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RE: Grrr.... - 3/15/2008 12:04:28 PM

lovewithoutfear

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Fast reply...

ProlificNeeds wrote,
"I don't really enjoy my partner being annoying on purpose. ... I don't see how my partner trying to drive me into a bad mood helps anything though."

And DesFIP wrote:
"If he does something that seriously annoys me, then he can't be upset when I'm irritated and short and totally non arousable. He can't have it both ways."

And I reply:
Actually there is a type of guy who will do this, just because he can, pushing things like this past the point where they are funny/entertaining/ engaging in the D/s sense (which they can be if handled right)...setting the girl up to be pissed off then telling her she has no sense of humor/can't take a little kidding or disciplining her for her mood. I've been around those types, and if it's that type of behavior and context, I call it abuse and recommend finding a relationship with someone more secure and more mature. Emotional sadism does not cut it with me.

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RE: Grrr.... - 3/15/2008 7:39:01 PM

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I call it abuse and recommend finding a relationship with someone more secure and more mature.

I didn't find what the OP described to be anything near "abuse."
It was annoyingly fun.
A love/hate kind of thing.
I didn't see her discription as abusive at all.
And, as for the scenario you describe, there are LOTS of couples that really get into that type of play. Induce your expression of displeasure so you can be reprimanded. Although it CAN be abusive. It can also be a fulfilling dynamic between two people. And, most often is in the context of WIITWD.
But I see your point. Just don't think this is that situation.
I will let the OP resond for her opinion as I can not speak for her. I just don't see it that way.

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RE: Grrr.... - 3/15/2008 7:56:25 PM

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I used to snap the waistbands of thier plastic pants when they passed by. And pulled out the back of the diaper and peered down the asscrack-to make wisecracks.

And that was just before breakfast.

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RE: Grrr.... - 3/15/2008 8:26:41 PM

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This sounds a lot like what happened to me last night.

Him: hits me on the head with a roll of paper towels.
Me: Don’t hit me.
Him: repeats the action.
Me: Don’t hit me.
Him: does it again.
Me: Don’t hit me on the head.
Him: hits me on the arm.

Result a tickle fight where I got pinned. It’s all done in good nature fun for us. (Through I was finding being hit on the head annoying.) Then again he says that I do a lot of things which are “evil” to him. By the way I’m the dominant party in the relationship. So it's not just a dom thing, it's a people thing.

I do find this to be part of the whole “I like you so I’m going to pull on your pig tail” childhood behavior. After all people don’t really grow up we just get bigger toys.

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RE: Grrr.... - 3/15/2008 9:13:09 PM

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She wasn't saying the op was being abused, She said she knew people who'd annoy you to make you mad then non consentually blame you for having no sense of humor and pushish you for being mad. THAT is abuse to her, .

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I call it abuse and recommend finding a relationship with someone more secure and more mature.

I didn't find what the OP described to be anything near "abuse."
I didn't see her discription as abusive at all.

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RE: Grrr.... - 3/15/2008 9:35:39 PM

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No, he doesn't push it to the point of anger. Actually, just to the edge of it...lol. It's all in good fun. For him.

He's not setting me up to be a bitch about it, he just wants to get my goat.

The only truely fun part for me is the sheer enjoyment he seems to get out of it. It's irritating as hell (you can replace tickling, butt slapping, etc. to the equation), but he really means it as play. His timing is usually good enough that I either end up cheering up about something, or we were already in a playful mood. My Lord knows me well.

I've been with the jackass that acts like a jackass then blames you when his jackassedness pisses you off. My patience is done with that. If this were like that, it would have been fixed a long time ago. This is meant in fun, as was the thread.

SunNMoon...this sounds like my kitchen on an average night. lmao. Now we've gone and given him new ideas....lol.

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RE: Grrr.... - 3/15/2008 11:29:09 PM

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I poke her Tit.

Give her But Hickies

Spank her inner Thigh (Really Hard)

Reach Over Pull her hair just to give her a Razzberry on her neck

wake her up my tweaking her nipples.

Bop her on the head with the Dildo (A favorite of mine)

It's always in fun and always I KEEP doing it because it pisses her off. But don't pretend you don't do things JUST like it . Like asking every 26 seconds "Do you love me?" or asking "Can I just stare at you Penis and watch it move" For all the things we do to drive you nuts you find new and creative ways to make us nuts too so why are you complaining I would poke you in the boob too.

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RE: Grrr.... - 3/16/2008 8:14:03 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: lovewithoutfear

Fast reply...

ProlificNeeds wrote,
"I don't really enjoy my partner being annoying on purpose. ... I don't see how my partner trying to drive me into a bad mood helps anything though."

And DesFIP wrote:
"If he does something that seriously annoys me, then he can't be upset when I'm irritated and short and totally non arousable. He can't have it both ways."

And I reply:
Actually there is a type of guy who will do this, just because he can, pushing things like this past the point where they are funny/entertaining/ engaging in the D/s sense (which they can be if handled right)...setting the girl up to be pissed off then telling her she has no sense of humor/can't take a little kidding or disciplining her for her mood. I've been around those types, and if it's that type of behavior and context, I call it abuse and recommend finding a relationship with someone more secure and more mature. Emotional sadism does not cut it with me.

Actually that phrase "can't you take a joke" used to get someone out of trouble is a deal breaker for me. Use it and I call them a coward to their face. And I don't have any time for those types. Passive aggressive, not willing to stand up for what they believe, assholes. The good thing about these types is they show their true colors immediately which means I've never wasted more than an hour on them.

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RE: Grrr.... - 3/16/2008 8:25:28 AM

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quote:

ORIGINAL: StormsSlave

SunNMoon...this sounds like my kitchen on an average night. lmao. Now we've gone and given him new ideas....lol.

I’m just glad to hear that I’m not the only one being “annoyed” by their partner. I’m going to steal ideas from this tread to use to get back at him. Whahaha

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RE: Grrr.... - 3/16/2008 9:44:01 AM

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I'm not sure if it's a D/s thing, or a Dom(me) thing, or just an us thing. Does your partner deliberately annoy you, or do you deliberately annoy him/her, and if you do, why? What do you get out of it?

No, he does not deliberately annoy me... pester me and bug me, yeah... but we are both enjoying those moments.

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RE: Grrr.... - 3/16/2008 9:51:30 AM

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We are a couple. Of course there are little things we do to deliberately annoy the other. Its part of spending that much time together.
Angel does it as well. When you are together that much, you are going to get at each other. Fox has his voices. Angel has nis little names ad such he calls me. For them, I just crack jokes and correct them when they use words wrong, or point out mistakes. Not serious enough to make anyone angry, but we get annoyed, then either fight over it, or someone gets smacked in the arm (Angel) or ass (Fox).

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RE: Grrr.... - 3/16/2008 1:24:52 PM

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Yes, he will do something that he wants to do whether we are annoyed by it or not. If he perceives that it annoys us or that we do not like it then he gets even more pleasure out of the act. As a sadist he enjoys what he perceives as annoyance, discomfort, pain, etc.

If something we do annoys him, then we are usually told to stop and not do it again.

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RE: Grrr.... - 3/16/2008 2:41:14 PM

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Sir keeps me naked just so he can grab, manipulate, poke, fondle, touch, stroke, slap, and just reach out and touch me. Love it. After 13 years of marriage to a man who only ever touched me when he wanted to have sex, non- (mostly) sexual contact is just wonderful! And being naked makes it so much easier.