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atendersoul -> advise....please (3/13/2008 3:50:39 PM)
i was with someone that i met here for two months and discovered that he was nothing as he said he was..... after leaving, the female slave before me...having spent 18 months with this supposely master and i have talked..... he has returned to this site, again under another screen name and seeking another "easy" female..... what would you do?

Jeffff -> RE: advise....please (3/13/2008 3:52:41 PM)
Ignore Him. You can't save the whole world and you shouldn't try. Besides the guy you found to be a supposed master, may be anothers dream Jeff

umisprite -> RE: advise....please (3/13/2008 3:54:21 PM)
I would try to learn lessons from past experiences and move on.

colouredin -> RE: advise....please (3/13/2008 3:57:34 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Ignore Him. You can't save the whole world and you shouldn't try. Besides the guy you found to be a supposed master, may be anothers dream Jeff Yup I agree here one mans heaven and all that, just have to learn from your mistakes Im afraid not much else you can do.

OmegaG -> RE: advise....please (3/13/2008 4:05:21 PM)
How would you like it if every ex you've ever had suddenly showed up to speak against your future potential happiness? One woman's jerk is another woman's jewel.

MistressVnus -> RE: advise....please (3/13/2008 4:24:19 PM)
quote: and discovered that he was nothing as he said he was.. This is a tough one to me. Why? Because it may boil down to interpretations, pre-conveived notions, and unrealistic expectations. Did he intentionally harm you? Did he outright lie to you? Did he blatently disrespect your limits or boundaries? Or, did he just not live up to what you had perceived in your mind. Without the answer to those questions, I would be haste in giving any advise on what to do regarding his future prospects.

Constrictor1 -> RE: advise....please (3/13/2008 4:32:39 PM)
Get a full battery STD testing and then find someone worthy of your trust and submission. C

tsatske -> RE: advise....please (3/13/2008 4:33:35 PM)
quote: Without the answer to those questions, I would be haste in giving any advise on what to do regarding his future prospects. I wouldn't. My ex-husband was a jerk. Ask me what went wrong and I will tell you - because it is just me, chatting and gossiping away. You don't know him and it can't injure him. But, whatever he was with me, part of that was our dynamic, who we were together. With some other woman he may be a very different creature. It's really none of my business. He left me and went off to SD to live with the author of a well known lifestyle book. Rather they are still together I can not say. Given her public status, surely I could have went to her website, followed her 'write me some fanmail' link and written a long treaties about what her new bf was going to be like. Why would I? What is it to me? If they have found happiness together, so be it. If not, she is a big girl. If he is the same with her as he was with me, and if she finds that as much not a fit as I did, ( I mean, she is a published author and all. Maybe she can afford to keep him up in the style he so clearly believed he deserved without his having to actually - gasp! - Work!), she can throw him out on his ear and report his ass to INS, if she is so inclined. (But probably not for illegal employment. Nope, don't see that one happening). Stay out of other adults lives, whenever possible, at the very least until and unless they invite you in - and sometimes even then.

colouredin -> RE: advise....please (3/13/2008 4:34:56 PM)
http://www.collarchat.com/m_1163969/tm.htm I think that this may help explain why people will tend to say do nothing :D

MistressVnus -> RE: advise....please (3/13/2008 4:51:48 PM)
quote: Stay out of other adults lives, whenever possible, at the very least until and unless they invite you in - and sometimes even then. Geesh. Has everyone gone crazy on here? I believe that is exactly what I was doing. Even though the post on here CLEARLY indicates an "invitation" in. And, as you so CLEARLY pointed out, and which reinforces what I was saying, your "ex", or whatever you want to call him, didn't acually cause you ill harm. You just made a bad decision. If I interpret your post correctly. And, that was my point to the OP. If he didn't intentionally harm you, or abuse you, or deliberately lie to you and/or deceive you, then he is just an asshole "to you," and perhaps not valid enough to go running around trying to ruin his reputation. Hence, my "haste" in giving any advice on the situation without more information. Can you people read? WTF!!!

