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RE: TPE=Trust, Responsibility, Commitment - 3/15/2008 4:18:35 AM

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I really, really, liked your response. Thanks.

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RE: TPE=Trust, Responsibility, Commitment - 3/15/2008 4:20:35 AM

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To steal the line, with great power, comes great responsibility.

That's a great quote, Lady Pact. Do you know who said it?
Thanks for your input, as well. Looks like we went to different schools together, too!!

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RE: TPE=Trust, Responsibility, Commitment - 3/15/2008 4:21:38 AM

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This may actually be the single smartest statement I have ever heard about abuse. Well done.

Thank you.

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RE: TPE=Trust, Responsibility, Commitment - 3/15/2008 4:26:51 AM

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i still need my space and so do you...it is more a real life thing than it is i need my space because you are so far up my ass i can taste brylcream.If you wish to call it the vanilla world,fine..such as visiting relatives.I cannot allow power at that point..we must be total equals.After we are away from the family...go ahead and flip the switch.

chezzy,

That is part of what I'm driving home with the "responsibility" of the Dominant in these types of arrangements. Knowing when to push, when not to, and to recognize certain boundaries, spoken or not. These are also things negotiated prior to "going in". Also, it is interesting to note that when you have been in this type of relationship long enough, although you may be in front of people you don't wish to know about your lifestyle, there will still be little nuances that go on that will be hard to completely avoid. Some things will be "ingrained," so to speak. So, in essence, you still, really, haven't come out of your role. It just isn't so obvious.

Hopefully, someday, you can see what I mean by that.

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RE: TPE=Trust, Responsibility, Commitment - 3/15/2008 4:32:54 AM

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To steal the line, with great power, comes great responsibility.

That's a great quote, Lady Pact. Do you know who said it?
Thanks for your input, as well. Looks like we went to different schools together, too!!

Sure. Spiderman's Uncle Ben. I don't know if Stan Lee gets credit for it or not.

(Except he stole it from Harry Truman.)

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RE: TPE=Trust, Responsibility, Commitment - 3/15/2008 4:38:23 AM

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Spiderman's Uncle Ben.

LOL....Who would have thunk it!! Thanks.

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RE: TPE=Trust, Responsibility, Commitment - 3/15/2008 5:22:01 AM

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Seriously, Dear, it really was Harry S. Truman. The quote became famous after the decision and action was made to drop the bombs in Japan during WWII, in his address to the nation.

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RE: TPE=Trust, Responsibility, Commitment - 3/15/2008 9:47:52 AM

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Great topic. I too was taught the responsibilities of being a Mistress. It isn't something that I take lightly nor do I have a running string of submissives that I consider "my collared boys". I will however act as counsel to some, to others a friend, to yet others someone that can/will/does take the time to help them heal after an abusive relationship. The latter seems to happen more than I've noticed in the past.

I have a theory about that but that would porbably lead to an almost debate in itself.

TPE to me... whether an hour or a lifetime is what it is. The power of one is "given" to another. It's serious business and not to be taken lightly by either person.

I enjoy the exchange but to me I don't want the responsibility of being totally powerful over another. I don't do well with those that tend to need to be guided or lead 24/7. It's been my experience that those that are quick to give themselves without really developing the relationship; are leaving themselves open for abuse.

We may all have in mind the type of relationship we want and we may work our tails off to get it the exact way we want it to be in our fantasies but the truth of the matter is---relationships, over time define themselves.

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RE: TPE=Trust, Responsibility, Commitment - 3/15/2008 10:02:01 AM

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I've always thought it meant "Totally Pointless Expression"... Actually, the one thing I've really never understood about the term is why it's called a power EXCHANGE. It's not a power exchange. Power transfer, maybe, but not exchange.

Generally, I'd say TPE means: "The master does what the master decides and the slave does what the master decides." But TPE is a state of mind, and it's also an ideal that reality can only approach. Maybe in Mauritania or some other country that still countenances chattel slavery, it's possible to have absolute power over another human being. In our society, I can't sell a slave or cut off her tongue or whatever, no matter how "extreem" and intense I claim to be.

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RE: TPE=Trust, Responsibility, Commitment - 3/15/2008 5:35:25 PM

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relationships, over time define themselves.

I TOTALLY agree with you there. Even if TPE ideas and concepts are exchanged between the parties involved, and agreed upon, I have found each and every relationship takes a life of it's own. However, to me, that's one of the exciting things about the journey. *smile*

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RE: TPE=Trust, Responsibility, Commitment - 3/15/2008 5:40:07 PM

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In our society, I can't sell a slave or cut off her tongue or whatever, no matter how "extreem" and intense I claim to be.

Well, we could. But I have a feeling it would turn out very self-defeating.
But I was discussing TPE in the format of WIITWD, and with the concept of being responsible for our care's well-being. I think that would "hopefully" eliminate any issues with that type of scenario. And, it pretty much drives home the point of understanding, and taking on, the responsibility of it all.

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RE: TPE=Trust, Responsibility, Commitment - 3/16/2008 3:19:58 AM

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Of course you are right and i hear you.I would like to add in saying what i said in my post..that i would never ever try to turn things around and get all dominant on the Domina because i am in front of family and or friends or both.Hell...might as well commit suicide at that point.

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RE: TPE=Trust, Responsibility, Commitment - 3/16/2008 3:37:03 AM

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Hell...might as well commit suicide at that point.

ROFL. But then you'd take all the fun out of giving her the opportunity to kill you!!! There you go, trying to control the situation again. *chuckle*

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