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Aneirin -> Daddies (3/13/2008 3:37:52 PM)
I notice on the other side when I am engaged in reading profiles that many refer to their dom as 'daddy'. This troubles me somewhat, as to who wants to call a dom daddy, is it the sub side, or the desire of the dominant party.With an idea of what may go on in a D/s relationship, is 'daddy' a good word to use in this present age?

colouredin -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 3:39:27 PM)
ducks for cover

angelspassion4u -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 3:41:14 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin ducks for cover giggles

TracyTaken -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 3:43:39 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Aneirin I notice on the other side when I am engaged in reading profiles that many refer to their dom as 'daddy'. This troubles me somewhat, as to who wants to call a dom daddy, is it the sub side, or the desire of the dominant party.With an idea of what may go on in a D/s relationship, is 'daddy' a good word to use in this present age? Depends on how kinky you want to get. Since we have two kids and have for years referred to each other as mom and dad, Daddy is no stretch. From the kink side, a mean and nasty dad ain't bad. Again, YMMV according to your squick factor. I do note that this post applies to "daddy" and not to "mommy," which is interesting. [:)]

Littlepita -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 3:44:49 PM)
I suggest you do a search on Daddy/Doms and gather some information before criticizing what is important to many of us here. [:)]

Gemini1766 -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 3:46:03 PM)
There are going to be many answers to this one. For some it seems that "Daddy" is a term used in a Fem/Fem D/s relationship, for I don't understand what reason. Beyond that (which I got from a friend who does just that) I haven't a clue, and won't pretend to.

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 3:51:45 PM)
OK, a Daddy Dom is a Male type Dominant Person Who has a strong Fathering urge,the counter part of the Mother Hen syndrome I would believe, How ever in D/s When the Daddy Dom takes a submissive, He treats her rather like a little girl(see the next page to find out more about the little girl sub) He guides, teaches AND.. offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. In my view a Daddy Dom is the most tender of Dominants. He loves His little girl with an unwaivering and passionate Love that is timeless. His little girl is His sunshine the bright spot in His life. He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing He can not, He guides and teaches her helping her to be ready for this world. And then He waits, knowing she will run to Him when she becomes over whelmed and scared by the harshness of it all. The Daddy Dom always has His little girl's best interest in mind, He will help her set and reach goals, He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be,not for Him but for herself..and yes He will even at times punish her. This will no doubt break His heart, but He will always do whats best for her. The Daddy Dom gains as much joy and excitement from His little girl's daily acomplishment as she herself does. His pride in her shows in the tender loving way He cares for her, she has put that twinkle in His eye. The Daddy Dom listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to Him, to her they are real and He will help her confront them. He slays her dragons so to speak and He is her Hero for it. The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams and desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves Him enough to open herself up so totally to Him, and He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little girl, and He loves her unconditionaly. Even if during scening He brings her great pain to release her pleasures(admit it some like it .. so hush now.) He will cuddle her and show her the tenderness she craves when she needs it., when she feels unsure of herself ,He will whisper encouraging words for her, when she feels ugly He will reasure her how beautiful she is to Him.. when she is scared He will be her saftey ,her medium against the world if need be. Even though she is all woman, she is His little girl and He is her Daddy!

CalifChick -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 3:52:02 PM)
I missed the criticism. Where?? Cali

angelspassion4u -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 3:56:26 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 OK, a Daddy Dom is a Male type Dominant Person Who has a strong Fathering urge,the counter part of the Mother Hen syndrome I would believe, How ever in D/s When the Daddy Dom takes a submissive, He treats her rather like a little girl(see the next page to find out more about the little girl sub) He guides, teaches AND.. offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. In my view a Daddy Dom is the most tender of Dominants. He loves His little girl with an unwaivering and passionate Love that is timeless. His little girl is His sunshine the bright spot in His life. He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing He can not, He guides and teaches her helping her to be ready for this world. And then He waits, knowing she will run to Him when she becomes over whelmed and scared by the harshness of it all. The Daddy Dom always has His little girl's best interest in mind, He will help her set and reach goals, He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be,not for Him but for herself..and yes He will even at times punish her. This will no doubt break His heart, but He will always do whats best for her. The Daddy Dom gains as much joy and excitement from His little girl's daily acomplishment as she herself does. His pride in her shows in the tender loving way He cares for her, she has put that twinkle in His eye. The Daddy Dom listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to Him, to her they are real and He will help her confront them. He slays her dragons so to speak and He is her Hero for it. The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams and desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves Him enough to open herself up so totally to Him, and He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little girl, and He loves her unconditionaly. Even if during scening He brings her great pain to release her pleasures(admit it some like it .. so hush now.) He will cuddle her and show her the tenderness she craves when she needs it., when she feels unsure of herself ,He will whisper encouraging words for her, when she feels ugly He will reasure her how beautiful she is to Him.. when she is scared He will be her saftey ,her medium against the world if need be. Even though she is all woman, she is His little girl and He is her Daddy! and what to do about it Bravo!!!! Well said. Smiles