tsatske -> RE: advise....please (3/13/2008 7:28:49 PM)
I am sorry, Mistress Venus. It is true that I quoted you and built my comments around what you said, but I meant my 'advice', such as it is, to be aimed at the OP. I apologize for seeming to be telling you to 'stay out of others lives'. That is, in fact, exactly what you were already advising. And I can clearly see why you took my post to be directed at you - it looked, and read, exactly as if it were. My apologies.

stella41b -> RE: advise....please (3/14/2008 3:08:56 PM)
Being honest I would move on and just accept that it didn't work out. Who's fault it is and why - is that really important? It's over, gone, yesterday, past, history. You write 'I discovered he was nothing as he said he was..' - which means? If you are sure you were deceived, then what does it matter? You cannot build any sort of relationship without trust. It takes two people to start a relationship and two people to end it. If you were deceived as you claimed, then there never really was a relationship to begin with, or was there? Why prolong the agony? Why create an unnecessary drama? Why not just move on, be responsible for yourself, and let him and whoever he's trying to start a relationship be responsible for what happens between them?

CelticPrince -> RE: advise....please (3/14/2008 7:09:48 PM)
quote: what would you do? soul, there is not much you can or should do, except hone your own skills to spot it early on. CP

SteelofUtah -> RE: advise....please (3/14/2008 7:52:13 PM)
If this were the REALLY REALLY BAD ADVICE Thread I would say stalk him and try to contact alll the women he contacts of make a Profile that bashes him openly but all that would do is get you banned from the site. Rather, I would suggest that you move on and be glad you are no longer that EASY girl. Steel

eyesopened -> RE: advise....please (3/15/2008 2:44:02 AM)
Wouldn't it be nice to live in a world where there aren't any Nigerian bank scams, internet phishing, door-ro-door roofing contractors? A "con" gets its name from 'confidence' from people who are good at gaining the confidence of others in order to steal from them. It happens everywhere. All a person can do is be aware that such things exist. Blacklisting? Most people have at least one ex who would give a less than stellar reference. Think about it. What if, during the warm-fuzzy-gooey stage of your relationship this guy's ex approached you to tell you what a tool he is... if he hadn't yet been a tool with you, you might easily dismiss her as being just jealous, just being the total bitch he warned you she was... see? There's really nothing you can do but i will advise this: Do not look backward unless that's the direction you wish to travel. Look forward instead.

Owner4SexSlave -> RE: advise....please (3/15/2008 3:52:15 AM)
OH come on gang, whatever happened to the taste of good old fashioned sweet revenge... Have you thought about creating a fake profile, scheduling a motel room meet and having the rubber gloves and Krazy Glue Ready? LOL... I'm making a joke here. Though it would be interesting, if he showed up to meet somebody for coffee, then after a few minutes you and this other slave show up and are introduced to him as best friends. Think would be some form of embarsment or mild humilation involved in something like this happening. Basically, whatever you do! Make certain you don't cause anybody any real harm. Then again, you might enjoy your time doing something else and simply saying Fuck it. There are some things that simply are not worth the time and engery.

DesFIP -> RE: advise....please (3/15/2008 12:01:06 PM)
You're 53 and you haven't learned better screening techniques? Beyond that, you could list where you are and say you welcome other local subs to contact you so you can tell them about all the bad guys in the area.

GreedyTop -> RE: advise....please (3/15/2008 2:26:45 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: DesFIP You're 53 and you haven't learned better screening techniques? Beyond that, you could list where you are and say you welcome other local subs to contact you so you can tell them about all the bad guys in the area. snicker

Daddysredhead -> RE: advise....please (3/15/2008 3:01:35 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: colouredin quote: ORIGINAL: Jeffff Ignore Him. You can't save the whole world and you shouldn't try. Besides the guy you found to be a supposed master, may be anothers dream Jeff Yup I agree here one mans heaven and all that, just have to learn from your mistakes Im afraid not much else you can do. I have to third this advice. Just cut your losses and move on.

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