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Advice please.... - 3/16/2008 1:13:53 PM   
curious2explore1


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Status: offline 		Hi there...just a question I have problems swallowing my partners load when he comes in my mouth and I just think its gross but I want to please him in doing so...so I was wondering if anyone had any advice for me..about this tid bit.....does anyone have any tricks or advice.....I really think I have a phobia of swallowing cum.....I dont know...I just want to please him and make him happy....thanks I would really appreciate the feedback...... ;-)
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RE: Advice please.... - 3/16/2008 1:23:49 PM   
SteelofUtah


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You can tell when he is about to come and when he does shove it as far back in your mouth as you can (Breathe through your NOSE~Note added by Steel~) and just start swallowing. You may gag the first few times but eventually you will get the hang of it. When you do it this way you don't taste much of it at all and it is over so quick you hardly know it happened at all.

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RE: Advice please.... - 3/16/2008 1:23:52 PM   
LuckyAlbatross


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Status: offline 		If you don't really have a specific feeling beyond "gross" my main advice is just to suck it back into the throat and gulp it down as quickly as possible.  Practice should get you less sensitive to it over time.

You could also ask if he's open to not swallowing- it's not something I do because of disease risk and so far I've never had anyone say that they feel the experience is less.  But some guys really do get off on the deep throat/take it in/sharing of liquid essence/force deal.  Talk it over with him. 

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RE: Advice please.... - 3/16/2008 3:27:11 PM   
windchymes


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Status: offline 		That was going to be my advice, too....take his dick as far to the back of your throat as possible when he cums.  You have fewer taste buds back there and you won't taste the unpleasantness as strongly.

The added benefit to that is, he'll think you're gobbling him up and can't get enough of him!

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RE: Advice please.... - 3/16/2008 3:57:27 PM   
Cradyn


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Status: offline 		hard to answer this....Specially considering I like to play with it afterwards :D Body Paint, add a lil food color and your set hehe

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RE: Advice please.... - 3/16/2008 5:04:54 PM   
Daddyslilpookie


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Status: offline 		LOL, I agree with what the other posts say take it to the back of your throat and just swallow. If you don't like the taste maybe he should eat more fruits and veggies that helps with the taste of cum.

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RE: Advice please.... - 3/16/2008 5:43:08 PM   
gcarlos


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ORIGINAL: windchymes
take his dick as far to the back of your throat as possible when he cums. 


Ok..agreed, but just some advice regarding that.  Be sure he his penis is not rubbing on the top of your mouth, because when he cums, it could end up going into your nose!  <yes...i know this from experience>

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RE: Advice please.... - 3/16/2008 6:04:19 PM   
katie978


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Status: offline 		  I suggest you try to get over the "omgomgomg, that's totally gross!" reaction. It can't be a turn-on to him that you're acting so childish about it. As far as how to manage it, try keeping a cup of juice next to the bed to wash out the taste? Or sucking on some mints while you're going at it for his pleasure and so the strong mint taste overwhelms anything else?

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RE: Advice please.... - 3/16/2008 6:13:14 PM   
Emperor1956


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Status: offline 		Not to be the total buzz kill, but in light of the recent CDC studies that show a 25% std infection rate in American teen age girls, someone should note that vigorous thrusting, back of the throat oral is implicated in higher rates of std transmission, notably syphilis, herpes and HIV.   I'd hope that the OP and her partner were tested and fluid bonded, but the amazing lack of such precautions in the hetero D/s community makes me doubt it.
 
Be safe.
 
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RE: Advice please.... - 3/16/2008 7:06:41 PM   
LaMspeach


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Status: offline 		How about trying a different mind set? Instead of thinking oh my god this is gross ect....  Why not think of it as a reward or privilege to be allowed to swallow your Masters cum. Think of it as an act of love and about how you will have something of his with you at all times.  

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RE: Advice please.... - 3/16/2008 8:04:19 PM   
Littlepita


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Status: offline 		I once had a hard time with swallowing as well. Not because I found it gross, but because it was just hard for me to swallow his come. What I would do is have a glass of water near by and take a big drink right after he came to get it all done. Eventually you will get used to swallowing and won't need the water. I do agree that you have to have a positive attitude about what your doing.

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RE: Advice please.... - 3/16/2008 8:47:03 PM   
junecleaver


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Status: offline 		Breathing and keeping it at the back of your tongue while you swallow.