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 3:58:15 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: angelspassion4u quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 OK, a Daddy Dom is a Male type Dominant Person Who has a strong Fathering urge,the counter part of the Mother Hen syndrome I would believe, How ever in D/s When the Daddy Dom takes a submissive, He treats her rather like a little girl(see the next page to find out more about the little girl sub) He guides, teaches AND.. offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. In my view a Daddy Dom is the most tender of Dominants. He loves His little girl with an unwaivering and passionate Love that is timeless. His little girl is His sunshine the bright spot in His life. He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing He can not, He guides and teaches her helping her to be ready for this world. And then He waits, knowing she will run to Him when she becomes over whelmed and scared by the harshness of it all. The Daddy Dom always has His little girl's best interest in mind, He will help her set and reach goals, He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be,not for Him but for herself..and yes He will even at times punish her. This will no doubt break His heart, but He will always do whats best for her. The Daddy Dom gains as much joy and excitement from His little girl's daily acomplishment as she herself does. His pride in her shows in the tender loving way He cares for her, she has put that twinkle in His eye. The Daddy Dom listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to Him, to her they are real and He will help her confront them. He slays her dragons so to speak and He is her Hero for it. The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams and desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves Him enough to open herself up so totally to Him, and He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little girl, and He loves her unconditionaly. Even if during scening He brings her great pain to release her pleasures(admit it some like it .. so hush now.) He will cuddle her and show her the tenderness she craves when she needs it., when she feels unsure of herself ,He will whisper encouraging words for her, when she feels ugly He will reasure her how beautiful she is to Him.. when she is scared He will be her saftey ,her medium against the world if need be. Even though she is all woman, she is His little girl and He is her Daddy! and what to do about it Bravo!!!! Well said. Smiles I didnt write it. I got it from a website. i would have put a link to it but it was typed dark on dark and was hard to read to I pasted it. But this is pretty much why I want a daddy dom. I want to be controlled and cherished and protected.

angelspassion4u -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 4:00:13 PM)
*Same for me too lushiouslips19 :) Thank you for posting it no matter where you got it from.*

Aneirin -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 4:14:56 PM)
Note to all, it is not a criticism of peoples pleasure, but I was wondering is all, and as I don't know, I ask. And reply to another, daddy I have seen, mommy I have not, so daddy I ask about.

bipolarber -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 4:57:10 PM)
One of the nice things about the Daddy/little girl/boy pardigm is, the very nature of the word implies a certain responsibility to the partner's well being. I, like you, felt a little odd at the use of the word when I first got involved in the BDSM scene... but since the participants I encountered were all of consenting age, I didn't see any reason to say anything about it. Oddly enough, this "Daddy/girl" or "Daddy/boy" relationship doesn't always denote age play. I suppose Daddy could also be used in the "he's my sugar-daddy" sense. You might try finding a book edited by Pat Califa, "Doing' it for Daddy" although it's a collection of fiction, Pat's intro is a great explaination of this slightly un-PC approach to D/s.

SinergyNstrumpet -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 4:59:39 PM)
quote: This troubles me somewhat Why?

fiestysubmissive -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 5:01:55 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 OK, a Daddy Dom is a Male type Dominant Person Who has a strong Fathering urge,the counter part of the Mother Hen syndrome I would believe, How ever in D/s When the Daddy Dom takes a submissive, He treats her rather like a little girl(see the next page to find out more about the little girl sub) He guides, teaches AND.. offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. In my view a Daddy Dom is the most tender of Dominants. He loves His little girl with an unwaivering and passionate Love that is timeless. His little girl is His sunshine the bright spot in His life. He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing He can not, He guides and teaches her helping her to be ready for this world. And then He waits, knowing she will run to Him when she becomes over whelmed and scared by the harshness of it all. The Daddy Dom always has His little girl's best interest in mind, He will help her set and reach goals, He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be,not for Him but for herself..and yes He will even at times punish her. This will no doubt break His heart, but He will always do whats best for her. The Daddy Dom gains as much joy and excitement from His little girl's daily acomplishment as she herself does. His pride in her shows in the tender loving way He cares for her, she has put that twinkle in His eye. The Daddy Dom listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to Him, to her they are real and He will help her confront them. He slays her dragons so to speak and He is her Hero for it. The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams and desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves Him enough to open herself up so totally to Him, and He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little girl, and He loves her unconditionaly. Even if during scening He brings her great pain to release her pleasures(admit it some like it .. so hush now.) He will cuddle her and show her the tenderness she craves when she needs it., when she feels unsure of herself ,He will whisper encouraging words for her, when she feels ugly He will reasure her how beautiful she is to Him.. when she is scared He will be her saftey ,her medium against the world if need be. Even though she is all woman, she is His little girl and He is her Daddy! That was so beautifully written - I want one!

