has been said about Dom drop or Top drop, I even posted a journal entry for more information, but over all most has hit strong point in this subject, for Me it that not only after a great session, and even after good sex too, it that high that u still have, and cant seem to winddown yet.

ThundersCry -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/14/2008 9:29:53 AM)
I agree with L A... I have experienced both sides and its almost...the same feelings Rather it be a few hours later or a few...days. Talking did help me at times to overcome it...when I would...talk. Usually when I clammed up my pride was in the way. It just depended on the person I was with....and the nature of the scene...for lack of a better word to use. Peace

Imaticklor2005 -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/14/2008 10:40:16 AM)
Personally i never really experienced this except when something bad happened to someone i care for. Probably cause when that happens its something you dont have any control over. With all your skills ,love,power and caring there still is nothing you can do about it. Therefor feeling empty and kinda useless in a situation which is a feeling nobody likes. As it this at this moment i do experience the drop emensly as an 8 month during master/slave relationship abruptly came to an end. Although it was online its been the most amazing one i had so far. Besides our relationship and sessions she was also a sort of best friend and we could talk about anything and i mean anything for hours.Average talks lasted for 6 hours a day with also moments of silence but when your that deep commited to eachother talk isnt needed. She allowed me to read her like a book on All things and therefor making it possible finding out her every hidden desire.Perfect sessions of bliss were the result of that making her shiver and shake allover without even touching her. Sometimes she cried after a session cause of the emotions had to come out that she bottled up for so long.But soon enough they made way for smiles,relief and a twinckle in her eyes that make you know she found what she been dying for all along.Its seeing and experiencing her in that way that is the ultimate high for me as a master.Very much pleasing me to find out that besides all the kink you managed to make her whole as a person. This went on for 8 months and wasnt easy with the 6 hour timediff which meant very late nights for me. Dedication,devotion and honesty from both sides all the way. Then suddenly 2 days ago i was watching over her while she was sleeping as usual (cause it made her feel safe) and at some point dozed off myself.Few hours later i woke up feeling all shitty but didnt know why yet. I checked my messages and there were 2 ,one said ; ty Master for watching over me again followed by kisses and sweet dreams.Then the next message which was send 3 hours later said ;Hey umm. im deleting everything so im gone forever.sry Master. Ofcourse i checked all sites and messenger where we normally talked and indeed all gone. I have no clue what happened or why but something awfull must have happened in those 3 hours. If we normally talked about everything like deepest darkest secrets ,real problems and anything you can imagine. Then what is it she dont dare talking about or making her dissapear??. All in all i just hope shes ok ,thats my main concern. But yea an 8 month high abruptly ended and i dont even have a clue why lol Think this also does qualify here as a drop (which by the way is a new term for me) and happened to stumble on here.Dunno why and i never read anything here yet but was drawn to it somehow. lol sorry for the endless story but i needed to get it out for a bit i guess. Haha come to think of it if you see my situation then you can take the term Dom drop a bit literally.

IronBear -> RE: what is Dom drop ? (3/14/2008 10:44:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: sabirah I have heard this a few times now, I think it has something to do with the high level of intensity of a scene,and when the scene is over the Dom is left feeling empty ? Can anyone please explain it, or has anyone ever heard of this term before ? On a whimsical note, perhaps Dom Drop is shoving a Dom out of an aircraft with or without a parashute??????? Iron Bear Master of Bruin Cottage My Life for my Queen My Soul for my Goddess My Heart for my Lady And my Honor for myself "I judge a Man by what I see him do and not by what others tell me he does." (Captain Sir Edward Pellew of the HMS Indefatigable to Midshipman Hornblower ~ C.S. Forrester)

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