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subby2008 -> Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 6:18:37 PM)

Hello everyone
I would like to know how much time people spend in an average week playing?
I have heard of some people in this lifestyle that spend 4 hours at a stretch sometimes playing.
Also those same people may average say 15 hours a week.
Also I have heard of some women that sometimes can have 10 orgasms in one day.
When i say playing I would define that as any sexual or sensual activity vanilla or bdsm
I'm curious to know if this is common or unusual,Thanks for your help.



TreasureKY -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 6:33:33 PM)

I suspect you'd get a wide range of answers to this, and honestly, I would think that most people will even vary widely from week to week.  Life's funny that way.

That is, if anyone is even able to answer.  I don't think I'm unusual, but I don't keep track of the time Firm and I spend "engaged".  [image]http://www.collarchat.com/image/s4.gif[/image]



Phin -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 6:42:46 PM)


quote:

ORIGINAL: subby2008

Also I have heard of some women that sometimes can have 10 orgasms in one day.

I can personally attest to this one, I played with one woman that would cum literaly by looking at her right. (I am not exagerating on this) I would bet in our 2 hour play session she had 30-40 orgasms (yes one every 4 to 5 minutes)

I have had play session to streach out for several hours, now these were not impact scenes, but still some kind of Ds or SM play was involved the entire time.

Nice first post, enjoy your stay. It wont take long to get rid of that pesky ice cream cone over there...



SteelofUtah -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 7:21:11 PM)

The girl and I play when it comes about.

She says I sexually satisfy her but I can only say what she says because I can only assume that I do I do not know for certain. (I think I do though)

Sexually she makes me curl my toes and stop breathing.

God I love that lil minx.

As Always

Steel



Leatherist -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 7:25:48 PM)

I'm more interested in the sensual experience. If orgasms happen, they do.

But they are not the goal.



SteelofUtah -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 7:27:19 PM)

Agreed Connection is more benificial than ejaculation. My Opinion anyway.

Steel



Leatherist -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 7:29:07 PM)

People tend to forget that nerve pulses are a transitory thing.

What they do to our internal landscape is more lasting.



PsyVamp -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 7:29:11 PM)

This is my one thought OP.. when you say "play", how are you defining it?

Do you mean any type of BDSM activity?  Do you mean all M/s activity?  Do you mean things that end in sexual release?

When he kneels at my feet to remove my boots ... do you count that?

Lady Jag



Leatherist -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 7:36:34 PM)

There is such a huge range that is covered in this-that most beginners DO only focus on the more mundane sexual aspects-at first. Things eventually broaden out with some hands on experience. And not just of a genital nature.[;)]



azropedntied -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 7:38:06 PM)

Lady Jag same thing i was thinking , like when a task is given in D/s ?plans made for the up and coming weekend ?the act itself IE flogging  bondage bdsm etc ?I think it is always interconnected .Including the visual of having ones boots removed ,grasping the thigh highs ,feeling their texture ,removal ,feeling the warmth and slightly sweaty leg once the boots have become removed ...ooh my see i got cought up in the simple visual of a Dommes boots does that too count on my time card .I sure hope so [:D]



CalifChick -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 7:40:00 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

I'm more interested in the sensual experience. If orgasms happen, they do.

But they are not the goal.


It's official.  I now must block Leatherist.

Cali



Leatherist -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 7:41:50 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: CalifChick

quote:

ORIGINAL: Leatherist

I'm more interested in the sensual experience. If orgasms happen, they do.

But they are not the goal.


It's official.  I now must block Leatherist.

Cali


 
Bye bye![:D]



subby2008 -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 7:44:42 PM)

Yes I would include everything in the definition that relats to sexual activity either direct or indirect aside from talking about it of course.

I was really trying to see if the 4 hour sessions and 15 hours a week are an exageration or not.

So I didn't want to neccesarily know what you did personally but what you may have observed in others'

Thanks for all the replies so far :)



faerytattoodgirl -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 7:46:57 PM)

ZERO...but then i have no Mistress [sm=river.gif]



Leatherist -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 7:48:12 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: subby2008

Yes I would include everything in the definition that relats to sexual activity either direct or indirect aside from talking about it of course.

I was really trying to see if the 4 hour sessions and 15 hours a week are an exageration or not.

So I didn't want to neccesarily know what you did personally but what you may have observed in others'

Thanks for all the replies so far :)


Well, four hours is about right from my perspective. The actual sm part is around an hour-Teasing and bondage leading up to it-burying my cock in a tight ass until I get off (and the girl usually does as well-they tend to get all excited by then)-then aftercare.  A domination scene can last for days.

Depends on how imaginitive you are.



kallisto -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 7:49:00 PM)

I think it depends on how each one defines "play".   I also think it will vary depending on other things going on in life.   Playing to me can be as simple as a thought provoking idea planted in my mind that I go back to during the day, a few touches, words, or little actions  or as complex as well planned, well executed scene.    



Madame4a -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 7:52:17 PM)

quote:

When he kneels at my feet to remove my boots ... do you count that?



that counts in my book... makes me wet when the boi gets down and does anything to my boots.. I think I even have a pic in my profile of her putting on my boots...

others might disagree... I think what you've said though shows the clear problem with trying to define "play" ...



catize -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 8:02:20 PM)

Few would believe me if I gave out the numbers….but no, 4 hour play sessions and 10 orgasms are NOT an exaggeration.



stella41b -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 8:16:49 PM)

Time for another song parody

(original - The Kinks http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=Hz64hWng2vM )

So tired, tired of playing
Tired of playing with you
So tired, tired of playing
Tired of playing with you

I was a lonely sub
Trolling Collarme profiles till I met you
But sixty hours we've now been playing
I'm totally knackered
What can I do?

You're the Dom, and you can do what you want
Do what you like, but no more things from your toybox
Please, I'm feeling like fainting

'Cos I'm so tired, tired of playing
Tired of playing with you

I was a lonely sub
Trolling Collarme profiles till I met you
But sixty hours now we've been playing
I'm totally knackered
What can I do?

You're the Dom, and you can do what you want
Do what you like, but no more things from your toybox
Please I feel like I'm fainting

'Cos I'm so tired, tired of playing
Tired of playing with you....



KnightofMists -> RE: Question for experienced lifestylers (3/14/2008 8:32:53 PM)

it's not the quantity that matters... but the quality....

but oh man it's amazing when one has quality in large quantities.

I can't say exactly how often I play... but I would say it averages more than once a day but less than two.



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