lusciouslips19 -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 5:07:59 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: bipolarber One of the nice things about the Daddy/little girl/boy pardigm is, the very nature of the word implies a certain responsibility to the partner's well being. I, like you, felt a little odd at the use of the word when I first got involved in the BDSM scene... but since the participants I encountered were all of consenting age, I didn't see any reason to say anything about it. Oddly enough, this "Daddy/girl" or "Daddy/boy" relationship doesn't always denote age play. I suppose Daddy could also be used in the "he's my sugar-daddy" sense. You might try finding a book edited by Pat Califa, "Doing' it for Daddy" although it's a collection of fiction, Pat's intro is a great explaination of this slightly un-PC approach to D/s. I use to be uncomfortable with it. But when I learned it had nothing to do with pretending it was your own father but a representation of the experienced Dominant who is there to teach and guide, well I like it alot.

probablyknowme -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 5:10:07 PM)
I have a Daddy Dom. He is many things to me, a teacher, a guidance counselor, a disciplinarian, a lover, a sadist, a safe haven, and the man I submit to. Note, I did not say one word about age play or Adult Baby roles. Just as an aside, my Daddy is a Leatherman, and since becoming involved in that community, I have noticed that there seems to be a preponderance of Dominants in that lifestyle who identify themselves as "Daddy." Since the Leather community originated in the gay community, I have to wonder about that corellation. Just my $.25 worth, kat

sambamanslilgirl -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 5:59:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: lusciouslips19 OK, a Daddy Dom is a Male type Dominant Person Who has a strong Fathering urge,the counter part of the Mother Hen syndrome I would believe, How ever in D/s When the Daddy Dom takes a submissive, He treats her rather like a little girl(see the next page to find out more about the little girl sub) He guides, teaches AND.. offers her what she needs most of all, unconditional love and acceptance. In my view a Daddy Dom is the most tender of Dominants. He loves His little girl with an unwaivering and passionate Love that is timeless. His little girl is His sunshine the bright spot in His life. He wants nothing more than to pull her close and protect her from the cruel world. But knowing He can not, He guides and teaches her helping her to be ready for this world. And then He waits, knowing she will run to Him when she becomes over whelmed and scared by the harshness of it all. The Daddy Dom always has His little girl's best interest in mind, He will help her set and reach goals, He will help her improve herself to be the best she can be,not for Him but for herself..and yes He will even at times punish her. This will no doubt break His heart, but He will always do whats best for her. The Daddy Dom gains as much joy and excitement from His little girl's daily acomplishment as she herself does. His pride in her shows in the tender loving way He cares for her, she has put that twinkle in His eye. The Daddy Dom listens to all her fears and concerns, knowing no matter how silly or childish they may sound to Him, to her they are real and He will help her confront them. He slays her dragons so to speak and He is her Hero for it. The Daddy Dom hears all her dreams and desires and all the dirty little secrets, and smiles because she is bold enough and loves Him enough to open herself up so totally to Him, and He kisses her face and holds her close letting her know she is loved no matter what. she is His little girl, and He loves her unconditionaly. Even if during scening He brings her great pain to release her pleasures(admit it some like it .. so hush now.) He will cuddle her and show her the tenderness she craves when she needs it., when she feels unsure of herself ,He will whisper encouraging words for her, when she feels ugly He will reasure her how beautiful she is to Him.. when she is scared He will be her saftey ,her medium against the world if need be. Even though she is all woman, she is His little girl and He is her Daddy! what she posted there's nothing wrong calling my Dominant Daddy for He's more of a father than my real one.

junecleaver -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 6:28:15 PM)
I never had a person I called 'Dad' in my life. I'm not a parent. Neither is he. So the normal things that might squick other people out are not yet a factor for us. I do understand where you are coming from though and I often wonder if after I have children calling him Daddy will be different for me because relating to him as a Daddy is very much a sexual 'Oh we're being naughty' thing for us, not really a D/lg dynamic.

DesFIP -> RE: Daddies (3/13/2008 6:35:55 PM)
You have problems with this. So be it. But to go from your not being interested in this to saying that nobody today should do this is quite a stretch. I'm squicked by needles, doesn't mean I assume anyone who does like that is wrong. Neither party is beneath the age of consent so why do you care what others do?

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