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ORIGINAL: probablyknowme

I wanted to chime in here, and tell you that when I was learning about the lifestyle, I took the time to figure out what skills I had to bring into a D/s relationship. I then worked on perfecting those skills. I decided what skills I would like to possess, that might be appealing to a potential Dominant, and went about learning those skills. When I wanted to learn the Gorean slave positions I learned them, practiced them, the same with cooking, wine selection, flower arrangement amoung other things. Besides, the classes I was taking kept me busy and grounded which worked to counter the submissive frenzies I had at first.

Probably not traning that most people refer to, but still something to think about if you don't have a Dominant to train you in how he wants to be served. Make yourself as pleasing and skilled in your areas of interests, so that you can be pleasing when you find the Dominant for you.

kat

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ORIGINAL: TracyTaken

Just more proof of my utter failure as a submissive.  <sigh> 

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ORIGINAL: Leatherist

But a Dominant may not be interested in girly girl stuff you all are.

My list would include-carpentry-wood, leather, and metal working.....

Horticulture- painting of all kinds, drawing-business management..

I could really give a rat's ass about tea ceremonies or dancing.

How USEFUL are you in day to day living?

And I don't mean just doing HOUSEWORK.

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I choose to differ- training can be far more than simply "learning what I like."  ...

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ORIGINAL: LuckyAlbatross

I choose to differ- training can be far more than simply "learning what I like."  If you want to know the difference, you need to have known my partner three years ago when he could barely say the word no to a dominant female and not feel anguish for a week over it and today when he can, at least on occasion, vehemently hold true to his stance knowing very well I'm against it.

All it would take is two seconds to say "Stand up for yourself, I want you to honestly tell me how you feel and stay true to yourself."

Anyone think that's ALL it really takes to train someone to have and express self confidence amongst a lifetime of TRAINING to the contrary?

Do you really think all it took for me to stop being an insecure self-destructive perfectionist slut into an empowered easy-going self-aware whore was to say "Oh yeah, I need to just let it go and be true to myself"?

We are trained, in everything to how to use the toilet to how to write our names to how to treat a woman on a date- and it's far more involved than just saying "I want this, now go do it."

As social animals, most of us do better in most arenas with a "training buddy" whether that's a dom or whatever (remember, most doms need regular ongoing training as well).  But ultimately we all need self-discipline to make any training worthwhile and some people work better in some ways when it's on their own.

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ORIGINAL: ownedgirlie


In addition to being trained to be a better person and slave, I've received on the job training, software training, executive management training, fitness training, financial management training, etc.

So yes, I would say I find training to be useful.

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ORIGINAL: DesFIP
The more expert you want to be at something, the more likely it is you need training. But we don't need to be able to win a competition at everything. You can make a good dinner in 30 minutes without it being one that would get you hired at a 5star restaurant. Some things aren't worth the effort taken.