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RE: Advice please.... - 3/16/2008 10:23:52 PM   
SimplyMichael


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  so far I've never had anyone say that they feel the experience is less. 


LA, the experience is not just less, it isn't even head in my opinion.

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RE: Advice please.... - 3/16/2008 11:10:51 PM   
Bound2One


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Status: offline 		Beyond making sure it hits the back of your throat, there really isn't much more to say but take a deep breath and swallow hard.  Don't let your mind focus on what it is you are doing if it grosses you out.  Focus, instead, on how much pleasure you are bringing your Dominant.  With enough practice, you should be able to make it easier for yourself.  Oh, and the glass of water by the bed is a great idea too, to sip after you're done. 

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RE: Advice please.... - 3/17/2008 9:39:59 AM   
toservez


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ORIGINAL: SteelofUtah

**The girl asked to reply to this since she is the same way**

You can tell when he is about to come and when he does shove it as far back in your mouth as you can (Breathe through your NOSE~Note added by Steel~) and just start swallowing. You may gag the first few times but eventually you will get the hang of it. When you do it this way you don't taste much of it at all and it is over so quick you hardly know it happened at all.

andi ~ Steel's girl


Like others I recommend this as the best direct way of dealing with it.

Two other things to think about:

1) Try concentrating on completing the task by focusing on the thought you would be pleasing your Master and a strong act of showing your devotion and commitment. Not saying that should magically do the trick but should be able to push you farther down the path.

2) Be systematic and slowly tear down your fear or aversion to the taste. Instead of the whole load try letting him cum somewhere else and taking a finger tip of cum and tasting it and then work up from there. In the end to train your brain to realize it is just no big deal and the taste is not either.


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RE: Advice please.... - 3/17/2008 12:33:54 PM   
adoracat


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Status: offline 		if you cant...you cant.

i have times when i cant swallow WATER.  it literally sticks in my throat, like a huge painful knot that wont go down.  so i respectfully told Daddy this, and he gave me permission to not try and fail any longer.

kitten

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RE: Advice please.... - 3/17/2008 12:34:19 PM   
postulant


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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

You could also ask if he's open to not swallowing- it's not something I do because of disease risk and so far I've never had anyone say that they feel the experience is less.  But some guys really do get off on the deep throat/take it in/sharing of liquid essence/force deal.  Talk it over with him. 


May I ask, do you mean that due to the risk of disease, swallowing is not something that you do?  Or due to the risk of disease, you don't give head at all?

p.


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RE: Advice please.... - 3/17/2008 8:04:26 PM   
hopelessfool


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Status: offline 		Op, think of your favorite flavor, cherry, strawberry,kiwi... And either get a lipgloss, a flavored lube or even a container of flavored gel candy.  While they might make the experience a bit sticky, leaves a taste in the mouth that is pleasent. You like cherry you dont like cum, you use cherry while you swallow the cum you think of something you like with something you dont. After a while you wont need the flavor and do it simply because you have learned to like it.


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RE: Advice please.... - 3/18/2008 10:05:11 AM   
littleone35


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Status: offline 		it was heard my first few times but now it does not bother me.  I think it is just a mindset don't think this is gross think of it of another way you are providing service to your Master.

Matt's littleone

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RE: Advice please.... - 3/18/2008 10:12:24 AM   
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ORIGINAL: curious2explore1

Hi there...just a question I have problems swallowing my partners load when he comes in my mouth and I just think its gross but I want to please him in doing so...so I was wondering if anyone had any advice for me..about this tid bit.....does anyone have any tricks or advice.....I really think I have a phobia of swallowing cum.....I dont know...I just want to please him and make him happy....thanks I would really appreciate the feedback...... ;-)
 Hi curious, what do you do when you are out to dinner or at someones home and you eat something that totally grosses you out?Are you rude enough to lean over and spit it back onto the plate or do you paste a smile on your face and swallow it? That is how I dealt with it. Never in a million years would I spit out food or drink because I didn't like it. I may quietly 'cough' into a napkin but even that would be a rarity. I would not offend or be tacky enough to let them know it repulsed me, I would simply swallow what was in my mouth. Perhaps you can keep a glass of something strong tasting nearby, a strong wine or whatever it takes to cover up the taste of what you swallowed. I also look at it this way, how would it feel for the other person to see you go green and gross out about it. I have an overdeveloped sense when it comes to offending others so by concentrating on how it makes them feel, makes a difference to me.

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