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Treasure3 -> unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 2:54:55 PM)
This may sound like a silly problem, but it is driving me bonkers, so I am asking if others have ever had a similar situation and what they did to overcome it. Over the past six months or so, it seems I have steadily been losing the ability to orgasm by myself. I can try and try and do all the things I used to do and many of the things Master does to me, but unless I am with him, or he is on the phone with me, I just can't get there anymore. What could have caused this?

LuckyAlbatross -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:03:18 PM)
Training, focus, attention. I can assume that neither you or your master did not intend for this and that you're encouraged to orgasm and enjoy sexual fun on your own? I'd say either have your master order you to imagine him being with you when you're on your own, or figure out exactly what focus point is happening when you are together and orgasming and either lower that down a few notches, or push it up if you can on your own. But don't get too stressed about it. Anything you can train yourself into, you can train yourself out of, or into something new.

Taintedblood -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:03:35 PM)
To me it dosn't sound silly as i feel i experience something similar - i think it could be to do with the connection i have with 'Daddy'

Treasure3 -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:10:17 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross Training, focus, attention. I can assume that neither you or your master did not intend for this and that you're encouraged to orgasm and enjoy sexual fun on your own? I'd say either have your master order you to imagine him being with you when you're on your own, or figure out exactly what focus point is happening when you are together and orgasming and either lower that down a few notches, or push it up if you can on your own. But don't get too stressed about it. Anything you can train yourself into, you can train yourself out of, or into something new. Yes, I am encouraged to enjoy orgasm as often as I wish on my own. Only a handful of times has he required that I abstain for a few days before seeing him. We have tried with him ordering me, and while it helps, it can still take, literaly, more than an hour of trying, and I just don't always have that kind of time. It becomes too much trouble, if you know what I mean. Thank you for the suggestions. When we are together, I don't focus on me at all, really. I'm definitely aware of the stimulation he provides, but my focus is on him, his hands, his touch. I don't know if that makes any sense, but it is the best I can think of to explain it.

Treasure3 -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:13:46 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Taintedblood To me it dosn't sound silly as i feel i experience something similar - i think it could be to do with the connection i have with 'Daddy' Yes, I think it definitely has something to do with the connection I have with my Master. This may sound completely off the wall, but I have always felt that I was just keeping my body for the right person, that it wasn't really mine. He turned out to be the right one!

Taintedblood -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:20:11 PM)
I can relate to what you are saying in a sort of way - it's like he knows my body inside out and is inside my head and there is an ultimate feeling of closeness even if its rough - but my problem is my orgasms seem to be getting more and more violent with him and i need to recover as i physically shake and i think i tend to black out almost after some of them

Treasure3 -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:26:51 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Taintedblood I can relate to what you are saying in a sort of way - it's like he knows my body inside out and is inside my head and there is an ultimate feeling of closeness even if its rough - but my problem is my orgasms seem to be getting more and more violent with him and i need to recover as i physically shake and i think i tend to black out almost after some of them :: nods :: Yep. I've passed out once, and have come close on a few occasions, from the number of orgasms he gives me. But then, one is never enough with him. I can't remember a single time when less than five was acceptable. I didn't have any idea my body was capable of that before I met him!

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:29:45 PM)
you should be happy he can get it up....be glad as other men have a HARD (pun intended) time just in doing that [8\|][8\|][8\|]

Taintedblood -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:29:48 PM)
how long have you been with your Master? I kinda know what you mean

Treasure3 -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:36:38 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Taintedblood how long have you been with your Master? I kinda know what you mean We've been together almost two years now.

Taintedblood -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:38:05 PM)
And the problem has only started to occur this past 6 months? has anything changed within the dynamics of your relationship or did something happen 6 months ago?

Treasure3 -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:38:10 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl you should be happy he can get it up....be glad as other men have a HARD (pun intended) time just in doing that [8\|][8\|][8\|] I'm not complaining at all about when I am with him!! uh-uh This slave knows she has it good!! The problem comes in when we aren't together, and since this is still a LDR, that is the majority of the time.

faerytattoodgirl -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:39:54 PM)
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Treasure3 -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:40:04 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Taintedblood And the problem has only started to occur this past 6 months? has anything changed within the dynamics of your relationship or did something happen 6 months ago? Yes, it's mainly been in the past six months. We went from having some major communication problems to working those out about that time and I feel more connected than ever to him. Also, in January, I became his slave.

Treasure3 -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:41:19 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: faerytattoodgirl ya need the ever popular....faery licker! available for a limited time only... works with women only! orgasm guarentee in 15 mins or less or your money back! [sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif][sm=biggrin.gif] [:D]

Taintedblood -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:43:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Treasure3 quote: ORIGINAL: Taintedblood And the problem has only started to occur this past 6 months? has anything changed within the dynamics of your relationship or did something happen 6 months ago? Yes, it's mainly been in the past six months. We went from having some major communication problems to working those out about that time and I feel more connected than ever to him. Also, in January, I became his slave. Maybe it could be something from back at that time that triggered something in your brain i don't know congrats on becoming his slave :)

Treasure3 -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:47:23 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Taintedblood quote: ORIGINAL: Treasure3 quote: ORIGINAL: Taintedblood And the problem has only started to occur this past 6 months? has anything changed within the dynamics of your relationship or did something happen 6 months ago? Yes, it's mainly been in the past six months. We went from having some major communication problems to working those out about that time and I feel more connected than ever to him. Also, in January, I became his slave. Maybe it could be something from back at that time that triggered something in your brain i don't know congrats on becoming his slave :) Thank you. [:)]

Masternslave07 -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:47:54 PM)
My slave cannot orgasm without me either. I need to give her permission and/or be present. She will orgasm with other females as I watch, but would never be able to if I wasn't present. As we live together, that isn't really a problem. Why not have your Master give you permission to orgasm when you play without him there. I would bet that would do it.

Daddysredhead -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 3:51:52 PM)
Treasure, I understand a bit of what you are talking about. I have been in a relationship with Daddy for almost 5 years and in the last few months, I sometimes have difficulty on my own hitting the target. If I really want to get there and it's taking longer to have an orgasm, I sometimes have to "hear" Him in my head telling me to go ahead. It's kinda weird, but it happens at times. I hope that you can get past this bump in the road. Sometimes they just train us too well. [;)]

Treasure3 -> RE: unable to orgasm without Master? (3/15/2008 4:27:41 PM)
quote: ORIGINAL: Masternslave07 My slave cannot orgasm without me either. I need to give her permission and/or be present. She will orgasm with other females as I watch, but would never be able to if I wasn't present. As we live together, that isn't really a problem. Why not have your Master give you permission to orgasm when you play without him there. I would bet that would do it. I know I have permission anytime I want, but perhaps if he were to actually say it, it would click in my brain. Worth a shot, anyway. :)

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