Lockit -> RE: tribute (3/14/2008 3:14:34 PM)
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I am not a pro dominant. I have nothing against them and in fact am thankful that they are there, providing a service that I do not wish to provide to some I wouldn’t wish to be involved with. (That doesn’t mean all clients, but some of them.) I won’t go into all the things I think here or point out things that have been pointed out over and over on these threads. I will however, say what I think in an area I haven’t seen covered as much. How many submissive’s are sincere? I have seen many study and learn dominant’s and the way of things by reading what dominant’s say and how they function. They perfect their art of game playing and getting what they want. They run around contacting every dominant they can and then hold out that relationship, 24/7 real life tidbit like an appetizer, trying to claim they are sincere and want that final goal above all other things. What they want is not to have to do anything that would include commitment, honesty, ethic’s, honor or a long term anything unless it is unaccountable play time. To be a responsible dominant, we put in a lot of time, effort, energy and a lot of ourselves, getting to know someone, learning them enough to work that ever wonderful mind fuck or that wonderfully painful passion play. In a dating process, for lack of a better word at the moment, not many would expect payment for their time. BUT…What? Are we expected to give, give, give in order to get, when one isn’t sincere and there is no for sure way to know that with a good player until we have wasted a lot of our time and self? I am… lol… rethinking that tribute thing! However it is defined! LOL Okay, maybe not… but it sure would be nice to find a way to be assured that the submissive is just as accountable and honorable as I am. I have learned to not be fooled by imposters but that too takes time quite often. But there are those that can slip by and the many other post from dominant’s talking of their disappointment after a long period of time learning a submissive, only to have them fail to be what they presented, is enough to prove to me, that it is a common game we all need ways to cope with. Payment might be one of those ways for some. There are those that just wish to take advantage of submissive’s, but there are also submissive’s that only wish to take advantage of a dominant.
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